Moving Girls and Rewarding Them

[Tramp]

I know moving girls/getting compliance from them ups the chances of getting a date. I realized where I was going wrong on this...

Most of the times I move girls, it gets awkward.

Now I don't know why it goes awkward exactly, but I think it's because I don't know what to do when we move. For example, I met a blonde girl at Target. I had her move with me, going to look at sunglasses. Once we got to the sunglasses aisle, I didn't know what to really do from there, so I just resumed conversation with her. It wasn't so bad that time, but here's a doozy one.

I met a girl at Zumiez, moved her with me just to go sit down. We sat down, and man did she look sexy in those jean shorts. I had her scoot closer to me, and then she told me about how she's not looking for anything right now. I replied with "Don't worry, there's plenty of time before we get married" and she laughed. But when I tried to get any compliance from there, nothing. She refused to get a coffee with me or move with me again.

Almost every time I move a girl, it goes bad and I never hear from them again. I'm actually starting to get dates with girls that don't move with me more.

How do you move a girl without it going awkward, what makes it awkward, and how do you reward her for moving with you? How to handle moving girls in general?

 

[Richard]

Moving girls is actually quite beneficial, and can be done in a lot of ways. Lately, I've been approaching women, gauging their interest, building rapport, finding a connection, and then MOVING HER during a story... for a proper example, look at my latest FR: Valerie

Anyway, you have to move women after at least building some rapport, and building some initial connection because it eases tension and gets her interested in you. If the two of you connect on something she recognizes that you're like her in some ways, and is thus more willing to comply with you. Moving women has a variety of other components, but, I find that if you have decent fundamentals and can at least build an initial connection, you can move her. I won't cover the other X Factors to moving because they don't seem necessary, because, you're already moving women...

So, with you, I advise moving women in between a connection build, or in between thoughts, like so:
Her: "Haha, yes! I had the craziest vacation to Paraguay last year!"
Me: "Ohhh, so you like to travel then?"
Her: "Yes! I love it, don't you!?"
Me: "Actually yes... Why, just a couple months ago..." (pause) "Why don't we grab a seat over there? so I can tell you about the trip"
Her: "Okay"
and as you lead her, tell her the story,
Me with my hand on the small of her back: "Like i was saying, a couple months ago, I was actually in Italy studying abroad in the arts. " and blah blah blah

Continue talking as you move the girl, and build the connection as you lead her. When you two sit down, or when she complies to moving, continue to talk and build on whatever the two of you were talking about before you moved her.

As a side note, I find it best to start talking, then pause, and say something like "Hey, why don't we sit over there," or something along those lines...

-Hope this helps,
Richard

 

[Tramp]

Ok, I can already tell I was moving girls wrong from your conversation example.

I'll move girls just to move them, and not really worry about making it smooth. You make it smooth. I think it's because I'm still a bit new, so I just want to barrel through the interaction.

So question:
How do you move her when she doesn't ask anything about you, Zphix?

I see how to do it when she asks about you. You lead into your sentence, pause, move her. But i'll have some girls that never ask about me at all.

Awesome field report too man! I'm going to be reading it over and over to learn from you!

 

[Richard]

When a girl doesn't ask about you, what I do is ask a question that will require a lengthy response from her, and I generally only do this after light rapport/ banter, I usually move her while I'm in the middle of deep diving. So basically, follow the steps of "set up story, move her, continue story while moving her" do the same thing but replace your story with hers, and get her talking about the story or adventure while the two of you are walking, like so: (I'll stick with my original example)

Me: "You sound like an adventurous girl, do you do any traveling?"
Her: "Yes! Actually, I had the craziest vacation in Paraguay last year!"
Me: "Ohhh really! Tell me more!"
Her: "Okay, well, I was there on..." cut her off politely and move her now
Me: "Hey wait, why don't we go sit over there so we can relax, and you can tell me about your trip in comfort?"
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "So, as you were saying... you were there on..."
Her: "Ohhh yes! I was there on a business trip with the old company I worked for"... and she'll keep telling you more and more about it

This is how I generally move women, after deep diving, women are usually much more willing to comply, because, if she's willing to talk about herself during your deep dive, I find that she is interested enough to be moved, and comply with you. That being said though! You can gauge a girl's interest via her body language, if she opens her self up (her entire body is facing you), if she leans in to talk, if she doesn't mind you touching her while talking, if she does any number of things, you can gauge her interest, and move her even more quickly, or try for the mini-date (which I'm actually not that fond of, IDK why)

However, some dialogue will be banter, and you'll want to move her during brief slices of conversation. I like to move women right before a lengthy explanation, speech, or story (whatever you want to call it). Some women will not give a lengthy explanation, and will instead keep things short, and to the point (which can happen if she is interested in you). During times like this, I find it best to move women on a high point, and I personally move women if they engage in joking with me... like I did in this field report with Lori You'll see that I moved her (in this case, to my car) during some banter about a UFO.

Move women in between joking, and I'll usually transition into something more serious while moving her, as I did in the above field report. I went from joking about a UFO to asking about her major, transition into something serious during the move.

-Hope this helped,
Richard