need some help in this situation

[themainattraction]

Hey everyone, just to keep it short and sweet about me since I'm new:
A girl crushed (absolutely crushed) me 2 years ago. Went thru depression for some months, and afterwards started feeling more confident than ever before. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm good looking, athletic, pro salsa dancer, well educated, and in my young 20s. I should be the most confident person I know...but I'm not. Because on one girl.

We met dancing, and she's drop dead gorgeous. I knew how to handle the situation: stayed cool, never gave too much attention, always fun. And since she's gorgeous I never complimented her directly. And our personalities click like nothing I've seen before. We went from friends to admitting feelings. She said I swept her off her feet. Last month we kissed, and made out a few more times since then, and she was crazy about me. We texted nonstop all day. But she started working and started getting more distant, obviously. I didn't think it was gonna affect me so badly. I got so used to texting constantly with her.

we didn't see each other for two weeks and this is when you can say I started persisting more and more. And it felt forced, not natural like before. I finally saw her a couple days ago and she was cold but ibwarmed her up to me again. She said when she doesn't see someone for a while she gets detached, and I'm the complete opposite with someone I like. But essentially, I made her like me again. But now I'm being a pussy cuz I miss her constantly. I don't feel like the smooth, calm, super confident man she met 3 months ago that swept her off her feet. Now if she doesn't text back for a while I get so down on. myself, and that hasn't happened in years. So you can say I like her so much I turned into a little bitch i was two years ago. I'm seeing her again Monday, but until then I'm gonna be obsessing. And I've set up a few dinners with other girls but its not much help. Any advice on how to sweep her off her feet again?

its also worth mentioning that she adored me because I was respectful, kind, and a gentlemen, but in a cool suave way. I think she's tired of guys who constantly hit on her and are pigs to her. So yeah, any advice is good! Thanks!

 

[themainattraction]

Anything? I've been feeling so depressed for the past few days. I'm obsessing over her and I can't take it. I've read the article on that one special girl, but in this case we like each other and already hooked up. What do I do to stop obsessing over someone who likes me already? So I can keep cool and stop getting so down on myself when she responds less

 

[Inferno]

Hey bro. I'd be lying if I said this never happened to me. I'm a beginer, and i feel something like this could happen to me agin.
I had a crush on a girl who was 2 years older than me. she had always friendzoned me. As i read on in the site I found out why chiks do this and I sought to fix it. I would deep dive her, i would show im interested in her sexually but it all was to no avail. Eventually I came to a realization that chasing her made me worse with other girls . I didn't care, I still chased her forva good while. After she graduated i texted her and I tried to chase her into talking about sex. It failed. I thought to myself that she wasn't giving me the satisfactory relation i wanted with her and i cut her out of my life.

Now that i think back, i don't have much time to chase girls.. I have school, cross country, and Im planning on going to an art program soon. My advice is read the articles on the site about overcoming depression. Best of luck bro on your PUA adventure!

 

[Ross]

Moving slowly towards the bedroom coupled with wanting to get into a relationship with someone before sleeping with them is a death wish as far as relationships go.

For starters, your options are pretty much none as you are only obsessed with this one girl. Also, you need to understand what's going on in her mind. She thinks you're this really great guy, awesome even. You make her like you, then you do nothing past kissing with her. To her, all you are is this great guy who's just made out with her. Before sleeping with her and giving her an amazing time, you are hardly anything past platonic. Constantly failing to escalate is causing this rift between you two; she keeps giving you chances, but you only go halfway. Each time you fail to close the deal, it becomes harder.

You can only make someone so happy by being high value and saying you like them. Give them addictive sex and have an amazing time with them whenever you're together, then you're going to be a dynamic duo. You don't need to be some romantic man who does all this crazy stuff to make a woman like you to sweep them off their feet. You need to provide crazy amounts of physical pleasure coupled with that emotional satisfaction. So my advice with this girl is to sleep with her ASAP. Be prepared for resistance.

 

[steff]

Anything? I've been feeling so depressed for the past few days. I'm obsessing over her and I can't take it. I've read the article on that one special girl, but in this case we like each other and already hooked up. What do I do to stop obsessing over someone who likes me already? So I can keep cool and stop getting so down on myself when she responds less

Hey man!

Been there, and you have to work really hard to get her back. Although it's not impossible, like everyone says it.
You need to meet lots of other girls and she has to SEE it or hear about it somehow. It's the only possible way.
When she sees you with 3 or 4 different girls she'll reconsider everything and probably will want to go to bed with you.

But then you will realize that you are capable to have any kind of girl if you put the work into it, and you won't see her so "special" again. On the other hand you will still want to have her just to prove yourself, and when you finally take her to bed, you'll be like: that's all? I spent months chasing her just for this?

And you'll be totally confused and won't know how to continue your journey.
You will also cause pain to her if you get her back just to make her see that you can't make up your mind about yourself.

Try to put yourself in her position. Or imagine a girl doing the same things with you that you do to her. Would you consider her sexy or someone worth for a relationship?

I am not a pro in seducing, I also don't want to play the Oracle here, but I did got my special girl back once, and that confusion just made me lose all my confidence, and now I'm struggling to build it up again.
I don't want to tell you what to do, just be careful. It was much more painful to get her back and let her go again in a very short time. And after 6 months of hard work to get her back, she left me in less then a month and right after that she was shagging with another guy... and I can't even blame her!

I am also sure that if you keep going to salsa nights you'll find lots and lots of other girls with sparkling personalities, and after some good conversations, you won't even remember this girl's name.

Best of luck for you bro!

Steff

 

[themainattraction]

Thanks for all the advice guys.

So as i said, I was supposed to see her today. I was supposed to go over her house, where I was planning on being a lot more sexual. But she cancelled saying she can't do today, so I didn't respond. I'm just gonna go ghost and try to keep my mind off her.

Her best friend told me that she wasn't looking for anything serious, so I guess that's that.

Not that I'm gonna give up. But it's better that i back off for now rather than tell her how I feel, especially when she's ignoring me right? And maybe she'll realize she misses me and contacts me. If not, fuck it. Alternatively I was gonna say something like tell me where you think this is going so we can be on the same page. Too much? It

And I wish I could go out and talk to any girl and get to know them. But I keep thinking about this one girl. I haven't ever done any of the stuff mentioned on the site but I'm getting closer and closer to doing it. I just think it'll feel ridiculous at first and that's what's stopping me