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So I finally asked out the girl at work who I've been pursuing for awhile. After backing off of her for weeks, she initiated contact like she had missed me. From there, her attraction to me became clear. She started getting nervous around me, avoiding eye contact and playing with her hair when talking, looking at me over her shoulder almost every time I was near, laughing at all my jokes and reusing a couple. And this was with me barely hinting at my attraction. When I went up to her room to ask her some work questions (dressed in my tight v-neck shirt and sporting stubble for casual Friday), she could barely muster coherent answers and let out a really obvious nervous laugh.
After a frustrating week of trying to ask her out (she was tutoring or in meetings during all her free hours), I caught her in her room during a free period and asked her if she'd like to have a drink with me. She said that she was hesitant about going out with someone she worked with (even though we're in different departments). I made a joke about her saying no and she laughed and then I reminded her that the school year would be ending and that if she was interested, she could message me. I then went to the whiteboard and wrote my number on it and told her to think about it. She did her nervous laugh and said "Okay." It was the smoothest pickup I've ever done; I totally owned the moment and was unphased by her answer.
It's been two days. We don't see each other often, so it's hard to get a read on what she's thinking (though I did get one of her starry-eyed looks). She's been through a failed engagement, shot down my previous romantic gestures (she was seeing someone), but has come around and obviously likes me. So how do I deal with a girl this shy and potentially insecure? Do I continue my work interactions with her, keep cool, and show her what she's missing (with 3 weeks left until she leaves for summer break) or do I try to push more interactions and rib her about going out with me? She's a girl who I usually have to bust some walls down but once I do, she's really receptive. What's the best course of action with a nervous girl?
After a frustrating week of trying to ask her out (she was tutoring or in meetings during all her free hours), I caught her in her room during a free period and asked her if she'd like to have a drink with me. She said that she was hesitant about going out with someone she worked with (even though we're in different departments). I made a joke about her saying no and she laughed and then I reminded her that the school year would be ending and that if she was interested, she could message me. I then went to the whiteboard and wrote my number on it and told her to think about it. She did her nervous laugh and said "Okay." It was the smoothest pickup I've ever done; I totally owned the moment and was unphased by her answer.
It's been two days. We don't see each other often, so it's hard to get a read on what she's thinking (though I did get one of her starry-eyed looks). She's been through a failed engagement, shot down my previous romantic gestures (she was seeing someone), but has come around and obviously likes me. So how do I deal with a girl this shy and potentially insecure? Do I continue my work interactions with her, keep cool, and show her what she's missing (with 3 weeks left until she leaves for summer break) or do I try to push more interactions and rib her about going out with me? She's a girl who I usually have to bust some walls down but once I do, she's really receptive. What's the best course of action with a nervous girl?
