My way to deal with oneitis - Burn the bridges

[empath]

Oks so the context is.

I get oneitis when I am very close to complete a seduction but it does not happen and its an emotionally charged one where even my emotions are invested for a longer period. Say around 2-3 weeks or time spent together greater than 5-6 hours.

Now if suddenly say you laid her there were future projections of activity to do together next time and you meant it. Or you felt certain emotions but were not able to say them cause not conducive for sedcution thoght you will say these things when you lock them.

Now either you lost the cool and fucked it up (my case)

Some external factor came.

If you are somone who is a bit obssesive and emotional.

You will keep thinking about her probably if you are like me who likes to day dream and fantasies you will think how great things will be when you get her back.

What is happening is you are putting more mental investment while your logical brain knows nothing will happen.

Causing more desparation.

Tbh these thoughts are not easy to escape.

Best way.

Kill that hope you will get together.

Now how do you do that.

Man the process is anti-seductive.

Just call her if she picks up have a fight or anything

If she is not just leave a voice note.

If she had some fault you can blame her vent etc. and then you will know for sure now she is not coming back.

And you can just be as raw as you want.

If you are bit sadist, I can be to those who hurt me. Be it tell her ... Her insecurities etc.

Again most guys dont need this putting it here for someone like me.

Who is less mature and childish.

Even girls do it and thats how the emotions which were attached go away.

Hopefull once you reach absolute abundance you dont need it but not everyone will be there right so some band-aid.

 

[topcat]

orr…like don’t spend 5-6 hours of facetime and 2-3 weeks on a chick you haven’t fucked more than 3 times…

 

[empath]

orr…like don’t spend 5-6 hours of facetime and 2-3 weeks on a chick you haven’t fucked more than 3 times…

Agreed for future. But its there if damage is done.

 

[LimeLight]

Check out the book The Passion Trap.
Also, redirecting your energy and efforts and emotions to new women is a must.

 

[empath]

Check out the book The Passion Trap.
Also, redirecting your energy and efforts and emotions to new women is a must.

Agreed but I was not able to focus on other because until I burnt the bridge all energy and my brain was focused on how to get her back.

Despite knowing it will never happen. Almost nil odds.

Now she is out of mind I am my flirty self. Obvio now I will be pimping investment from girls far more.

 

[Skills]

Oks so the context is.

I get oneitis when I am very close to complete a seduction but it does not happen and its an emotionally charged one where even my emotions are invested for a longer period. Say around 2-3 weeks or time spent together greater than 5-6 hours.

Now if suddenly say you laid her there were future projections of activity to do together next time and you meant it. Or you felt certain emotions but were not able to say them cause not conducive for sedcution thoght you will say these things when you lock them.

Now either you lost the cool and fucked it up (my case)

Some external factor came.

If you are somone who is a bit obssesive and emotional.

You will keep thinking about her probably if you are like me who likes to day dream and fantasies you will think how great things will be when you get her back.

What is happening is you are putting more mental investment while your logical brain knows nothing will happen.

Causing more desparation.

Tbh these thoughts are not easy to escape.

Best way.

Kill that hope you will get together.

Now how do you do that.

Man the process is anti-seductive.

Just call her if she picks up have a fight or anything

If she is not just leave a voice note.

If she had some fault you can blame her vent etc. and then you will know for sure now she is not coming back.

And you can just be as raw as you want.

If you are bit sadist, I can be to those who hurt me. Be it tell her ... Her insecurities etc.

Again most guys dont need this putting it here for someone like me.

Who is less mature and childish.

Even girls do it and thats how the emotions which were attached go away.

Hopefull once you reach absolute abundance you dont need it but not everyone will be there right so some band-aid.

Horrible low odds autistic and retarded... What you go through i have gone through with every onitis.. to the point i kill the hope in that you are right... The difference I don't need to call her get into a fight and leave voice note or delete number... I am still kind of hurt and sad, but I control myself, cut contact and once they reach out then i game then again correctly.... You get these feelings because you feel like you have no control of the situation...but the calling and leaving the voice note to burn bridges is idiotic kills any odds... I have been able to seduce pretty much all my onitis after that point... The point of game os to seduce your onitis no to burn bridges... One of the most idiotic advice i have seen...

 

[empath]

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Horrible low odds autistic and retarded... What you go through i have gone through with every onitis.. to the point i kill the hope in that you are right... The difference I don't need to call her get into a fight and leave voice note or delete number... I am still kind of hurt and sad, but I control myself, cut contact and once they reach out then i game then again correctly.... You get these feelings because you feel like you have no control of the situation...but the calling and leaving the voice note to burn bridges is idiotic kills any odds... I have been able to seduce pretty much all my onitis after that point... The point of game os to seduce your onitis no to burn bridges... One of the most idiotic advice i have seen...

I know for most people its idotic.

But if you are someone like me. With very less self control. Not zero, I waited for 2 weeks tried everything to get her out.

Someone whos very emotional, or prone to emotional outbrust, no point keeping the shit in your heart.

Someone made you feel bad, you have all the right to make them feel same.

Lastly, once she was out of my heart and head, had geniunely most sound sleep.

No wishing she text me or call me.

Nada.

Went out for sarging. (Monday is not a day to go out almost zero volume)

Made an approach. So yeah progress.

I bet some people can get help from this.

For most general advice is better to keep the odds.

I dont want any odds with her now.

 

[LimeLight]

Agreed but I was not able to focus on other because until I burnt the bridge all energy and my brain was focused on how to get her back.

Despite knowing it will never happen. Almost nil odds.

Now she is out of mind I am my flirty self. Obvio now I will be pimping investment from girls far more.

Ah, you already are over her.

It seems the best advice is to avoid getting this emotionally attached in the first place. At a certain point, it becomes exponentially more difficult to control your behaviors when you’re “in love”. And ironically, the less interest she shows, the more attached you get. Just a downward spiral.

But it sounds like you learned your lesson and this won’t happen again, so my advice in this post is for others.

 

[Skills]

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I know for most people its idotic.

But if you are someone like me. With very less self control. Not zero, I waited for 2 weeks tried everything to get her out.

Someone whos very emotional, or prone to emotional outbrust, no point keeping the shit in your heart.

Someone made you feel bad, you have all the right to make them feel same.

Lastly, once she was out of my heart and head, had geniunely most sound sleep.

No wishing she text me or call me.

Nada.

Went out for sarging. (Monday is not a day to go out almost zero volume)

Made an approach. So yeah progress.

I bet some people can get help from this.

For most general advice is better to keep the odds.

I dont want any odds with her now.

empath again how it works is:

- you make in your mind is not going to happen and move on and not chase
- once this happens she will ping or reach out usually if done correctly
- last resort you can ping later months later

^ burning the bridges is not optimal, getting to the stoic point of self control is...

Deleting numbers, blocking, burning bridges give you 0 odds, is useless... Again handling neediness is initially hard, takes experience, the best way is when you are on the other side and you see girls engaging in needy behavior and being clingy... This insight when girls are doing that to you makes you more self aware (unfortunately you never had girls doing the behavior you are doing, hopefully one day you will experience see and how annoying and repulsive an unattractive it is, even if she is hot)

I agree with you in moving on, i don't agree on the way you are going about it, with the leaving a voice note or a nasty phone call... get it!

 

[empath]

Inga

empath again how it works is:

- you make in your mind is not going to happen and move on and not chase
- once this happens she will ping or reach out usually if done correctly
- last resort you can ping later months later

^ burning the bridges is not optimal, getting to the stoic point of self control is...

Deleting numbers, blocking, burning bridges give you 0 odds, is useless... Again handling neediness is initially hard, takes experience, the best way is when you are on the other side and you see girls engaging in needy behavior and being clingy... This insight when girls are doing that to you makes you more self aware (unfortunately you never had girls doing the behavior you are doing, hopefully one day you will experience see and how annoying and repulsive an unattractive it is, even if she is hot)

I agree with you in moving on, i don't agree on the way you are going about it, with the leaving a voice note or a nasty phone call... get it!

I have had girls do this behaviour.

Even I myself leave many chicks on read which I think myself as lay nothing more.

So yeah I get her behaviour.

But then I am someone who lacks self control a lot.

There are many like me I bet.

But yeah probably once I have more confidence in my skills this will go away

But my whole point is if you are being unproductive to girl you met randomly have no social ties. Probably will not have any social ties. Why not just do what gives your mind peace. Whether she sees you as atttactive or not how does it matter.

Now I dont want to even lay her.

And I will be always an unattractive guy in someones books and very atttaractive in someone else.

What I am saying is not a permanent fix but a quick fix.

Over the time I know I need to fix my insecurities, mindset which caused clingyness in first place.

But even before it I want peace in my mind right.