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The girl in question is from my most recent lay report here: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=18595
As I stated in my lay report, we're in the same friend group but I don't hang out with them as often as they all hang out with each other, although I've steadily been seeing a little bit more of these people lately since several of the people in the group live in my neighborhood and I pretty much grew up with them even though they are all my little brother's age and graduated high school with him. Also, I am friends with the older brothers of two of these guys and I graduated high school and pretty much grew up with the older brothers as we have all known each other since childhood. As a side note, they are always hit me up and invite me to hang out I almost never initiate contact with this group to see if anyone wants to hang out. In essence, you could say these guys chase me to hang out with them.
I knew banging this girl was a ticking time-bomb given the circumstances of having a lot of mutual friends and inevitably seeing each other in group situations after having banged, but even I couldn't have predicted this happening. I will admit that my behavior was completely unacceptable throughout the course of the night. Yes, I was drinking heavily and was severely under the influence of alcohol, but I refuse to use that as a crutch to excuse my behavior.
At the beginning of the night while we were pregaming at a friend's house, she ended up showing up against my knowing since somebody invited her. She arrived and went inside to change and she later came outside to chill while we were smoking. We ended up chit-chatting and I told her to come down the patio stairs while I had to pee. She followed and she asked if I was going to give her a hug and I ended up planting a few kisses on her instead. She then brought up how we were supposed to hang out today since I brought it up at the strip club on Memorial Day. I honestly didn't expect her to remember and was hoping she would be the one to hit me up, but I ended up not texting her partially because I expected to see her that night since I knew someone would probably invite her.
I went inside and told her to follow me into the bathroom and she complied. I was peeing and I joked with her not to look and she said she's already seen everything anyway and I laughed. I went and made out with her a little while she was sitting on the sink. Part of me wanted to get my dick sucked, but idk why I even asked her to come into the bathroom. She ended up leaving first so as to not make it look like we were getting frisky in the bathroom. I ended up coming out like 30 seconds later and went downstairs to drink a beer while everyone was in the kitchen.
At some point, I offered my buddy a cig and we went outside and in my drunken stupidity was asking him why they invited her tonight because now I won't be able to talk to other girls without it causing problems. I guess one of the windows to the kitchen was open and one of my buddies inside called out "Emerald we can hear you." Yeah I know, real childish and ignorant of me. I honestly don't know why I was acting like this and I think this may have started the downward spiral of events that was yet to come.
Eventually, my buddy Scooter showed up a little after this and he is one of the older brothers that I grew up with and I go inside and give him a hug and start talking. We all leave shortly after this. I rode with Scooter, his little brother, and my buddy Nick who was one of the guys that called me to come out tonight. We went to pick up this girl that Scooter works with and who he was trying to bang since she was all over him last weekend when we were out at the same bars that we all headed out to tonight. I texted Daisy right after we picked this girl up. The text convo went like this:
To be honest, I was already pretty fucked up before we left to the bars. I arrive at the bars with my crew and the rest including Daisy show up a few minutes later. The majority of the night is kind of a blur, but I remember some few key moments. One of which included a girl showing up (Leia) whom I had talked to at a New Year's party that Scooter hosted with the same group of friends. I don't remember how that conversation went at New Year's, but at some point Leia offers me her number (at New Year's) and as she is typing it in my phone I remember saying "don't you have a boyfriend?" Leia responds abruptly "don't worry about it." I texted her my number while she was standing right next to me, but ultimately never texted her back because she wasn't that cute and I didn't want anything with her after waking up on New Year's Day.
So, this girl Leia shows up cuz Scooter's little bro invited her and wanted to bang her (and ultimately did later that night) and I guess her and Daisy are acquainted and Leia says right in front of Daisy "Hi Emerald, you never texted me back!" Just great. I don't remember what I said but I pretty much played it off. Daisy didn't really react or pull me aside to talk to me about it. I remember asking my buddy for a few cigs and invited Daisy to come outside and smoke one with me. We go out in the patio and I don;t really remember the conversation but at some point I tell her to follow me and we go downstairs and sit at a table outside. I started caressing Daisy's legs and don't remember what I was talking about but at some point mention if she would get jealous at me talking to other girls. Don't know what would possess me to open my mouth, but we never really talked about us being a fling and this was never made clear on both our parts.
Anyways, I tell her to follow me and leave the bar and start walking towards one of the fences thinking there would be a door, and she stops me and says there's no way we're getting outside. She mentions for us to go upstairs then tell her wait, and then mention that I think it would be a good idea if we went upstairs to try and exit the bar. She laughed and told me that's exactly what she just said and I just smiled and we started walking upstairs. I'm pretty sure I slapped her ass a few times and she told me not to do that in public.
We get upstairs, run into a few of our friends and she says she has to go pee and I had to too. So we walk downstairs and I try to get her to follow me in the bathroom, but she says she has to pee and will be out in a minute. I head upstairs after I finish and we meet up with our friends and all ended up leaving the bar not too shortly after. At the next bar, I met up with Scooter's girl's roommate whom I met last weekend. I started flirting hard with this girl and ended up grinding with her for a little on and off, and also grinded in a chain with Scooter's girl behind me and Scooter behind her. I was acting a bit too drunk for my own good and ended up going to Daisy and trying to get her to give up her seat and let me sit down and she didn't want to so I joked I was going to sit on her lap and she said "fine" so I did. She then told me to get up cuz I was too heavy and I told her to let me sit there and have her sit on my lap. This part's a little blurry but I'm pretty sure I was talking to a guy who was out that she graduated high school with and who also works with my mom and start making chit-chat about how him and my mom work together and whatnot. I think Daisy went up to go to the bathroom and I slapped her ass a few times and this one she got a little irritated and told me to not do that in public. I didn't anymore after that, but I just continued to make an ass of myself and at this point probably came off as chasing or showing through my actions that I wanted a relationship in some way or another.
After this the rest of the night is pretty blurry but I remember us going back to another bar we were at earlier and I guess I was still flirting with Scooter's girl's roomate and we ended up outside smoking a cig. I remember Scooter's girl asking us how Scooter and I knew each other and we talked about how we knew each other since pre-school and we were getting buddy-buddy and Scooter jumps on me and I catch him, but we fall to the ground laughing hysterically. One of our buddies got a pic of us on snapchat laughing while we were on the ground practically on top of each other.
Not long after this I announce I'm going to get some pizza before we go home, because someone mentioned calling an Uber and I wanted some of this pizza. A couple of us go and grab a few slices and find a bench to sit on outside. I had 3 slices and was indulging my drunk munchies. I remember Daisy asking me for a slice and I was teasing her about it, but think I ultimately ended up giving her one. This is the part where things are about to go very bad real quick.
After we smash the pizza I think I asked someone for napkins or to go get some, then when my buddy appeared I was like "what's my nigga?" She didn't like that very much. She never really batted an eyelash in the past when people have said that in a what's up kind of way, and some of my buddies have even called me sand nigga cuz I'm Lebanese and that's somewhat of a racial slur against middle-eastern people. Anyways, I inquired as to why she would get so offended when I know some guys who are from the straight hood and don't get offended when some of our friends say it an a non-racist playful type way (which is true, one of them is a former pledge brother of mine from our fraternity and the other is a fraternity brother of mine who pledged a few years before me and grew up in the same neighborhood as 50 Cent in New York). Either way, looking back there was no need for me to be saying that and at that point I think she was trying to find any excuse to get on my case due to the way I had been drunkenly acting all night.
From what I remember, she was saying something and I think I asked her why if I have buddies who are actually from the hood and don;t rip their friends heads off for saying what's' up in that manner, why she would when all of our hometown is full of old people and whatnot and not anywhere near the level of the real hood. I'm not sure what dialogue was exchanged after this, but I remember at one point her saying she was going to punch me in the face or something, so I got up and put some distance between us, and told why she would punch me in the face and whatnot. From what I remember, I guess I didn't take her seriously and was kind of cocky about her threatening to punch me, and next thing I know this chick lunges at me from the bench she was sitting on and starts throwing a flurry of punches, all right at my face.
Honestly, it happened so fast and she really caught me off guard. Not only was I not expecting her to assault me like that, but I didn't expect her to actually be able to throw a half-decent punch. She landed half a dozen or so and they actually stung a little bit, not gonna lie. She was also aggressive as fuck! I just remember telling her to stop and calm down, and tried restraining her at one point trying to get her to calm down, and then our buddy intervened and tried to break us up, which she used to her advantage and break free and then continue to land another couple punches at my face. She actually landed quite a few and there is a couple scratches outside of my left eyelid as a result. I was completely intoxicated and didn't have the best motor control over my movements so that probably gave her a huge advantage. She had been drinking steadily but was coherent for the most part and nowhere near of level of intoxication.
Finally, our buddy breaks it up and ket yelling "stop!" and she did and walked away fuming. I remember talking to him asking him what the hell would possess her to get that crazy, since it wasn't like I could hit her back without risking going to jail. Even he said "because she's crazy!" I just kinda chilled out and talked to my buddy a few minutes before being notified that our Uber home had arrived. Needless to say, my buddy sat between me and Daisy in the back of the Uber. It was a pretty quiet ride home save for my buddy in the front (Bob) chit-chatting with the Uber driver.
We all get back home to my neighbor's house we pregamed at earlier, and we're all in the kitchen for a moment and I start grabbing my alcohol and things I brought to the pregame earlier, while just waiting for Daisy to say something about what happened and sure enough, when the three other guys left the kitchen, it was just me and her. Her demeanor and body language kinda pissed me off to be honest. She started to say "look" as she was prepared to give her speech and I think she got off a few words before I cut her off and started giving her a spiel. When she was speaking, she had this half-smile on her face, the kind where someone knows they are guilty of something and there is some awkwardness over their actions. I was ice-cold and kinda stoic as I started giving my speech. I don't remember my entire dialogue, but I remember saying something along the lines of how disappointed I was in her and how dare she attack me like that in public, and that if she was a guy she'd probably be in the hospital blah blah blah. Her initial half-smile wore off immediately, and she said something like "I don't care" or something like that when I mentioned what I would've done if she was a guy. That honestly pissed me off, this girl just did something extremely unacceptable and nutty and she had the nerve to still have a very bitchy attitude.
Once I finish speaking, she had a visible look of anger and bitchiness on her face, and said that she was going to apologize, but that since I was being an asshole now she's not. She got up, opened the door to the back patio, and went outside and down the stairs. That was the last time I saw her. After that, I chilled in the living room, visibly pissed and quiet, and asked my buddy (Josiah) for a bottle of water. While he was getting it, Bob asked me what was wrong. I stayed quiet for a few seconds and he said "Daisy?" I was zoned out in my thoughts and just replied with a "yup." I grabbed my stuff and went home and walked home and went to sleep after that.
I woke up the next morning at like 7:45 am just naturally, and started reflecting over what happened earlier that night. All of a sudden, I get a text message and I knew it would be Daisy. I look at my phone and sure enough, it was her. This is what she wrote:
That message really pissed me off. Here she was trying to act like she doesn't remember what happened and/or trying to downplay it so as to minimize blame on her part. I started typing up "I want absolutely nothing to do with you" but ended up deleting it so as to not say something while my emotions were running high. I didn't end up responding to her at all and haven't texted/talked to her since that night, but I just found out today from my little bro, that Daisy snapchatted him on Saturday asking if I said anything about what happened. I told my little brother what happened and he said he just responded with "idk" and she responded "ok." I guess her imagination must be going crazy over what happened.
My buddy that ultimately ended up breaking up her assaulting me called later that morning and we chatted about what happened. I asked if him if he recalled the events that transpired to her punching on me and he said he nor anyone else really remembered. He asked me if I talked to her I told him what she texted me, but that I have no intention of talking to her. He said "good that bitch is crazy." I'm thankful to have a friend like him who seems genuine and took action while everyone else stood by and did nothing. This guy just graduated the police academy too and passed his test, so I'm grateful he knows how to take action in chaotic events.
After writing this and reflecting over Friday night's events, I realize that I acted like a total prick and raging asshole. I know that the way I behaved is unacceptable and I have learned from that night and will be taking measures to make sure something like that doesn't happen in the future, starting with cutting back on drinking to sipping a few drinks throughout the night. I also realize that something like this could have easily been avoided and I'm deeply remorseful that this had to happen and has ultimately destroyed my relationship and friendship with this girl. I know the way I acted was shitty and I should have shut my mouth halfway through the night, but to be honest I still believe there is no excuse for her physically assaulting me. That is crossing a permanent line and there was no need for her to get violent with me, especially since there were other options present like walking away or alerting one of our friends of my behavior and having them step in.
I've already made up my mind to cut this girl off and to not even remain friends with her. I know it's a real shame, but I feel that has to be a given. I refuse to get involved with girls who are capable of acting that crazy, because I can only imagine what else this girl is capable of and I value my life and my freedom. I have a few concerns after this incident:
1. How should I confront her knowing we're bound to see each other again in the near future since we have quite a few friends in common? I debated sitting her down and being honest by owning up to the way I acted, but also letting her know she crossed a permanent line and I refuse to tolerate that and let it slide, and then tell her that we're done (even being friends) but we can act civil for the sake of our friends. I'm not sure if that would be a good course of action or not.
2. Should I ignore any of her texts and attempts to contact me completely, and if I see her again in a group situation, just act ice cold. If she happens to try to discuss what happened, then tell her the same speech as above?
3. How can I manage the blowback to my reputation in the group after the incident since I'm sure some are bound to take the women's side. Do I exploit her crazy behavior and use it against her to mitigate the way I acted (I really did kind of make an ass of myself the entire night, not just to her but in general) or what?
4. Aside from not getting too drunk and acting belligerent, what should I do if I find myself in a situation where a girl is physically assaulting me? Is it reasonable for me to shove her off of me ands away from me as hard as possible even if it means ger falling down? Do I take pictures of the marks (if any are there like there was in this scenario) and press charges?
I'd really appreciate your guys' honest feedback, I've never had to deal with being physically assaulted hardcore by a female before and don;t know any friends who have been in this type of situation either.
As I stated in my lay report, we're in the same friend group but I don't hang out with them as often as they all hang out with each other, although I've steadily been seeing a little bit more of these people lately since several of the people in the group live in my neighborhood and I pretty much grew up with them even though they are all my little brother's age and graduated high school with him. Also, I am friends with the older brothers of two of these guys and I graduated high school and pretty much grew up with the older brothers as we have all known each other since childhood. As a side note, they are always hit me up and invite me to hang out I almost never initiate contact with this group to see if anyone wants to hang out. In essence, you could say these guys chase me to hang out with them.
I knew banging this girl was a ticking time-bomb given the circumstances of having a lot of mutual friends and inevitably seeing each other in group situations after having banged, but even I couldn't have predicted this happening. I will admit that my behavior was completely unacceptable throughout the course of the night. Yes, I was drinking heavily and was severely under the influence of alcohol, but I refuse to use that as a crutch to excuse my behavior.
At the beginning of the night while we were pregaming at a friend's house, she ended up showing up against my knowing since somebody invited her. She arrived and went inside to change and she later came outside to chill while we were smoking. We ended up chit-chatting and I told her to come down the patio stairs while I had to pee. She followed and she asked if I was going to give her a hug and I ended up planting a few kisses on her instead. She then brought up how we were supposed to hang out today since I brought it up at the strip club on Memorial Day. I honestly didn't expect her to remember and was hoping she would be the one to hit me up, but I ended up not texting her partially because I expected to see her that night since I knew someone would probably invite her.
I went inside and told her to follow me into the bathroom and she complied. I was peeing and I joked with her not to look and she said she's already seen everything anyway and I laughed. I went and made out with her a little while she was sitting on the sink. Part of me wanted to get my dick sucked, but idk why I even asked her to come into the bathroom. She ended up leaving first so as to not make it look like we were getting frisky in the bathroom. I ended up coming out like 30 seconds later and went downstairs to drink a beer while everyone was in the kitchen.
At some point, I offered my buddy a cig and we went outside and in my drunken stupidity was asking him why they invited her tonight because now I won't be able to talk to other girls without it causing problems. I guess one of the windows to the kitchen was open and one of my buddies inside called out "Emerald we can hear you." Yeah I know, real childish and ignorant of me. I honestly don't know why I was acting like this and I think this may have started the downward spiral of events that was yet to come.
Eventually, my buddy Scooter showed up a little after this and he is one of the older brothers that I grew up with and I go inside and give him a hug and start talking. We all leave shortly after this. I rode with Scooter, his little brother, and my buddy Nick who was one of the guys that called me to come out tonight. We went to pick up this girl that Scooter works with and who he was trying to bang since she was all over him last weekend when we were out at the same bars that we all headed out to tonight. I texted Daisy right after we picked this girl up. The text convo went like this:
To be honest, I was already pretty fucked up before we left to the bars. I arrive at the bars with my crew and the rest including Daisy show up a few minutes later. The majority of the night is kind of a blur, but I remember some few key moments. One of which included a girl showing up (Leia) whom I had talked to at a New Year's party that Scooter hosted with the same group of friends. I don't remember how that conversation went at New Year's, but at some point Leia offers me her number (at New Year's) and as she is typing it in my phone I remember saying "don't you have a boyfriend?" Leia responds abruptly "don't worry about it." I texted her my number while she was standing right next to me, but ultimately never texted her back because she wasn't that cute and I didn't want anything with her after waking up on New Year's Day.
So, this girl Leia shows up cuz Scooter's little bro invited her and wanted to bang her (and ultimately did later that night) and I guess her and Daisy are acquainted and Leia says right in front of Daisy "Hi Emerald, you never texted me back!" Just great. I don't remember what I said but I pretty much played it off. Daisy didn't really react or pull me aside to talk to me about it. I remember asking my buddy for a few cigs and invited Daisy to come outside and smoke one with me. We go out in the patio and I don;t really remember the conversation but at some point I tell her to follow me and we go downstairs and sit at a table outside. I started caressing Daisy's legs and don't remember what I was talking about but at some point mention if she would get jealous at me talking to other girls. Don't know what would possess me to open my mouth, but we never really talked about us being a fling and this was never made clear on both our parts.
Anyways, I tell her to follow me and leave the bar and start walking towards one of the fences thinking there would be a door, and she stops me and says there's no way we're getting outside. She mentions for us to go upstairs then tell her wait, and then mention that I think it would be a good idea if we went upstairs to try and exit the bar. She laughed and told me that's exactly what she just said and I just smiled and we started walking upstairs. I'm pretty sure I slapped her ass a few times and she told me not to do that in public.
We get upstairs, run into a few of our friends and she says she has to go pee and I had to too. So we walk downstairs and I try to get her to follow me in the bathroom, but she says she has to pee and will be out in a minute. I head upstairs after I finish and we meet up with our friends and all ended up leaving the bar not too shortly after. At the next bar, I met up with Scooter's girl's roommate whom I met last weekend. I started flirting hard with this girl and ended up grinding with her for a little on and off, and also grinded in a chain with Scooter's girl behind me and Scooter behind her. I was acting a bit too drunk for my own good and ended up going to Daisy and trying to get her to give up her seat and let me sit down and she didn't want to so I joked I was going to sit on her lap and she said "fine" so I did. She then told me to get up cuz I was too heavy and I told her to let me sit there and have her sit on my lap. This part's a little blurry but I'm pretty sure I was talking to a guy who was out that she graduated high school with and who also works with my mom and start making chit-chat about how him and my mom work together and whatnot. I think Daisy went up to go to the bathroom and I slapped her ass a few times and this one she got a little irritated and told me to not do that in public. I didn't anymore after that, but I just continued to make an ass of myself and at this point probably came off as chasing or showing through my actions that I wanted a relationship in some way or another.
After this the rest of the night is pretty blurry but I remember us going back to another bar we were at earlier and I guess I was still flirting with Scooter's girl's roomate and we ended up outside smoking a cig. I remember Scooter's girl asking us how Scooter and I knew each other and we talked about how we knew each other since pre-school and we were getting buddy-buddy and Scooter jumps on me and I catch him, but we fall to the ground laughing hysterically. One of our buddies got a pic of us on snapchat laughing while we were on the ground practically on top of each other.
Not long after this I announce I'm going to get some pizza before we go home, because someone mentioned calling an Uber and I wanted some of this pizza. A couple of us go and grab a few slices and find a bench to sit on outside. I had 3 slices and was indulging my drunk munchies. I remember Daisy asking me for a slice and I was teasing her about it, but think I ultimately ended up giving her one. This is the part where things are about to go very bad real quick.
After we smash the pizza I think I asked someone for napkins or to go get some, then when my buddy appeared I was like "what's my nigga?" She didn't like that very much. She never really batted an eyelash in the past when people have said that in a what's up kind of way, and some of my buddies have even called me sand nigga cuz I'm Lebanese and that's somewhat of a racial slur against middle-eastern people. Anyways, I inquired as to why she would get so offended when I know some guys who are from the straight hood and don't get offended when some of our friends say it an a non-racist playful type way (which is true, one of them is a former pledge brother of mine from our fraternity and the other is a fraternity brother of mine who pledged a few years before me and grew up in the same neighborhood as 50 Cent in New York). Either way, looking back there was no need for me to be saying that and at that point I think she was trying to find any excuse to get on my case due to the way I had been drunkenly acting all night.
From what I remember, she was saying something and I think I asked her why if I have buddies who are actually from the hood and don;t rip their friends heads off for saying what's' up in that manner, why she would when all of our hometown is full of old people and whatnot and not anywhere near the level of the real hood. I'm not sure what dialogue was exchanged after this, but I remember at one point her saying she was going to punch me in the face or something, so I got up and put some distance between us, and told why she would punch me in the face and whatnot. From what I remember, I guess I didn't take her seriously and was kind of cocky about her threatening to punch me, and next thing I know this chick lunges at me from the bench she was sitting on and starts throwing a flurry of punches, all right at my face.
Honestly, it happened so fast and she really caught me off guard. Not only was I not expecting her to assault me like that, but I didn't expect her to actually be able to throw a half-decent punch. She landed half a dozen or so and they actually stung a little bit, not gonna lie. She was also aggressive as fuck! I just remember telling her to stop and calm down, and tried restraining her at one point trying to get her to calm down, and then our buddy intervened and tried to break us up, which she used to her advantage and break free and then continue to land another couple punches at my face. She actually landed quite a few and there is a couple scratches outside of my left eyelid as a result. I was completely intoxicated and didn't have the best motor control over my movements so that probably gave her a huge advantage. She had been drinking steadily but was coherent for the most part and nowhere near of level of intoxication.
Finally, our buddy breaks it up and ket yelling "stop!" and she did and walked away fuming. I remember talking to him asking him what the hell would possess her to get that crazy, since it wasn't like I could hit her back without risking going to jail. Even he said "because she's crazy!" I just kinda chilled out and talked to my buddy a few minutes before being notified that our Uber home had arrived. Needless to say, my buddy sat between me and Daisy in the back of the Uber. It was a pretty quiet ride home save for my buddy in the front (Bob) chit-chatting with the Uber driver.
We all get back home to my neighbor's house we pregamed at earlier, and we're all in the kitchen for a moment and I start grabbing my alcohol and things I brought to the pregame earlier, while just waiting for Daisy to say something about what happened and sure enough, when the three other guys left the kitchen, it was just me and her. Her demeanor and body language kinda pissed me off to be honest. She started to say "look" as she was prepared to give her speech and I think she got off a few words before I cut her off and started giving her a spiel. When she was speaking, she had this half-smile on her face, the kind where someone knows they are guilty of something and there is some awkwardness over their actions. I was ice-cold and kinda stoic as I started giving my speech. I don't remember my entire dialogue, but I remember saying something along the lines of how disappointed I was in her and how dare she attack me like that in public, and that if she was a guy she'd probably be in the hospital blah blah blah. Her initial half-smile wore off immediately, and she said something like "I don't care" or something like that when I mentioned what I would've done if she was a guy. That honestly pissed me off, this girl just did something extremely unacceptable and nutty and she had the nerve to still have a very bitchy attitude.
Once I finish speaking, she had a visible look of anger and bitchiness on her face, and said that she was going to apologize, but that since I was being an asshole now she's not. She got up, opened the door to the back patio, and went outside and down the stairs. That was the last time I saw her. After that, I chilled in the living room, visibly pissed and quiet, and asked my buddy (Josiah) for a bottle of water. While he was getting it, Bob asked me what was wrong. I stayed quiet for a few seconds and he said "Daisy?" I was zoned out in my thoughts and just replied with a "yup." I grabbed my stuff and went home and walked home and went to sleep after that.
I woke up the next morning at like 7:45 am just naturally, and started reflecting over what happened earlier that night. All of a sudden, I get a text message and I knew it would be Daisy. I look at my phone and sure enough, it was her. This is what she wrote:
That message really pissed me off. Here she was trying to act like she doesn't remember what happened and/or trying to downplay it so as to minimize blame on her part. I started typing up "I want absolutely nothing to do with you" but ended up deleting it so as to not say something while my emotions were running high. I didn't end up responding to her at all and haven't texted/talked to her since that night, but I just found out today from my little bro, that Daisy snapchatted him on Saturday asking if I said anything about what happened. I told my little brother what happened and he said he just responded with "idk" and she responded "ok." I guess her imagination must be going crazy over what happened.
My buddy that ultimately ended up breaking up her assaulting me called later that morning and we chatted about what happened. I asked if him if he recalled the events that transpired to her punching on me and he said he nor anyone else really remembered. He asked me if I talked to her I told him what she texted me, but that I have no intention of talking to her. He said "good that bitch is crazy." I'm thankful to have a friend like him who seems genuine and took action while everyone else stood by and did nothing. This guy just graduated the police academy too and passed his test, so I'm grateful he knows how to take action in chaotic events.
After writing this and reflecting over Friday night's events, I realize that I acted like a total prick and raging asshole. I know that the way I behaved is unacceptable and I have learned from that night and will be taking measures to make sure something like that doesn't happen in the future, starting with cutting back on drinking to sipping a few drinks throughout the night. I also realize that something like this could have easily been avoided and I'm deeply remorseful that this had to happen and has ultimately destroyed my relationship and friendship with this girl. I know the way I acted was shitty and I should have shut my mouth halfway through the night, but to be honest I still believe there is no excuse for her physically assaulting me. That is crossing a permanent line and there was no need for her to get violent with me, especially since there were other options present like walking away or alerting one of our friends of my behavior and having them step in.
I've already made up my mind to cut this girl off and to not even remain friends with her. I know it's a real shame, but I feel that has to be a given. I refuse to get involved with girls who are capable of acting that crazy, because I can only imagine what else this girl is capable of and I value my life and my freedom. I have a few concerns after this incident:
1. How should I confront her knowing we're bound to see each other again in the near future since we have quite a few friends in common? I debated sitting her down and being honest by owning up to the way I acted, but also letting her know she crossed a permanent line and I refuse to tolerate that and let it slide, and then tell her that we're done (even being friends) but we can act civil for the sake of our friends. I'm not sure if that would be a good course of action or not.
2. Should I ignore any of her texts and attempts to contact me completely, and if I see her again in a group situation, just act ice cold. If she happens to try to discuss what happened, then tell her the same speech as above?
3. How can I manage the blowback to my reputation in the group after the incident since I'm sure some are bound to take the women's side. Do I exploit her crazy behavior and use it against her to mitigate the way I acted (I really did kind of make an ass of myself the entire night, not just to her but in general) or what?
4. Aside from not getting too drunk and acting belligerent, what should I do if I find myself in a situation where a girl is physically assaulting me? Is it reasonable for me to shove her off of me ands away from me as hard as possible even if it means ger falling down? Do I take pictures of the marks (if any are there like there was in this scenario) and press charges?
I'd really appreciate your guys' honest feedback, I've never had to deal with being physically assaulted hardcore by a female before and don;t know any friends who have been in this type of situation either.
