Need Some Motivation

[d0ntc4r3]

Might be a bit of an odd post.

I'm 25. Only had 1 lay 5 years ago. Anytime I think about pursuing daygame and CA, I stop myself. Part of me thinks it's wrong to seduce women, especially if it's outright manipulation. It's easy for me to feel placated in life, be it with women, my career, etc. Mediocrity can feel good sometimes.

But then I look at my dating life and it's completely void. I look at the abundant lifestyle of the gaming community and it's really attractive. Then I read the Field Reports on here, and they're very encouraging. So in the end, deep down I want to pursue the pickup lifestyle of lays every week.

I recently got off a porn addiction too, so my libido is through the roof. But still, I stop myself.

Basically all I'm looking for is motivation to stop being a pussy and get out there and get some. Any words of encouragement?

 

[Higher]

First off, lemme tell you this: i think you might have what it takes to get what you want out of life.

You identified what the issue is.

You identified what your goal is, how important it is and how weak the alternatives are (if theres any).

You identified where to find the best guidance - this forum and the blog.

You suspect it might be hard to reach your goal. And you might be right.

But information-wise, theres no better place on the Internet than here.

All you need in order for change to happen is 1) high-quality information, and 2) conditions that conduce to the correct behaviour. Then, your personality will do the rest.

You probably read every key article from the blog and top post on the forum. So information-wise, you might already be well set to start right now.

Now you need to create the right conditions for improvement.

To do daygame, you need to figure out logistics and get yourself out there.

Make it easy for you to get out and put yourself in environments where women are abundant.

Set the proper difficulty level in order not to get burned and drop the ball too quickly - ie. forget about getting laid every week.

Start with something you can manage - eg. making eye contact with girls. Follow Chases newbie challenge (look it up on this forum) and gradually tune the level up.

Thats daygame already - at least the basics.

Then, work to slowly integrate it in your normal, day-to-day life.

It might take some time depending on your personality. But time doesnt matter - progress does.

To cement progress in your mind, make a journal and report back often. Ask questions on the Beginners forum. Youll get useful feedback and, if youre like me, youll avoid wasting time making the same mistakes over and over again.

Sooner or later, if you stick around and hard-headedly keep going, youll start owning this. Itll feel less like a chore and more like a part of who you are.

Thats how it worked for me. I saw no alternative.

Again, focus on the information and on smart action-taking.

You got this!

 

[d0ntc4r3]

First off, lemme tell you this: i think you might have what it takes to get what you want out of life.

You identified what the issue is.

You identified what your goal is, how important it is and how weak the alternatives are (if theres any).

You identified where to find the best guidance - this forum and the blog.

You suspect it might be hard to reach your goal. And you might be right.

But information-wise, theres no better place on the Internet than here.

All you need in order for change to happen is 1) high-quality information, and 2) conditions that conduce to the correct behaviour. Then, your personality will do the rest.

You probably read every key article from the blog and top post on the forum. So information-wise, you might already be well set to start right now.

Now you need to create the right conditions for improvement.

To do daygame, you need to figure out logistics and get yourself out there.

Make it easy for you to get out and put yourself in environments where women are abundant.

Set the proper difficulty level in order not to get burned and drop the ball too quickly - ie. forget about getting laid every week.

Start with something you can manage - eg. making eye contact with girls. Follow Chases newbie challenge (look it up on this forum) and gradually tune the level up.

Thats daygame already - at least the basics.

Then, work to slowly integrate it in your normal, day-to-day life.

It might take some time depending on your personality. But time doesnt matter - progress does.

To cement progress in your mind, make a journal and report back often. Ask questions on the Beginners forum. Youll get useful feedback and, if youre like me, youll avoid wasting time making the same mistakes over and over again.

Sooner or later, if you stick around and hard-headedly keep going, youll start owning this. Itll feel less like a chore and more like a part of who you are.

Thats how it worked for me. I saw no alternative.

Again, focus on the information and on smart action-taking.

You got this!

Thanks man. The Field Reports (especially the LR's) are really encouraging (and f-ing HOT). I know that I just need to commit to this lifestyle change and I'll get the dating life I want in no time. I just need to man up and embrace the debauchery lol.

I'm committing here and now to pursuing the dating life of my dreams. Will follow your advice and start a journal soon-ish. Thanks my guy.

 

[Marcellus]

Start with the Newbie assignment.
That should get the ball rolling.

If you go on the beginners section of the boards, at the top of the page it'll say "NEW, START HERE". That's where the assignment is....

Welcome to the boards
Happy hunting

 

[d0ntc4r3]

Start with the Newbie assignment.
That should get the ball rolling.

If you go on the beginners section of the boards, at the top of the page it'll say "NEW, START HERE". That's where the assignment is....

Welcome to the boards
Happy hunting

Thanks dude. I'm out of town atm with my family but when I get back I'll start that.