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[SillyCarl]

So hope everyone doing okay. I've been reading girlschase since I wa about 14 I'm 17 now I just hit up how to talk to girls and was lead to this site never been the same before. I've been practicing things mentioned on girlschase, rsd, Justin Wayne and a few others just want to get really good with this stuff. Now I'm not great with girls but not bad either ide say neutral and I'm a virgin mainly due to my parents who taught me that having sex before marriage would get you in hell but as it is now I don't give a shit anymore I'm just questioning everything in life right now is this a stage or does it go away? So I've been arguing with them a lot lately about God, the meaning of life etc and they really don't want me going out much they think ill become a player and players go to hell and are no good, just this past Sunday they told me to go to church to which I refused but well there's not much I can do so I went we arrived late so we made a noise coming in caught a few girls eyeing me(happens a lot now thanks to Ricardus and his fashion advance) and went to sit next to one at the back on a seat behind her, she kept acting as if she was looking out the window but I knew better so with my hands indicated she should come sit behind me didn't think she would but she went to the bathroom and when she came back sat next to me yea. I had just read the article on sexy smile and eye contact so wanted to try it out she kept looking down? But we kept talking she couldn't stop laughing and laughed loud once to which my dad saw and we sorta played it down from there. Now i honestly don't think my dad was good with girls he's very submissive towards my mom who treates him like shit but that's a story for another day, I took the girls number at the end.

So what I wanted to ask was how to get the hot girls like I'm good with average and maybe slightly above average but with hot girls in a noob. I went out the past Friday with a buddy of mines to a club/event type of thing and had a good time didn't drink or anything I play rugby at school tryna keep clean so I meet this girl Sam she was mixed race white/Latina moms Latina dads white as I was going to get food for me and my buddie i caught eyes with her as she was grabbing food as well so i tried to play it cool and order first then go up to her but i was just scared to be honest my heart was racing, palms sweaty put kicked myself in the head forcing myself to approach so i walk up

Me: Hey i wouldn't order that that if i were you (Said with sexy smile)
Sam: Its my cheat day today said with a smile
Me: Oh really that's what they all say. What brings you here?
Sam: In here with a few friends i love Tim odv (local dj here)
Me: Yeah he's not bad so so that's a cool bracelet mind if i take a look? (said very nervously I think my voice went up)
Sam: Yeah sure (with confused look)
Me: Great bracelet where did you get it from?
Sam: Flea market (disinterested look on her face now)
Me: How long you gonna be here for?
Sam: I think my foods getting cold I'm gonna go eat now (painful I know)

Now with average girls in confident but with girls 9 or higher I just stumble anyone know why?
Overall great night just but hurt that buddy pulls hot chicks while I always struggle.

 

[Lotus]

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Hey Carl,

In regards to your parents, pick your battles. You are underage and still have to live with them for now, so considering you are dependent on them don't purposely stir up the pot. But yes questioning everything is good and if your parents are the type who encourage you to debate ideas that's good.

Now with average girls in confident but with girls 9 or higher I just stumble anyone know why?

You are putting them on a pedastal, because they are more attractive your associating them with being better., but they aren't they are not any different just silly girls. You just need more experience with them and it will eventually go away.

Try getting rid of the rating scale and just refer to girls as differing levels of cute. My personal approach is to put girls in two categories high quality and low quality and it breaks down 3 ways looks, personality, goals. Since two of the catergories are not looks based there's no way to make an assessment of a girl before you talk to her. She's just another silly girl with a cute face/body until you meet her.

In short you just have to find a way to change the lense you view them from.

-Lotus

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

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Carl,

In addition to what Lotus said the stuff with your parents will subside. You may not believe this but you are at the age where you brain and hormones are fighting each other. Your brain is telling you to do how you were raised and your hormones are telling to you chase the girls. As you get older the fight will calm down and so will the clashes with your parent.

Regarding the girls, talk with a lot of girls. Even if they are not your type. You will learn to be more confident. Your buddies will probably give you shit but in a year from now when you are hitting it with the hotties they will be jealous.

A point about women, which you will learn to handle, is when we first see a girl that turns us on we elevate her higher than she really is. I am an old fart and I still do this. I have just learned to step back and shake off the adrenaline then reassess how she looks. I did this on Saturday. I met a babe for this first time with an awesome ass. All I could think about for a little while is our fine she was. I then shook it off and took another look. She still had an awesome ass but I started to see areas that she was not perfect. I was then able to think clearly again. At your age the adrenaline can last for days. The adrenaline is what makes up put the girl on the pedestal that Lotus mentioned. So if you realize this and get yourself to calm down you will have better success with closing the deal.

BDSC

 

[ray_zorse]

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Awesome approaches, man. And good advice from Lotus and BigDaddySc. My own personal take on it is that you get better with hotter girls by speaking to shitloads of them. Like go out 2~3 times a week and approach 10 girls each time, I remember after some months of this I went to a modelling event (sister's fashion parade) and made friends with some models, one of them I was teasing the hell out of her and leading her around the room and asked for a coffee date, nogo but point is to not be intimidated, if anything tease them harder as they won't be used to it (this is what I said to my sister as she scolded me later "you just can't SAY things like that" "she loved it... surrounded by boring timid guys").

Another thing to keep in mind is arguing with people is basically approval-seeking, you get very frustrated when people in your life who are important to you, won't approve of your choices. Solution is to simply make your choices and don't try to convince others of their rightness, be strong and independent and go where you need to go without fear, if you are now 17 then they cannot really imprison you in the house!

Ray

 

[SillyCarl]

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Thanks Lotus, Big daddy, Ray I should start to approach all girls instead of choosing, choosing may just be an excuse to not take action. So to get better with hot girls I have to approach all girls. I also have one more question, on the topic of vibe and having a relaxed vibe how does one emanate such? I've also noticed that the more I change as I fixing body language, tonality, look and the more old friends and people who knew me before sort of react and some react positively and others say insults or general put downs is this supposed to happen?