My advice to late bloomers and guys that feel like they missed out growing up.

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So you were home-schooled.
So you went to a normal high school and were the geek everyone picked on.
So you grew into your looks and weren't the prettyboy growing up.
So you had religious or strict parents that didn't let you live out your childhood and adolescence.
So you lost your virginity at 21 and feel like you are late to the party.

So?

I have seen a lot of posts by late bloomers here who feel that they have missed out and having gone through this myself, I do feel that it can lead to anger and bitterness. It is a tough feeling to describe, you put all this time into improving yourself but then you realize that you are so late to the party and everyone has already left. Mentally, it's like going to a social event with a lot of well dressed people but you don't have the best clothes so you go out and search for the best clothes but by the time you put them on and arrive to the event, the well dressed people are gone. All that work in finding the best clothes only to realize that there is no point to wearing them, right?

WRONG!

Why?

There will always be parties like that and this time you will be prepared. How many times do people hype up a certain event and claim that it is the best thing ever only to say the same about another event?

My point is that it doesn't matter what you went through and what limited you in the past, what matters is that you have this given moment and almost no one can take it away from you.

For every moment you live in the past, you lose the present and create a future full of regrets. I know a guy who beat himself up for being a virgin at 18 but after crying so much about it, he was a virgin at 21 and wishing he was a virgin at 18 instead! Don't be that guy, though he did even get a girlfriend and lose his virginity but after wasting so much time.

You have now and time flies, before you know it you will be in the future looking at your given moment wondering what you could have done differently. What you have done is the now, the present, and no one can take that away from you but yourself. Do all the fucking and dating you want so when you are looking back 5 years from now, you can smile and say that you made up for lost time.

 

[Witcher]

Re: My advice to late bloomers and guys that feel like they missed out growing u

I just worte a post about that , to find a way to fix-up my situation, but here i tlak about a deeper probleme , when you are not loosed your virginity , or had girlfirend yet or kissed girl while you are at your twentiees. and the best way to proceed to get out of this malediction.

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Hi

Don't be fooled by the title, it's not the illusion of competance.

I'm speaking here about me and other who could be in the same case, because i don't find answers in any article on girls chase ( something very rare cause every aspect of seduction/dating is treated). And ihope that we will find a solution and process to deal with it. What i'm spekaing about ?

Late blooming and late verginity.

Look i'm now in my mind twenties, but i'm still a virign and never realy have a "girlfriend" or had "first kiss". I have friends female friends girls who with i "flirt" etc etc. And even if i study game and know who to use some of it in real time i can't get past the "romancer" stage. i have also my own caracter (talkative vibe little teasfull , as robert Downey Jr) do and a life and hobbies. So i dont have great probleme to make some girls "attarcted/interested " in me and this pretty easily. But i still cant get past that, and have girls also go on auto rejection or loose simply interest.

i think that deep down , even if i'm a pretty confident guy in life situation, i have this compelxe of inexperience holding me back because girls of my age have some or many experience and i do'nt how to handle it if he "closing" and "seduction" part comes. And the fear of loosing face make the job!!!!

So i want to know what would be the best solution to go when you are in my situation, what sould be the best process to fellow?

-Losing veriginiyt quickly with an escrot?
-Try tio have a girlfirend the "traditional way" first just to get some training?

So if anyone here had a solution ad ideas for people in this case. because i thinbg the game/communication skills are not the thing to work one, because even if i handle some of them nad fundmentals this inexperience hold back.