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I notice a lot of the guys on this board have been around for a bit longer than me but I'm determined to make as much progress as possible so I'm going to swallow my pride & post anyway.
I had 2 dates stacked for last night, both from online dating. Now, this hopefully isn't going to be my 'go to' source for dates for too long but I figure while I'm getting my approach game up to scratch I want to at least get some practice in texting, dating & hopefully getting some girls getting back to my place.
Anyway, one of the girls I'd messaged back & forth with a couple of times asked if I had any plans for the evening. I texted back 'I'm having a drink with you'. She texted back to ask where I live so I told her & said that I know a couple of great little bars that she had to see. I didn't hear back from her straight away & I didn't want to end up without a backup plan for the night in case she didn't get back to me. A girl I'd been messaging a year back got in touch again & had told me that she'd completed a 10K run. I asked if she was doing anything to celebrate that night & she said no. I said that she should come out for a drink with me to relax & unwind. She responded back that she was really tired but did feel tempted. What time was I thinking. In the meantime, the first girl had gotten back & said she was finishing work at 6 & could meet me at 7:30. I wrote back to the second girl, said I was going to be with a friend but could meet her at 9:00. It took a bit of a push but I got her to agree.
I go out to meet the first girl & it turns out she is a lot bigger than in her pictures. Now I have met overweight girls who wear the weight well & are better in bed than other girls I've been with in much better shape, so it's not necessarily a turn off for me. This girl, though, just wasn't' doing it for me physically. She did have a lot of fun travel stories & I found myself enjoying my time with her anyway. I ended up texting the second girl back & rescheduling for tonight while the first girl bought me another drink. After the second drink I asked if she wanted another but she said she had to be getting back home. We started walking back & then she asked if we could walk along the canal. I got a little confused & she quickly laughed it off & said that it was completely the wring direction for the station. Thinking back now I'm wondering if that was her way of trying to extend the date. I walked her back to the station, we shared quite a long tender hug & that was that.
Now tonight's date, I was actually feeling a bit nervous. When I met her I realised that she is actually a lot prettier than she appears in her profile & a great little body. We started chatting. It seemed like we were talking quite a bit about work at first & I couldn't think how to change the subject but then we moved onto other topics. She told me about her being introverted but how she had been trying to get herself out there more, from some of the stories she told me she did seem very reserved (as an aside, I always used to feel like an introvert myself but recently people have been describing me as quite extroverted, including the girl I was with yesterday). As we chatted it felt like there were times she seemed attracted to me but I wasn't feeling a lot of chemistry. I don't know whether that meant that we just aren't right for each other or if I should have been doing more to create the chemistry. We did get into deep conversation a couple of times but there was very little flirting or playfulness. I tried to find ways to inject some but nothing was coming. It's strange, I have performed stand up comedy semi pro & am always able to create material on stage; sometimes it translates for me when talking to women but often it just doesn't seem to come.
I invited her to go for a walk with me & she accepted. She seemed to be walking quite fast though & it just felt like she wanted the walk to be over so she could go home. When we parted ways she thanked me for meeting her at such short notice & apologised that she couldn't see me yesterday (which seemed somewhat absurd under the circumstances). We shared a brief hug but it didn't feel very intimate. I haven't had any further interaction with either girl.
I had 2 dates stacked for last night, both from online dating. Now, this hopefully isn't going to be my 'go to' source for dates for too long but I figure while I'm getting my approach game up to scratch I want to at least get some practice in texting, dating & hopefully getting some girls getting back to my place.
Anyway, one of the girls I'd messaged back & forth with a couple of times asked if I had any plans for the evening. I texted back 'I'm having a drink with you'. She texted back to ask where I live so I told her & said that I know a couple of great little bars that she had to see. I didn't hear back from her straight away & I didn't want to end up without a backup plan for the night in case she didn't get back to me. A girl I'd been messaging a year back got in touch again & had told me that she'd completed a 10K run. I asked if she was doing anything to celebrate that night & she said no. I said that she should come out for a drink with me to relax & unwind. She responded back that she was really tired but did feel tempted. What time was I thinking. In the meantime, the first girl had gotten back & said she was finishing work at 6 & could meet me at 7:30. I wrote back to the second girl, said I was going to be with a friend but could meet her at 9:00. It took a bit of a push but I got her to agree.
I go out to meet the first girl & it turns out she is a lot bigger than in her pictures. Now I have met overweight girls who wear the weight well & are better in bed than other girls I've been with in much better shape, so it's not necessarily a turn off for me. This girl, though, just wasn't' doing it for me physically. She did have a lot of fun travel stories & I found myself enjoying my time with her anyway. I ended up texting the second girl back & rescheduling for tonight while the first girl bought me another drink. After the second drink I asked if she wanted another but she said she had to be getting back home. We started walking back & then she asked if we could walk along the canal. I got a little confused & she quickly laughed it off & said that it was completely the wring direction for the station. Thinking back now I'm wondering if that was her way of trying to extend the date. I walked her back to the station, we shared quite a long tender hug & that was that.
Now tonight's date, I was actually feeling a bit nervous. When I met her I realised that she is actually a lot prettier than she appears in her profile & a great little body. We started chatting. It seemed like we were talking quite a bit about work at first & I couldn't think how to change the subject but then we moved onto other topics. She told me about her being introverted but how she had been trying to get herself out there more, from some of the stories she told me she did seem very reserved (as an aside, I always used to feel like an introvert myself but recently people have been describing me as quite extroverted, including the girl I was with yesterday). As we chatted it felt like there were times she seemed attracted to me but I wasn't feeling a lot of chemistry. I don't know whether that meant that we just aren't right for each other or if I should have been doing more to create the chemistry. We did get into deep conversation a couple of times but there was very little flirting or playfulness. I tried to find ways to inject some but nothing was coming. It's strange, I have performed stand up comedy semi pro & am always able to create material on stage; sometimes it translates for me when talking to women but often it just doesn't seem to come.
I invited her to go for a walk with me & she accepted. She seemed to be walking quite fast though & it just felt like she wanted the walk to be over so she could go home. When we parted ways she thanked me for meeting her at such short notice & apologised that she couldn't see me yesterday (which seemed somewhat absurd under the circumstances). We shared a brief hug but it didn't feel very intimate. I haven't had any further interaction with either girl.
