Howdy, GC. It's been awhile. I've been having my adventures, with women and without, rest assured, but I felt the urge to share this particular story.
I was bumming around this weekend working on a side project, reading, playing video games, etc in coffee shops and similar venues. It's sort of my weekend routine when I'm not getting out of town. It's also the bread and butter of how I meet women, and I have been getting 2-3 dates/week off of it, plenty for my purposes right now.
This was one particular adventure I had Sunday night.
I was reading a thick history tome in the dining area of Whole Foods, went upstairs to refill my Yerba Mate, came back, and there was a cute girl sitting alone at the bar/bench area.
I love these approaches because they are massively unobtrusive and low commitment. You're not facing each other; it's an area where it's perfectly socially acceptable to sit close enough to converse, but far enough away that you're not "locked in" to a particular person. You're often somewhat/fairly isolated, and your conversation is facing a window so it doesn't carry. Very low key.
I sat down two seats away from her, put my book down, take a sip of my tea, and tilt my head slightly towards her,
Me: "How is the food here, anyway?"
Her: "It's good. It fills me up, so that's all I need, right?"
Me, smirking: "So...you're telling me your have low standards."
Her, laughing: "Well, I'm on vacation from Australia and I'm trying to trim costs a bit, so I can lower my standards for now."
From there, I made some observations about Australia and the US, asked her about her trip, etc. She was hooked pretty hard.
After maybe 20-30 minutes there, I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk. She said yes, but she needed to buy some water first. We did that, I joked around with the cashier a bit, etc. We left the place and I told her we were going to my car so I could drop my book off.
It was a long walk, but we were vibing pretty decently and I kept her state fairly up. She was a little concerned about how far we were walking directly away from her hostel and how isolated it looked, but she was pretty easy to reassure. I told her a story about how a guy pulled a knife on me a few blocks away a year or so earlier, but that it turned out fine and that he was just a little crazy, not malicious. About then, we got to my car and I dropped my book off, then asked if she minds if we drive it to where I can charge it.
She's a bit standoffish, I tell her it's fine, and close the door...at which point, she says okay. So, I open it up, make room for her, and she jumps in...and I ask her if she's ever driven an electric car and if she wants to. She got pretty excited and went for it. We switched seats and off we went.
This isn't the titular part of the post. We got there fine, pretty briefly. The drive was almost a straight line. She joked about how brave I was for letting an Asian girl drive my car. I told her I have good insurance.
We got there, and I instructed her on hooking up the charger etc which she did for me. Compliance, bitches.
I then took her to a bar and told her I was debating between taking her to the cheap-but-fun dive bar, and the one where I got strangled with my own tie. She asked to go to the safe one. After some walking, we arrived, did the usual bar stuff, got a booth in a quiet, isolated section and talked.
She opened up quite a bit about herself; her family, her friends, her childhood, figures she identifies with, etc. I got her to show me her hands (comparing size and digit ratios, haha, my favorite thing).
She told me about her travels (she travels about a month every year) and said that she had never just gotten up and walked around a city with a stranger before in all that time. I told her that if she'd caught me earlier, I would have given her the full tour, but a lot of stuff the best stuff was shutting down. Not acknowledging that it was unusual, or trying to play up how "special" it was.
We related on some fairly significant stuff; not being "club people", not being big drinkers, being recluses in the winter, etc. We compared Meyers-Briggs types; I'm an ENTJ, she's an INTJ. "Very introverted", according to her. I told her she was doing a good job of opening up, and then told her about how I used to be somewhat introverted, but after moving to a big city and needing to rebuild my social circle, I learned extroversion.
I asked her if she was ready for another round; she said she needed to get back to her hostel. I said she must be tired from carrying around her stuff all day, offered to drive, and she asked if she could drive again, since it was a lot of fun and she hadn't driven in awhile. I rolled with it. I also sort of seeded that I'd be interested in seeing her room, since I had never seen a hostel in my own city before, and it'd be nice to be able to recommend one to someone. Trying to possibly seed the pull back to her own place (although I'm not too into the hostel thing)
We walked back to the carry, and I made a comment about being twice her size; she said I wasn't, and told me what she weighed...I converted it to pounds, was genuinely astounded, and told her,
"I'm about to do something horrible."
and then picked her up off the ground and felt her weight. I then set her down and agreed that she weighed what she said she did, and that I was mistaken about her being lighter. All with a smirk.
She got a bit flustered, and then I followed it up with, "But you don't look it, at all." Which was true. It had to have all been tits & ass.
We got to my car, and...oh my god. This time, it was terrifying. She nearly turned onto the left side of a lane separate by a median. There were cars incoming at a pretty decent clip. She actually had to back up, into an intersection, and drive more or less up a crosswalk to get into the right lane. Holy shit, hahaha. A guy outside the car asked, laughing, "Do you know how to drive?"
She was surprisingly nonplussed and self-deprecating, but did drive more cautiously afterwards. Her driving was...definitely a bit rusty. But we got there in one piece.
We got out of the car, and she said something like, "I'll hug you", and moved in...I tilted her head up, and she made to kiss me; I just kissed her forehead and laughed, picked her up, and gave her a slow spin while chatting with her. I don't remember what was said exactly. Then I sat her down, pulled her close, and gave her a real kiss; on the way up, I think she said something about being surprised that she was kissing me, it was so random, etc. I got her number and sent her in. I didn't try to escalate/close any further.
I haven't followed up since. I seeded a second date idea while at the bar that she seemed to be interested in, I may give it a shot tonight, but I have other numbers to follow up on and I may be too busy.
I was bumming around this weekend working on a side project, reading, playing video games, etc in coffee shops and similar venues. It's sort of my weekend routine when I'm not getting out of town. It's also the bread and butter of how I meet women, and I have been getting 2-3 dates/week off of it, plenty for my purposes right now.
This was one particular adventure I had Sunday night.
I was reading a thick history tome in the dining area of Whole Foods, went upstairs to refill my Yerba Mate, came back, and there was a cute girl sitting alone at the bar/bench area.
I love these approaches because they are massively unobtrusive and low commitment. You're not facing each other; it's an area where it's perfectly socially acceptable to sit close enough to converse, but far enough away that you're not "locked in" to a particular person. You're often somewhat/fairly isolated, and your conversation is facing a window so it doesn't carry. Very low key.
I sat down two seats away from her, put my book down, take a sip of my tea, and tilt my head slightly towards her,
Me: "How is the food here, anyway?"
Her: "It's good. It fills me up, so that's all I need, right?"
Me, smirking: "So...you're telling me your have low standards."
Her, laughing: "Well, I'm on vacation from Australia and I'm trying to trim costs a bit, so I can lower my standards for now."
From there, I made some observations about Australia and the US, asked her about her trip, etc. She was hooked pretty hard.
After maybe 20-30 minutes there, I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk. She said yes, but she needed to buy some water first. We did that, I joked around with the cashier a bit, etc. We left the place and I told her we were going to my car so I could drop my book off.
It was a long walk, but we were vibing pretty decently and I kept her state fairly up. She was a little concerned about how far we were walking directly away from her hostel and how isolated it looked, but she was pretty easy to reassure. I told her a story about how a guy pulled a knife on me a few blocks away a year or so earlier, but that it turned out fine and that he was just a little crazy, not malicious. About then, we got to my car and I dropped my book off, then asked if she minds if we drive it to where I can charge it.
She's a bit standoffish, I tell her it's fine, and close the door...at which point, she says okay. So, I open it up, make room for her, and she jumps in...and I ask her if she's ever driven an electric car and if she wants to. She got pretty excited and went for it. We switched seats and off we went.
This isn't the titular part of the post. We got there fine, pretty briefly. The drive was almost a straight line. She joked about how brave I was for letting an Asian girl drive my car. I told her I have good insurance.
We got there, and I instructed her on hooking up the charger etc which she did for me. Compliance, bitches.
I then took her to a bar and told her I was debating between taking her to the cheap-but-fun dive bar, and the one where I got strangled with my own tie. She asked to go to the safe one. After some walking, we arrived, did the usual bar stuff, got a booth in a quiet, isolated section and talked.
She opened up quite a bit about herself; her family, her friends, her childhood, figures she identifies with, etc. I got her to show me her hands (comparing size and digit ratios, haha, my favorite thing).
She told me about her travels (she travels about a month every year) and said that she had never just gotten up and walked around a city with a stranger before in all that time. I told her that if she'd caught me earlier, I would have given her the full tour, but a lot of stuff the best stuff was shutting down. Not acknowledging that it was unusual, or trying to play up how "special" it was.
We related on some fairly significant stuff; not being "club people", not being big drinkers, being recluses in the winter, etc. We compared Meyers-Briggs types; I'm an ENTJ, she's an INTJ. "Very introverted", according to her. I told her she was doing a good job of opening up, and then told her about how I used to be somewhat introverted, but after moving to a big city and needing to rebuild my social circle, I learned extroversion.
I asked her if she was ready for another round; she said she needed to get back to her hostel. I said she must be tired from carrying around her stuff all day, offered to drive, and she asked if she could drive again, since it was a lot of fun and she hadn't driven in awhile. I rolled with it. I also sort of seeded that I'd be interested in seeing her room, since I had never seen a hostel in my own city before, and it'd be nice to be able to recommend one to someone. Trying to possibly seed the pull back to her own place (although I'm not too into the hostel thing)
We walked back to the carry, and I made a comment about being twice her size; she said I wasn't, and told me what she weighed...I converted it to pounds, was genuinely astounded, and told her,
"I'm about to do something horrible."
and then picked her up off the ground and felt her weight. I then set her down and agreed that she weighed what she said she did, and that I was mistaken about her being lighter. All with a smirk.
She got a bit flustered, and then I followed it up with, "But you don't look it, at all." Which was true. It had to have all been tits & ass.
We got to my car, and...oh my god. This time, it was terrifying. She nearly turned onto the left side of a lane separate by a median. There were cars incoming at a pretty decent clip. She actually had to back up, into an intersection, and drive more or less up a crosswalk to get into the right lane. Holy shit, hahaha. A guy outside the car asked, laughing, "Do you know how to drive?"
She was surprisingly nonplussed and self-deprecating, but did drive more cautiously afterwards. Her driving was...definitely a bit rusty. But we got there in one piece.
We got out of the car, and she said something like, "I'll hug you", and moved in...I tilted her head up, and she made to kiss me; I just kissed her forehead and laughed, picked her up, and gave her a slow spin while chatting with her. I don't remember what was said exactly. Then I sat her down, pulled her close, and gave her a real kiss; on the way up, I think she said something about being surprised that she was kissing me, it was so random, etc. I got her number and sent her in. I didn't try to escalate/close any further.
I haven't followed up since. I seeded a second date idea while at the bar that she seemed to be interested in, I may give it a shot tonight, but I have other numbers to follow up on and I may be too busy.
