I live in a student dormitory. because of this I have a habit of sleeping with alot of my neighneighbors... recently I met a cute girl with a pretty face. she seemed really into me, but didn't take her number. I met her a week later where she was really mad at me because apparently she had tries to contact me and i haven't replied. (I dont know, something went wrong), I took her number and said we should hang out, she agreed.
Today she randomly wrote me and said shr saw me through my window. and that she literally lives next to me. she asked me if i had a roommate, I told her she can come over, I have the room for myself.
she walks in, asks me if i have Wi-Fi, then exclaiming "well that's not why I'm here i guess.."I smile at her, start pulling the curtains. she asks me what im doing, I smile at her again, gently put my hands on her wrists, say "this" but she moves away, a bit awkward and stiff with a "what's going on here" and tells me she didn't come here for sex but for connecting. she walks towards my door, stands there.
she immediately says she needs to go to the bathroom, I smile and tell her she is free to go. she starts instead arguing with me, asks if I do this with all girls. doesn't let me answer (I stutter, she interrupts me alot) and then says she saw me talking to her friend. asks if I like her, i tell her i think she is pretty yes, I finally tell her "I'm sorry for making you uncomfortable, I am just very fast with beautiful girls cause I don't want to wait when i know i want something." I ask her nicely to sit down cause im a 2 meter tall guy and im not used to tilting my head like this while i smile at her
she blushes, asks me questions like how well i know her. asks me where she is from, I get all of them correct, except how we met, i got the specific day wrong. she says she needs to go. I tell her i want her to stay but she can leave anytime she wants. she leaves, saying she wants to talk over text now.
Not sure what went wrong here. have a feeling I didn't disqualify myself enough as a boyfriend candidate before this happened? or maybe it's an attainability issue, she gets the feeling i have probably slept with all my neighbours and therefore she's not special ? (in fact, if I slept with her it would hage been full circle haha)
my focus was to get her to sit with me in the bed, I knew that if i could do that, part of ger brain would think "ok". Didn't happen though...
Today she randomly wrote me and said shr saw me through my window. and that she literally lives next to me. she asked me if i had a roommate, I told her she can come over, I have the room for myself.
she walks in, asks me if i have Wi-Fi, then exclaiming "well that's not why I'm here i guess.."I smile at her, start pulling the curtains. she asks me what im doing, I smile at her again, gently put my hands on her wrists, say "this" but she moves away, a bit awkward and stiff with a "what's going on here" and tells me she didn't come here for sex but for connecting. she walks towards my door, stands there.
she immediately says she needs to go to the bathroom, I smile and tell her she is free to go. she starts instead arguing with me, asks if I do this with all girls. doesn't let me answer (I stutter, she interrupts me alot) and then says she saw me talking to her friend. asks if I like her, i tell her i think she is pretty yes, I finally tell her "I'm sorry for making you uncomfortable, I am just very fast with beautiful girls cause I don't want to wait when i know i want something." I ask her nicely to sit down cause im a 2 meter tall guy and im not used to tilting my head like this while i smile at her
she blushes, asks me questions like how well i know her. asks me where she is from, I get all of them correct, except how we met, i got the specific day wrong. she says she needs to go. I tell her i want her to stay but she can leave anytime she wants. she leaves, saying she wants to talk over text now.
Not sure what went wrong here. have a feeling I didn't disqualify myself enough as a boyfriend candidate before this happened? or maybe it's an attainability issue, she gets the feeling i have probably slept with all my neighbours and therefore she's not special ? (in fact, if I slept with her it would hage been full circle haha)
my focus was to get her to sit with me in the bed, I knew that if i could do that, part of ger brain would think "ok". Didn't happen though...
" or you can go meta and be sincere "are you asking all these questions because you think I do not value you as a person?". If she says yes then you reassure her, yes indeed you like her and you think there might be a good connection between you two or if she says no you can ask her what the real reason is and go with that. I think the second option might have been better here.