Need help with a girl i've been talking too.

[thatguy777]

Alright, so i have known this girl for a decent while, going on three years now. We went to adult education together and became very good friends. We hung out all day for our ten hour school days. But she was seeing a guy that whole. But then after i graduated (finally got my diploma!) we kind of lost contact, then one day i decided to hit her up and we made plans to meet up and catch up. After we met up we ended up flirting a little bit and i found out she was single. So i asked her on a date and we went out to dinner a few times. And all was good.
Then one night at a party i got messed up pretty bad and drunk text her confessing how much I liked her. And she confessed to liking me. So the next night she came over and we watched movies, ordered a pizza and took a few tokes, we spent all night cuddled up on the couch and i had the time of my life. But because im a panzy i didnt kiss her or make any other move. We flirted for a few days longer. But now, a little over a week after our great night. We barely talk. When we do its a day or two between replies..
I dont what i did to mess up but is there anyway i can save this relationship? I've been single for a long time and have very life game. I really like this girl and would appreciate any advice.

oh shes 19 and im about to turn 21 in may

 

[Intimidator]

Getting her to hang out with you again might be tough, but if you do you've gotta make a move fast. Psych yourself up if you have to. If you want to fuck her, you've gotta go balls out.

 

[thatguy777]

How should i go about getting pumped? the whole time we we're together that night i promised myself id kiss her on the cheek at the very least, but when we hugged, she hugged me forever like she was waiting for it and i just couldnt make myself do it. Its kind of taking all i am not to just straight up ask her if shes interested... this would be a horrible idea, right?

 

[ocantu1987]

because im a panzy i didnt kiss her or make any other move.

That was your chance right there and you didn't make a move, this causes auto-rejection. If she was at your place then she was waiting for you to make a move.

 

[thatguy777]

does that mean game over? If i chill with her again do you think shed see it as just friends?

 

[Intimidator]

How should i go about getting pumped? the whole time we we're together that night i promised myself id kiss her on the cheek at the very least, but when we hugged, she hugged me forever like she was waiting for it and i just couldnt make myself do it. Its kind of taking all i am not to just straight up ask her if shes interested... this would be a horrible idea, right?

No kissing her on the cheek and no waiting until the last possible moment at the end of the night. Do it spontaneously in the middle of the night or at a moment where you catch each other's eyes in conversation. Just force yourself to go for it. You'll be glad you did.

 

[ocantu1987]

na man, you can still bounce back. Try giving her radio silence for 7 days and then text her to see whats up dont be surprised if she all of sudden text or calls you first, also try to avoid one-itis, you should try approaching and talking to other girls wherever you see them.

I suggest a bar when you turn 21 preferably with alot of tables haha good way to practice approaches. It worked for me and it helped my day game as well

 

[thatguy777]

got any advice on how to get myself pumped enough to do it? we usually end up smoking together and i end up getting all paranoid and nervous about it. So you think i should just drop her for like a week, and if she hasnt texted me by then i should text her? I'm always on the look out for other girls and ill be hitting the bar scene for sure when i turn 21.

 

[ocantu1987]

got any advice on how to get myself pumped enough to do it? we usually end up smoking together and i end up getting all paranoid and nervous about it. So you think i should just drop her for like a week, and if she hasnt texted me by then i should text her? I'm always on the look out for other girls and ill be hitting the bar scene for sure when i turn 21.

Imagine success with this girl over and over, imagine yourself giving her elite eye contact that might help out with getting pumped.

Yes one week, I mean zero messages or phone calls. Then text her again.

 

[thatguy777]

Alright man, i wont text her til after work next Thursday. I'm an extremely small guy. 5'7 20 years old and about 110 pounds, ive tried gaining weight, but i think i might start hitting the gym and really trying to better my appearance to get pumped.

 

[Casanovelis]

Always err on the side of action over inaction. Looking back, it is where I usually went wrong.

 

[ocantu1987]

Alright man, i wont text her til after work next Thursday. I'm an extremely small guy. 5'7 20 years old and about 110 pounds, ive tried gaining weight, but i think i might start hitting the gym and really trying to better my appearance to get pumped.

haha glad you mentioned this man I can help with that.

#1 rule- you have too eat a ton (healthy food)
#2-compound lifts-squats, deadlifts, military press, pull ups, rows

here is the routine I started off with http://stronglifts.com/stronglifts-5x5- ... g-program/
I made some good gains, I was also super skinny.

Here is another great website http://www.muscleandstrength.com/forum/forum.php
I am on the forum and I always ask questions there and people always help me out

Weight lifting alone wont get you big, Nutrition,Nutrition,Nutrition is critical IMO

 

[thatguy777]

Thanks for the weight gain advice, may i ask how much you gained? being a little guy like us is no fun. and for the record im a porter, so i spend 40 hours a week literally throwing heavy ass luggage around. haha

 

[Doctor]

Octanu has given you good advice here but I just wanted to say just over a year ago I weighed 112 pounds. I now weigh 175 pounds at 11% body fat. So it's possible.

When I was 112 pounds I was a construction labourer so I did plenty of heavy work but I didn't eat enough. I added in plenty of calories and protein into my diet and the muscle started to pile on. I am by no means huge now but I have girls say very nice things about my body when we finally both get naked, which is nice after struggling so long with my weight.

As a side note I actually had an eating disorder which was why I was so light (I am 6'1" so 112 pounds is tiny) and the main thing that helped with the weight gain was drinking lots of milk. It means I avoided big meals and just had to drink more, which helped with my disorder. Google GOMAD, there is a lot of mixed opinion about it but it helped me massively.

Oh and about the girl, I agree with the others, you need to get her out and this time make a move. Because you didn't do this before she currently thinks you cannot satisfy her sexually, and, as we know, all girls crave great sex! If it helps, when I want to kiss a girl I always look at her lips and think to myself what they will taste like and how soft they will feel against mine. Oftentimes this leads to the girl noticing you staring at her lips with a seductive look on your face and you almost end up kissing by default, very little action needed after that, just lean in and go for it!

 

[ocantu1987]

Thanks for the weight gain advice, may i ask how much you gained? being a little guy like us is no fun. and for the record im a porter, so i spend 40 hours a week literally throwing heavy ass luggage around. haha

I was 120, now I am 165.