Moving on after a (big) failure: how to speed up the process?

[lux7]

I was wondering, with girls it's relatively easy to say "there are many girls out there" because, as much as that one girl was a perfect fit, yes, there are many girls out there.

Other situations though, you might really have one or just a few chances.

Me, for example, I have a shot at a good job quite rarely.
Or take a guy reaching the final of a world cup. That's a once in a lifetime chance!

You can't build an abundance mentality for those occasions.

How do you personally cope with those, how do you move on, how do you stay upbeat in spite of the failure?

 

[Richard]

You move on by understanding that success and failure don't exist - only outcomes do.

Nothing has meaning until you create it.

With this in mind you choose to see "success" or "failure" (which I don't believe in).

If you miss a great job opportunity then it's experience, and it's preparation/motivation to not let the next one slip by. Or perhaps better, it's the motivation needed to start up your own business and be self-employed.

If you fail to make it to the finals of the world cup then be happy you made it to a world cup, and since you made it once - you can create the opportunity to do it again.

I'm not one to be a passive recipient to the world - I don't take things as they come, I create the opportunities I want. Because of that, I don't see anything as bad anymore, because I can always create a good.

-Richard

 

[Whizzy]

Perception has a lot to do with things too. Failures are just learning experiences in my eyes and are the stepping stones to getting better at anything. In the moment it might suck yeah, but in the long term it's just a tiny moment/event in our enormous lives