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Moving Girls -- Move Them from Public to Private/Isolated

Oskar

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Real quick I want to share a realization I just had. It's better to meet a girl in public and then isolate her than it is to start out isolated. This is because it creates a sense of progress in the seduction, allows both of you to get more comfortable with one another, and can be used for you to showcase each other's social skills to one another. Beginning a date in relative privacy can leave greater room for doubt if you're not on your A-Game, as they aren't going to see any sort of preselection, while in public establishments (like coffee shops and bars) you can build some social proof and verify that you're as she sees you (awesome), even if only through your interactions with employees of the establishment. Thinking back on my recent past successes, they all involved moving from public to private, or private to public to private. This is tied in with the value in moving girls as soon as possible. Implicitly in that rule is that you should be continuously moving them towards more private situations. So the more public the start point, the more potentially exciting the seduction will become. Of course there are other ways to make for an exciting seduction, but why bother swimming upstream when the current will take you where you're trying to go? ;)
 

Chase

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Oskar-

Oskar said:
Real quick I want to share a realization I just had. It's better to meet a girl in public and then isolate her than it is to start out isolated. This is because it creates a sense of progress in the seduction, allows both of you to get more comfortable with one another, and can be used for you to showcase each other's social skills to one another. Beginning a date in relative privacy can leave greater room for doubt if you're not on your A-Game, as they aren't going to see any sort of preselection, while in public establishments (like coffee shops and bars) you can build some social proof and verify that you're as she sees you (awesome), even if only through your interactions with employees of the establishment. Thinking back on my recent past successes, they all involved moving from public to private, or private to public to private. This is tied in with the value in moving girls as soon as possible.

Great realization.

After picking up for a while, you'll tend to prefer approaching girls in public or semi-public situations and then moving them yourself to somewhere more secluded. Opening the girl sitting in the corner by herself robs you of the chance to move her somewhere more intimate, and can even make it feel like you're "cornering" her. At no point does she commit to the interaction; she's just there, and now you've joined her.

You can still do the "private to public to private" thing you mentioned, but here you'll tend to be fighting the flow of the interaction - it should be headed somewhere more intimate, and now you want to take it backwards and get more fun/open. Pretty much the only time I will take girls to the dance floor anymore is when I've met them already somewhere private in a bar or a nightclub and I need to get them to commit to the interaction with me because they're only half-in, half-out and I need them all the way in.

Even then, it's still easier when you start out public, then go private.

Of course, this might also be a screening effect - you only count the girls you met in public who sat down with you in private, whereas you're looking at ALL the girls you approached in private, receptive to you or not. You'll necessarily screen out the social-but-not-that-interested girls you meet in public since they won't come sit with you, but include the girls in private in your base of comparison.

Nevertheless, there does seem to be a clear "public-->private" > "private-->private" effect, and I don't think it's just sampling bias.

Chase
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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This is actually something I've never even thought about, but yes it does seem to be true.

Well spotted :)
 
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