Need insight in overcoming my current dilemma

[schkaufer]

Hey guys, just wanted to hear your advice about my current situation.

So I`ve started integrading seducing women into my lifestyle, and open any girl anywhere, that I find at least somewhat attractive and go for the pull. My dilemma here is not the - getting number part- , its rather the no reply part after asking for the date.

So far I`ve pulled 7 girls in 3 days (aiming to gradually increase my pull rate - all cold approaches btw) .Ever-since I`ve started actively using the information on this site (It`s only been 3 days so far) and I`m hit with an obstacle I have yet to overcome.

Once I get their numbers, I text them an ice breaker text from 2-3 hours after the approach. I get a warm reply back, on average their like something along the lines.... (The example below, is a true reply from one of the girls I pulled - a girl I met yesterday to be precise)

2-3 hours after approach, she seemed fairly interested ;

(9:03 pm) Me: Was nice meeting you today -Schkaufer
(9:18 pm) Jessica: was nice meeting you too

Next day, the ask out, via text ;

(3:50 pm) Me: Hey Jessica Let`s figure out a time to grab a bite or have some drinks. How`s your schedule like next week

NO REPLY- (it`s been a day so far)

all 7 of my pulls resulted in a - NO REPLY

Now these are what I believe my mistakes may be ;

- Not scheduling the date before asking for the number
-OR-
- Not building enough rapport before asking for the date
-OR-
- Both of the above.


I have a feeling that I`m maybe moving to fast, and not letting things go smoothly. For those who are interested in seeing my FR (not sure if I`m using the right term) for one of the girls I pulled. Click > (viewtopic.php?f=2&t=7622)
I`d be interested in reading your opinions and insights to my situation. Any critics are welcome!



Schkaufer

 

[PinotNoir]

First, 1 day isn't long enough. I feel like 1 week is the proper amount of wait time for a girl's reply. If she hasn't replied in 1 week, it is probably over. On some occasions, I've had girls wait 2 weeks until sending me a text. After 2-3 weeks of no reply, send a final message (without saying anything about replying/time), "Hey Jess drinking probably the best coffee in the world right now. how's life treating you?" or something to that effect. If she doesn't reply in 2 days after this, delete the number.

Secondly, you have to be a bit quicker with texting depending on how long you interacted. I also change up how much rapport I put in a text depending on this. Shorter interaction = move faster w/ more rapport. Longer interaction = move fast w/ less rapport (save it for the date).

Example #1:
Met a girl; told her she was beautiful; asked for her name and #; we exchanged, but both busy, so had to go.
For this, I'd text her 30-60min after with your ice breaker. Then I'd ask some questions about herself to get her more comfortable with me (make sure to add in some playful/light comments in there and some light jokes -- sexual jokes are good). Then I'd ask her what day she's free.

Example #2:
Met a girl; talked for a good 30 min; got her name and #; we parted.
For this, you can text later that night (or morning if met at night).

Example #3:
Met a girl; talked for a good 30 min and also ended up having a lot of touching and sexual conversation; we parted.
This probably should have lead to an instant date. This one is kind of interesting because if she said that she doesn't have any plans that night you can just text her an hour after meeting her and see if you can get a date that night. Else, you can wait until the next day to text her.

Thirdly, best-case scenario is to get the date set up when you meet them. "So Jess, I like talking with you... how about you get me your # and we meet for a date this week? When do you think you're free?" Girls who don't want to waste your time usually end up not giving their number then. But, girls that are truly interested will say, "Yeah, I'm free Thursday, blah blah blah" and the # will be hotter to replies.

 

[schkaufer]

PinotNoir,

You`re examples are just what I need to find the right balance, with rapport and time. I guess I`ve been so concerned in moving fast (in person and texting), that I haven`t gave these girls enough time to relate to me, and build that trust-bond connection. Now that I think of it, they were probably more skeptical in accepting the date, since they barely knew me. Makes alot of sense now. I appreciate the feed back

Schkaufer