My Journal

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Hello everyone on the boards. I thought a journal would be a good place to start a post on the forum.

Now would be a good time to introduce myself. I am fortunately anonymous and have a random username. I’m new to the boards, but very familiar with the Girlschase website.

I’ve had my first successes with women thanks to Chases’ articles. His blog is the first I’ve seen that helped me significantly in seduction. Now I’m looking to further improve my skills.

I think a good place to start is with the newbie assignment, especially since I just moved to a new city. I like how the progression is laid out to ease people into the process.

I hope you all have a good day and wish everyone the best of luck in finding those amazing girls.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 1

Hello Everyone. Today is the first day of my newbie assignment.

The goal today is to find 4 places that have the kind of women I want to meet. In addition, make sure there is enough turnover for sufficient approaches and the location is easy to get to so there is less mental resistance to overcome.

All of the places I found are easy access and short distance. These are the spots I found on my trip

Tourist Spot: This place has some history, but I’m interested in what it offers today. While there are a lot of vacationing families and older folks, there are always a few women out. Maybe they are alone looking for a romantic fling overseas

Market/mall hybrid: Near the tourist spot and filled with tourists. Busy all day every day. Lots of international foreigners speaking different languages. Some girls are eating alone, maybe hoping to meet someone

I tried another place, but there wasn’t much turnover, oh well.

Park: LOTS of girls open and by themselves. Either walking, walking with a dog, or sitting. There’s no pressure to avoid approaching, like security, and the atmosphere is more relaxed and well, welcoming. I like this place a lot so far.

Library: It’s a huge library with two sections: Quiet Study and Study. Common sense tells me people in the quiet section do not want to be disturbed. I won’t approach there anytime soon. The other section seems like fair play. Some girls are reading in between book isles on the floor, while other lounge about on their laptops. Plenty of approaches to be had.

BONUS Transit: I used the local trains to get around, it’s the fastest way around the city. Some stations were better than others, but I got a lot of approach invitations. One girl even walked across the train to stand next to me and put her phone away. If that doesn’t scream “I WANT TO MEET YOU”, I don’t know what does.

So far, I’ve checked out a couple places I can meet women: a tourist spot, library, park, and mall. I’ve struggled in the past looking for good watering holes, but now I’m confident in my new training grounds.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 1 again​

Hello everyone. Today I am doing a little extra exploring before moving onto the next task. Yesterday I went to locations my guide had already taken me, so this time I want explore on my own.

Let’s see what I can find

College campus: Lots of girls walking in between classes, usually at the end of each hour. Plenty of girls sitting in the student union. If I bring a backpack and dress business casual, I fit in with the student/staff.

Cafés: Not a lot of turnover in each one, but when they are bunched together, there is plenty of turnover. Alternatively, I could just add one approach to the day in a coffee shop.

Museum: This one is free admission, and has a mix of tourists and locals. I’m sure a girl wouldn’t mind meeting a hot guy there.

Social event: I went to a small social meetup at the end of the day. Only a dozen or so people showed up. I think that using many social events may help increase the number of women I can meet.

Overall, not as eventful as the previous day, probably because I didn't have a guide to point me to the best locations.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 2

Hello everyone. Today I’m back at the newbie assignment and the focus is on posture.

I went back the my first locations. As I watched people pass by, the first thing I notice is shoulder placement. People with their shoulders rolled behind their backs looked powerful, while people with their shoulders rolled forward looked feeble. The differences were present regardless of muscle mass.

As far as head placement goes, the most confident people had their head stacked over their spine. Anyone with their head arched forward or facing down looked like they were old and dying.

I didn’t really pay attention to how straight backs were, but all the confident walkers I saw had straight backs

Now it’s my turn. I didn’t see a whole lot more approach invitations than normal, until I looked in a mirror and realized why. I pulled my shoulders all the way back and UP, which made me look more like an alien than an attractive guy. Oops

On the second round with corrected posture, it was a world of a difference. Loads of glances from girls. Also, wherever I walked, people would move out of my way as if I had a forcefield.

Another thing I noticed was that people were more likely to move out of my way if I looked at them or in their direction. Even people with confident walks got out of my way

On the other hand, I would get more glances from girls in my peripheral view than my central view. I wonder why.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Hello everyone. It’s a sunny day out today and the focus is on eye contact. My goal is to hold eye contact with people and observe their reactions.

The first person I made eye contact with didn’t last a second before his eyes darted down.

Most people wouldn’t hold eye contact with me for long, unless I was in a conversation with them.

It was harder for me to hold eye contact when I was talking, especially when I was thinking. I also felt uncomfortable holding eye contact with someone who looked intimidating, until they smiled and defused the pressure. I felt uncomfortable holding eye contact with someone if it looked liked I was putting pressure on them to hold eye contact.





There were a lot of different scenarios I felt uncomfortable holding eye contact, but recognizing when and maybe why helped me feel more comfortable holding strong eye contact.





Overall, a great exercise I would recommend.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 4

Hello everyone. Today is the day I start talking to women. Well, it’s not the first time I’ve approached girls, but it’s been a long time since my last one.

The first person I said hi to was in line at a coffee shop. The second bumped into me on the street and I said high.

Problems
Then I tried to say high to people walking on the street. It didn’t go as expected. Most times I said high behind someone it fell on def ear. When I tried to say hi to girls walking past me, they did just that, they walked past me.

The goal of the exercise was to break the ice and engage women, but most didn’t engage.

Another problem I ran into was not wanting to approach in front of other people, unless it seemed lowkey. I felt a lot of pressure to avoid approaching.

My guess is my brain thinks that if I say hi and she responds cold, then it blows up in my face.

Approaches
The last four were at a park. One girl sitting on the bench. I walked past, turned around, turned around, and said hi. She looked at me but said nothing back. The last three were the same.

Solution
Either it’s my fundamentals or process. My guess is both. I can try smiling more and opening girls from the side or trying to stop girls before saying hi. I will also go to a different venue tomorrow

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

TLDR

I approached 6 girls, asked them about their day, introduced myself, and a little more.

I confronted some beliefs I had on who would notice and what is allowed. I did this with little tests in public.

As much as Chase, and other awesome PUAs on the blog, have written for us, some things we just have to figure out on our own.

Some of my approaches fell on deaf ears, sometimes I persisted, and sometimes it worked.

Day 5 (beginning of post)

Hello everyone. Todays another big day. I ask girls how their day is going, and introduce myself, how fun.

Yesterday I ran into problems with girls being unreceptive on approach, outright ignoring it.

While reading through some articles last night, I may have found a solution. Lower the pressure on them to respond. Ask for directions or something situationally relevant, instead of walking up and saying hi. Let’s see how it goes.

Tried to approach in transit but it fell on deaf ears. I’ll have to make it more obvious next time, while remaining low pressure.

My first approach was in the library. Walking to the elevator, there was a lone girl waiting. I looked in her eyes until she looked back. I waved and said hi, she smiled. Then I motioned with my hand to take her earbuds out, so I could ask her how her day was going.

I wanted to build momentum, so I asked if she was studying too, what college she’s going to, what she’s studying, and what the major is about. Not bad.

I had this big fear about being noticed by other people that was stopping me from approaching, so I did a little test.

I sat down near everyone, pulled out my phone, and pretended to take a call from family. Nobody watched me, or even heard me. Most people had headphones in, were absorbed in what they were doing, or was out of earshot.

This is huge.

It didn’t take me more than a minute for my next approach and it was in front of people. I pulled a chair, sat down, stared at the girl in front of me until she looked back, and started small talking.

My third approach was in an elevator. I wasn’t planning on saying hi, but I got off on the wrong floor and hopped back in. I asked how her day was going, and introduced myself

Fourth approach, sitting down. I walked up to her side, asking her about her textbook, then sat down and asked how her day was going, and then introduced myself. This time both of us smiled, like a warm smile.

I went back to the station, practically empty. There was one girl I attempted to approach. I got her to look, smile and say hi. Then I asked how her day was going. But she didn’t hear, her headphones were in. Then the train came. Next time, I need to motion her earbuds out.

Out of the train, there was a cute girl behind me on the escalator and nobody was around to stop me. I quickly turned back, smiled and said hi. She looked at me, and then pretended I didn’t exist. Maybe she was uncomfortable because there was no one around, or I went to fast, or came across an uncalibrated way.

Waved at a girl on the street. No response. Maybe I need to stop and motion her to stop first.

On the bright side, I found another great place to meet more well put together women in the up and coming side of town

Fifth girl at the park. I she let me sit, but went back to doodling. I didn’t want this approach to go, so I pulled up a picture of what I thought the her art looked like to get her attention, then I said hi. Turns out, she wasn’t as cold when I finally got her headphones of. I’m sitting next to her as I am writing this paragraph. Onto the next one.

6th approach and my favorite. Back to the library and I walk past this absolute stunner. I grab a book and walk back to her, then walk past her thinking to myself, there is no way I…can approach HER! Then I say fuck it and walked to her anyways.

She was super warm. Her voice was soft and she welcomed me. It was awesome.

I’ll add a summary because a lot happened.

TLDR

I approached 6 girls, asked them about their day, introduced myself, and a little more.

I confronted some beliefs I had on who would notice and what is allowed. I did this with little tests in public.

As much as Chase, and other awesome PUAs on the blog, have written for us, some things we just have to figure out on our own.

Some of my approaches fell on deaf ears, sometimes I persisted, and sometimes it worked.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

Day 6

Hello everyone. Today is an off day, meaning I only need to approach one girl.

I went to an unfamiliar location, so it took a while to find a place I was comfortable to approach.

I ended up using one of my get out of jail free card openers, asking to pet a girls dog.

Then we chit chat about her dogs name and I bid farewell.