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Alright guys,

I finally have a LR down. However it didn't go as smoothly as I'd hoped. (This literally happened like half an hour ago).

In England we have an unspoken rule that you should never sleep with your Uni flatmates because it can make things very awkward...but rules are meant to be broken. ;)

I've been in my new accommodation for two weeks now and I share a kitchen and corridor with my good buddy, a German girl and a Japanese girl. The German girl has just got out of a 4 year relationship last Friday.

Last Thursday we had chilled together late at night to a film and she began cuddling more and more, but I wasn't sure because she had a boyfriend. I decided not to escalate just in case and I'm still not sure of my morals on that. However the next day she was saying how they were on a break.

Then yesterday we watched something again and and began cuddling, before it got to the stage where I was like 'Fuck this' grabbed her chin and started kissing her. Then we were off. Just kissing and escalating, then calming down a bit, putting the film on the laptop back on. I sometimes acted aloof, disinterested, and then other times engaging the escalation. Over the course of three hours this lead up to tops off etc. However she wasn't too sure of doing anything due to being so close to the boyfriend situation, so although I could have gone further, we talked it over a bit and said how she didn't want to.

Then today, when I got back from class she was going out and asked what time my buddy/other flatmate comes home. She finished at four and my buddy at 5, she later told me that she had asked this question on purpose to gauge how much time we had. She got back from class and I just went in asking some bullshit question, anything to just see her. She then comes over and kisses me. I pick her up and throw her on the bed. We then escalate really easily to the point she said she wants me inside her.

Unfortunately she didn't have a condom so I had to get up and run down the corridor to my room to grab two out of my wallet. I genuinely lost some hardness on the way. I come back and with the condom on, try to fuck her. But my dick went soft and it took me a while to get hard again. I then got a bit stressed/worried about it. She didn't like me going down on her, so I couldn't exactly pass the time to get hard by doing that. I was just on top of her, grinding, try to get hard again. I then get hard and get inside but it quickly comes out again. I'm about 80% hard now and good enough to go in, but every time she puts her hand on my dick, she thinks it isn't hard enough. What is actually the case is if she just put it in herself I would get harder and harder. (I tried putting it in myself but it was easier if she did it).

We spin over to her on top and I get really hard and she puts it in and we start going for a bit, but it comes out and she just kind of gives up. I try to put it back in but didn't work again.

We then stop for a bit but we hear my roommate come back and go to his room, so we quickly get dressed. She says how maybe "this was meant to happen and it wasn't meant to work out." I try to act indifferent about it. I say how it would be cool if we could just do things casually because it's so convenient, but at the same time I looked chilled about it. I wasn't needy or desperate, at all, which I was happy about.

She then kisses me again and we get horny again, I throw her on the bed again and this time just start taking trousers and underwear off. Once again I put the condom on but this time it went soft straight away and although we tried to get hard again, nothing came of it.

My flatmate then knocked on her door and I got dressed and hid in the bathroom, and then snuck back to my room later.


Unfortunately I had got a bit horny this afternoon and had a few boners and a bit of pre-cum (hey, it happens) so I don't think that helped. But I think my problem is getting/putting the condom on not when I'm fully hard, only when I have a semi. This then makes it go soft. I also felt she was leading it all a bit more and if I had been more dominant/aggressive I might've got in the mood more.

I am currently 6/7 weeks into a Nofap and although I've glanced at porn once or twice, whenever I'm really horny I've stayed away. Now after this, I don't think I'll watch it ever again.

I could tell she was disappointed and had high expectations of me to be a really good shag, but hey, sometimes it doesn't happen. I'm just gonna play things cool and if the opportunity arises again, I'll make sure to fuck her properly. I'm not too much of an awkward guy so us all being around the flat should also be fine.

Still counting this as a lay, though...!

Cheers,

- JP
 

JPWorld

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Chaps,

I wouldn't usually do this, but as the first time was so poor, I thought I'd give an update.

After about two weeks of just being normal around the flat, not being too awkward at all, we slept together again last night. She just came in for a film and by the end we ended up sleeping together twice, raw though. She said she had something that means that condoms aren't necessary. Looking back now I'm pretty skeptical and will go and get checked. I'm gonna talk to her about it all, too. Interesting that she said that this time and not the first. It may have been bullshit and she wanted wanted good sex and not having the condom ruin my boner.

One thing I found from this noFap thing is my performance is a lot less. When I was wanking once a week my stamina was a lot more solid, but last night I struggled to last over 6-7 minutes, both rounds. Having said that I haven't had sex for 5 months so a dry spell probably didn't help. I also think the noFap and No Porn is obviously still 'rebooting', I'm gonna hit the 90 days (and obviously try and sleep with some more girls) and then see how my performance is. I may go back to once a week via imagination if the 'problem' continues.

She also slept over, which sucks for me as I have trouble getting to sleep when I'm with a girl. It also happened with my old fuckbuddy. Had a quick google and it's a problem many have, anyone here had that? I guess the more I do it the easier it gets to fall asleep, not sure.

I'm not sure what the next step is here. We've both said we don't want anything serious, so we may just be fuck buddys or that may be the end of it. I don't really mind as I'm meeting other girls, too. But she said she enjoyed last night a lot, was much better than the first time as it felt too rushed and forced.

Cheers,

- JP
 

John116

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Mate, I hear ya (re: the NoFap loss of stamina). I've had trouble lasting more than 3-4 minutes since I started it late last year. But I would say the benefits of it outweigh the loss of stamina. Might wanna try introducing kegels into your daily routine.
 

Ambiance

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Hey JP-

I'm pretty jealous of you right now, having the opportunity to live with beautiful girls. Seems like this girl really wanted you bad... Nice work capitalizing on her attraction. I can't wait to get out of high school haha...

Some ideas that might help you keep hard: Chase has an excelent article about supercharging you sex drive, might want to check it out if you haven't already. The more you think about sex it seems the easier and less restrained everything turns out. Also check out the performance anxiety article. As far as masturbation goes, definitely refrain from doing it as much as possible, if you combine that with the supercharge article you'll be hard as adamant. You can also try bringing yourself right up to climax but not letting yourself go; this is good "practice" while retaining your "goods".

I'm pretty new to all this and am definitely not an authority, but there's my 2 cents.

Lastly Chase mentioned in a comment that he had scientific research stating guys sleep worse with company, while women actually sleep the same or even better. Although if you give her all you got you should sleep sound :)

Good work, nice to hear you're doing well

-Ambiance
 

JPWorld

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Hey guys, sorry for the delay,

John116 said:
Mate, I hear ya (re: the NoFap loss of stamina). I've had trouble lasting more than 3-4 minutes since I started it late last year. But I would say the benefits of it outweigh the loss of stamina. Might wanna try introducing kegels into your daily routine.

It's a real pain to be honest. I'm now almost exactly 2 months into Nofap and Noporn and I literally have no desire to do EITHER. I'm so mentally clear it's brilliant! It's just a shame about that. One guy did say practice "posh wanks" (wanking with a condom)to practice staying hard and getting used to the feeling of a condom. But if you're on a noFap streak then avoid that. I think the stamina will just come with the more sex I have and the more often I have it. It will take practice.

Ambiance said:
I'm pretty jealous of you right now, having the opportunity to live with beautiful girls. Seems like this girl really wanted you bad... Nice work capitalizing on her attraction. I can't wait to get out of high school haha...

I quite liked this lay purely because I live with her, so it's not as if I'm out and I'm trying to be "on", where I'm actively working on my fundamentals etc etc. I'm just being myself around the flat, not thinking about much and it's enough to attract her. Quite encouraging, really.

And yeah cheers buddy, I'll check those article out!

Ambiance said:
Lastly Chase mentioned in a comment that he had scientific research stating guys sleep worse with company, while women actually sleep the same or even better.

I HADN'T HEARD OF THIS - that's so encouraging. I honestly thought it was just me or a select handful of guys.

Cheers buddy!

- JP
 
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