Moving on, new situation

[Greiz]

Hey, guys. I am in a situation like this: yesterday i had a party, there was one girl for which i felt a very strong emotional impulse, like wow. It seems that everything went at least good: she was positively reacting when i was speaking, she was keen on talking with me and etc. When we decided that we have to go to sleep, i said that we can sleep on one bed, but neither of us had any idea about fucking.
I mean, it was everything ok, we were tired, i just put my hand on her side, got very close to her and just slept like that. In the morning, like for first 30 minutes, she was a little bit colder with, but not that bad, i just saw that she wasn't actively reacting to my talking and stuff like that. But after that, seemed like it was smooth. So, ok, she left on the evening, i told her a little bit intriguing phrase, which was "i will give you an offer you can't refuse", she was very excited and reacted positively.
Ok, now: after like 3 hours i wrote to her that i want to meet her and she said that she "hates situations like these, where she don't know what to do ant what she wants", then i said that she can choose whatever she wants, and that i am not giving any pressure. And than she said that i am potentially pushing her, but in the same time she kind a wants to move on, like "not now, but soon".

So, guys, what thoughts and suggestions you can give me on this one?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Well you definitely should've fucked her when she slept in your bed with you... unless you are firmly in the friend zone a girl is going to expect you to make a move on her if you sleep in the same bed together and most likely WANTS you too.

I've made this mistake a number of times in my teenage years and I look back and still kick myself in the ass for being such an idiot.

Here's the deal. If a girl is going to sleep in the same bed as you, you're best move is to make a move and seal the deal with her otherwise she's going to see you as being a big ole pussy cat.

I would chalk this one up as a learning experience and go find new girls to sleep with.

-Rob

 

[Greiz]

I wouldn't say like that. You see, there wasn't any sexual vibe around us, i mean, there were some people in the room, because it was main area for partying. Ok, i didn't fuck her, there wasnt any circumstances for that, let's say it was impossible. What's next? How should i approach her? I need some advices ASAP, because i know that time is running very fast, because of the expiration date.. And i can't let this one to go away, i mean she is the first girl after my ex for which i felt that unbelievable feeling.

 

[Mr.Rob]

I guess if you want some actionable steps from here on out if I were you this is what I'd do.

1. Contact her and try and get her out on a date or agree to spend time with you one on one. If you can achieve this then have fun with her, kiss her, and pull her back to your place and escalate to sex from there.

If that doesn't work...

2. Engineer and manufacture a social situation in which the girl you want sees you having fun and getting attention/attraction from other girls so you can get pre-selection and have her possibly start chasing you. From here you will give each girl attention and then focus on pulling the girl you want out of the group and isolate her and escalate from there.

That's a rough gameplan.

If those don't work then move on and go find a better girl. Don't get hung up on one girl, that's weak and she's probably not as special as you think.

Good luck mate

 

[Greiz]

Rob, thanks for advice! I thought the same, that i should enginere and manufacture that social situation with other girls. What if i try with one of hers very good friend? Because i am chating with her, for like 3 weeks, and she keeps the conversation, she is interested in me. She is on student exchange program now, but she will be back before Christmas. On the other hand, today i wrote for the one i described, and she was like dead-end, not even single question for me, i ask, she answers mostly in a short manner and that's all, seems that she isn't giving a single fuck about me.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Yeah man if she's not replying back significantly it's probably over and the only way you can salvage it is to do option 2 that I talked about earlier. Get creative and see what you can do.

It's a pretty low odds that a social beginner would be able to pull it off but don't let that stop you, you might learn some cool shit.

I would also make it a priority to start meeting more women if this is a part of your life you want to get handled. Once you get it handled you won't have to worry about how to get one special girl to sleep with you because you'll have many awesome girls to sleep with.

-Rob

 

[Greiz]

You're definitely right, i agree with you 100%. Another thing from the party: there was one girl which really liked me, i assume. I saw how she looked at me, everytime i went on conversation with her, she instantly came with a big smile, like enjoying my attention, i felt that sexy look from her. When she with her friends decided to go, we went outside to say goodbye. She said to me that "that i was something special, really good. What's your surname? I will find you." I was kind a stunned, in a positive sense, but i didn't lose myself. I said what she asked, and then we hugged, man, that was much much stronger than typical hug, like with a drive. I contacted that girl, and we decided that we will see each other this week. Damn. I don't know what to do, because that girl, which kind a ignores me, she is still on my mind....... And i decided that i will go to the one event, where i will possibly "accidentally" meet the one that isn't answering with attention". Fuck.

 

[Greiz]

oh, and other thing. There was interesting moment, we were smoking outside (i don't smoke nor drink regulary, only on special occasions) and i was like contacting with one girl, my friends friends girlfriend. She was like "you look young(i was the oldest one in the company), with the good facial expression, like baby face." i asked her "is that bad?" she "no, of course not, it's very good". To talk about myself, i am really like a good guy, but i am not submissive at all. In the same party i was holding everyone from the fights, i defended one guy from 5 drunk friends. In those moments i was very aggressive, controlling/shouting, i took one guys leg and pull the fuck from it Because he was beating my friend on the ground. In the most conflicts i am like a judge, keeping everyone cool and stuff like that. I have a long expierence with martial arts(full contact karate, muay thai, boxng, some judo), swimming, olympic weightlifting, so it helps to be confident in that kind of situations. So, i am not trying to imply anything and to gossip myself. I am just interested in my personality traits talking about the girls: if in normal situations i look like complete good guy, withouth a sign of certain aggression, will girls be able to feel that i am very defensive/aggressive in other situations, parts of life?