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Not sure how I feel about this girl, but here is a recap of the date.
I met her on okcupid. On my profile, I say that i'm a pirate and list of things that I saw pirates do in that Black Sails show and pass them off as my own life. It starts off, "When I'm not out plundering for booty." I don't put a whole lot of effort into online b/c I think its really stacked against guys favor. However, this profile has been pretty successful for me. I get one or 2 girls a month message me asking about the 'booty', this one just said it looks like im taking online dating pretty seriously.
After the first message she sent me, I just laughed and asked her how the online dating was going for her. Every girl seems to mention that they have met creeps on the internet, something I strive not to be. I always try to suggest that we meet up within the first few messages and give them my number. This works most of the time, but sometimes they will say they want to get to know you by messaging. This girl was the messaging type. I sort of loathe messaging and texting, so most cases, I will not talk to them again. However, sometimes I will wake up super horny and restart the conversations with these girls and burn through like 20 girls on tinder. So after 20ish messages and inviting this girl out 3 times, she agreed to go out and gave me her number. Sidetip: I never ask for a girls number online.
For our date, she suggested that we go play pool. It turned out to be a really good idea, I usually just go to a bar and talk, but I really enjoyed being able to be up and moving. It also gives a lot of opportunities to touch. The conversations flowed really well, she is really into star trek, which I know nothing about. She also like final fantasy and some of those games. I'm a bit of a nerd myself, I programmed a lot of botting AI for MMOs and I do web development. There are so many topics in Nerddom though, one cannot be well versed in them all. As the date progressed, I was getting a little frustrated at how she wanted to find philosophical things to debate about everything. Somehow I found myself telling her about a project I thought of where take tons of messaging conversations and use those responses to try to get an AI to pass the Turing Test, then she got into a long tangent about how there can never be an AI and all. I really loathe those kind of conversations. I really enjoy problem solving, so I would love the challenges of building a robot... Debating whether or not that robot is reality just sounds exhausting.
Fortunately, some dudes came up and challenged us to doubles. I really got the feeling that one of them was trying to distract me so the other one could talk to the girl.
So my goals for this interaction were to:
1) Don't be a quiet loser and let the guys steal the night
2) Maximize time with the group and minimize being pulled aside by the wingman
3) Let the other guy do all of the debating ( debates are unwinnable)
4) Have fun
This all played out really well. I had some pretty good social momentum when they showed up. I also left the house feeling really good about my attire and have been generally happier since starting my new job. I felt totally confident that I could come out strong and it worked out. Honestly they knew a lot of the same people and would probably be perfect for each other, since they both like arguing about pointless stuff. I almost hope they exchanged numbers at some point. But yeah, I hate debates and arguments. You can't win, even if you sway someone one way, they will just revert back to their opinions later. Plus, I'm pretty sure I could slip up at some point and come off as a jerk.
As we left for another bar, I grabbed her and walked as she went on about misogyny this and chivalry is sexist that. I really have always hated holding hands, but I've been putting an effort into using more touch and it has been feeling more comfortable.
At the next bar, we were just one on one and making lots of eye contact. The mood felt perfect for a kiss. I told her I would be back in a minute (bathroom break) and went in for the kiss on my way out. She turned her head and gave me a cheek to kiss. She then ask how many times I'd done this, go out with girls I've met online. I was really taken aback. She noticed that and offered me the other cheek. I told her that I already kissed her cheek, she replied that I hadn't kissed that one and I told her maybe next time. I went on with the date it was about 6.5 hours and the later half I was feeling a little tired and tipsy and was mostly enduring the night.
Towards the end of the night, she asked me how old I was I just responded by asking how old she thought I was. She said 24, which probably means she thinks i'm in my late 20's, which I am 29, so that works.
While she seemed to be really natural with conversing and expressing her opinion and talking to guys, she dropped lots of hints as to how inexperienced with dating that she is. I also feel like she views me as way more successful with women than I actually am. She said something along the lines of online dating should be a last resort thing and shes surprised that I'm on there. I found this all a bit ironic b/c I find meeting new women to be quite difficult for me. Going on dates is pretty easy, getting the dates can be quite hard.
Needless to say, She seemed really interested in meeting again. I'm a little hesitant as I am not really into inexperienced girls these day, or the work you have to put into them, and I am not totally sure I could put up with all of the debates she wants to have. But she is a nice girl and I wouldn't mind having a GF for the winter.
Anyway, hope with FR is helpful.
I met her on okcupid. On my profile, I say that i'm a pirate and list of things that I saw pirates do in that Black Sails show and pass them off as my own life. It starts off, "When I'm not out plundering for booty." I don't put a whole lot of effort into online b/c I think its really stacked against guys favor. However, this profile has been pretty successful for me. I get one or 2 girls a month message me asking about the 'booty', this one just said it looks like im taking online dating pretty seriously.
After the first message she sent me, I just laughed and asked her how the online dating was going for her. Every girl seems to mention that they have met creeps on the internet, something I strive not to be. I always try to suggest that we meet up within the first few messages and give them my number. This works most of the time, but sometimes they will say they want to get to know you by messaging. This girl was the messaging type. I sort of loathe messaging and texting, so most cases, I will not talk to them again. However, sometimes I will wake up super horny and restart the conversations with these girls and burn through like 20 girls on tinder. So after 20ish messages and inviting this girl out 3 times, she agreed to go out and gave me her number. Sidetip: I never ask for a girls number online.
For our date, she suggested that we go play pool. It turned out to be a really good idea, I usually just go to a bar and talk, but I really enjoyed being able to be up and moving. It also gives a lot of opportunities to touch. The conversations flowed really well, she is really into star trek, which I know nothing about. She also like final fantasy and some of those games. I'm a bit of a nerd myself, I programmed a lot of botting AI for MMOs and I do web development. There are so many topics in Nerddom though, one cannot be well versed in them all. As the date progressed, I was getting a little frustrated at how she wanted to find philosophical things to debate about everything. Somehow I found myself telling her about a project I thought of where take tons of messaging conversations and use those responses to try to get an AI to pass the Turing Test, then she got into a long tangent about how there can never be an AI and all. I really loathe those kind of conversations. I really enjoy problem solving, so I would love the challenges of building a robot... Debating whether or not that robot is reality just sounds exhausting.
Fortunately, some dudes came up and challenged us to doubles. I really got the feeling that one of them was trying to distract me so the other one could talk to the girl.
So my goals for this interaction were to:
1) Don't be a quiet loser and let the guys steal the night
2) Maximize time with the group and minimize being pulled aside by the wingman
3) Let the other guy do all of the debating ( debates are unwinnable)
4) Have fun
This all played out really well. I had some pretty good social momentum when they showed up. I also left the house feeling really good about my attire and have been generally happier since starting my new job. I felt totally confident that I could come out strong and it worked out. Honestly they knew a lot of the same people and would probably be perfect for each other, since they both like arguing about pointless stuff. I almost hope they exchanged numbers at some point. But yeah, I hate debates and arguments. You can't win, even if you sway someone one way, they will just revert back to their opinions later. Plus, I'm pretty sure I could slip up at some point and come off as a jerk.
As we left for another bar, I grabbed her and walked as she went on about misogyny this and chivalry is sexist that. I really have always hated holding hands, but I've been putting an effort into using more touch and it has been feeling more comfortable.
At the next bar, we were just one on one and making lots of eye contact. The mood felt perfect for a kiss. I told her I would be back in a minute (bathroom break) and went in for the kiss on my way out. She turned her head and gave me a cheek to kiss. She then ask how many times I'd done this, go out with girls I've met online. I was really taken aback. She noticed that and offered me the other cheek. I told her that I already kissed her cheek, she replied that I hadn't kissed that one and I told her maybe next time. I went on with the date it was about 6.5 hours and the later half I was feeling a little tired and tipsy and was mostly enduring the night.
Towards the end of the night, she asked me how old I was I just responded by asking how old she thought I was. She said 24, which probably means she thinks i'm in my late 20's, which I am 29, so that works.
While she seemed to be really natural with conversing and expressing her opinion and talking to guys, she dropped lots of hints as to how inexperienced with dating that she is. I also feel like she views me as way more successful with women than I actually am. She said something along the lines of online dating should be a last resort thing and shes surprised that I'm on there. I found this all a bit ironic b/c I find meeting new women to be quite difficult for me. Going on dates is pretty easy, getting the dates can be quite hard.
Needless to say, She seemed really interested in meeting again. I'm a little hesitant as I am not really into inexperienced girls these day, or the work you have to put into them, and I am not totally sure I could put up with all of the debates she wants to have. But she is a nice girl and I wouldn't mind having a GF for the winter.
Anyway, hope with FR is helpful.
