Hello everyone,
I'm new to the forums but I've been big a reader on the site(some pretty awesome stuff!). In short, this site is full of great stuff and really offers valuable, difficult to come by advice pertaining to courtship dynamics.
Anyways, to get to the point of this post, I'm in a tricky situation with a girl and hoping to get some advice on how to deal with it and future, related circumstances.
So I met this girl in a class (colleg) and asked her if she wanted to study and exchanged numbers etc. Ignored me the first couple times I texted her but started replying after I built some rapport with her at a small party. After that we got together to study(seemed pretty into me at this point) but I just had no idea how to try escalate given the context in which we were meeting. After a couple more meet ups with great rapport and conversation, but lacking physical escalation, I started to figure I was well into the friend zone with no going back. I basically friendzoned her at this point and even made it clear to her that I thought of us as just friends. Figured my best bet is to move on and not pedastalize her.
Now this is where it gets more interesting. After she mostly ignored my texts over the weekend she messages me and says she was sad we weren't hanging out and asked me if I wanted to study the next day and go do something afterward. Said sure and went along with it. After studying she proceeded to get the both of us nearly wasted and we ended up doing everything but have sex that night(wasn't prepared. Had seriously moved on! Lots of making out and what not).
Afterwards we both played it off cool... Probably too cool on my part since we haven't even talked about it since. Anyways, we've studied a few times since then but without anything sexual. Went home for summer for a couple weeks shortly afterwards and she proceeded to send me kinda flirty messages and says that she misses me and everything. So when I got back I asked her if you wanted to hangout and she said she couldn't make it but proposed an alt time when she got back to town. She ended up flaking on that today and asked if we could tomorrow instead. Said sure and left it at that kinda irritated.
My problem with all this is that my school has no women(like 80% guys) and I'm in a small town on top of that. There is literally almost no way of meeting lots of attractive women. And it makes getting the women you do get shots with that much more difficult. So I've unfortunately put this girl on a pedastal(really tried not too!) and am trying figure out if this girl is attention whoring or legitimately into me. But considering I live with 4 other guys its f*king impossible for me to have a smooth date template to try to escalate with her (the source of my problems from the beginning!) any thoughts on how to make the best of this instance specifically as well as how to make the best of my current crap situation with women would be extremely appreciated.
I'm new to the forums but I've been big a reader on the site(some pretty awesome stuff!). In short, this site is full of great stuff and really offers valuable, difficult to come by advice pertaining to courtship dynamics.
Anyways, to get to the point of this post, I'm in a tricky situation with a girl and hoping to get some advice on how to deal with it and future, related circumstances.
So I met this girl in a class (colleg) and asked her if she wanted to study and exchanged numbers etc. Ignored me the first couple times I texted her but started replying after I built some rapport with her at a small party. After that we got together to study(seemed pretty into me at this point) but I just had no idea how to try escalate given the context in which we were meeting. After a couple more meet ups with great rapport and conversation, but lacking physical escalation, I started to figure I was well into the friend zone with no going back. I basically friendzoned her at this point and even made it clear to her that I thought of us as just friends. Figured my best bet is to move on and not pedastalize her.
Now this is where it gets more interesting. After she mostly ignored my texts over the weekend she messages me and says she was sad we weren't hanging out and asked me if I wanted to study the next day and go do something afterward. Said sure and went along with it. After studying she proceeded to get the both of us nearly wasted and we ended up doing everything but have sex that night(wasn't prepared. Had seriously moved on! Lots of making out and what not).
Afterwards we both played it off cool... Probably too cool on my part since we haven't even talked about it since. Anyways, we've studied a few times since then but without anything sexual. Went home for summer for a couple weeks shortly afterwards and she proceeded to send me kinda flirty messages and says that she misses me and everything. So when I got back I asked her if you wanted to hangout and she said she couldn't make it but proposed an alt time when she got back to town. She ended up flaking on that today and asked if we could tomorrow instead. Said sure and left it at that kinda irritated.
My problem with all this is that my school has no women(like 80% guys) and I'm in a small town on top of that. There is literally almost no way of meeting lots of attractive women. And it makes getting the women you do get shots with that much more difficult. So I've unfortunately put this girl on a pedastal(really tried not too!) and am trying figure out if this girl is attention whoring or legitimately into me. But considering I live with 4 other guys its f*king impossible for me to have a smooth date template to try to escalate with her (the source of my problems from the beginning!) any thoughts on how to make the best of this instance specifically as well as how to make the best of my current crap situation with women would be extremely appreciated.
