New lifestyle, new city?

[journeyman]

Hey all, I thought I'd touch on a subject that is of my immediate interest but also might interest other people in the similar situation.

I recently moved to a new city, new workplace so people still don't know me. Getting good at cold approach pick up and becoming a sexy man is an important life goal for me so I wonder how I can go about doing this in the social context. For example, with a couple of guys that I hanged out with I cold approached and even introduced them to some girls and they seemed impressed, they still joke all the time that I haven't wasted any time and that I am already dating and so on. My question is, is getting a player reputation bad? Specifically,

1) I want to shamelessly flirt with the new girls that I will meet at work and ask them out on dates, always discreetly. Ideally with all of them.
2) When I go out with new friends I want to do some situational pickup as I started doing already.
3) Having a social interaction with people that is a bit playful and opposite to the typical boring everyday discussions.

I have to say that I work in Academic science, so it's a fairly relaxed setting, although very gossip-y and with a vast amount of socially awkward people. Albeit with a few very smart and attractive successful girls. If I behave like that and become known as a sexual man, will it negatively influence my career or social life?
I would be interested to hear your opinions, especially when you got yourselves in the same transitionary situation.

 

[ray_zorse]

I also work in a university setting and I suppose I do have a moderately playerish reputation, it can't have escaped others' attention that whenever there is a new girl at a postgraduate function I take her off into a corner and spend 30min+ getting to know her and gazing intimately into her eyes while adding lots of touch and asking her how many boyfriends she had in senior year in China before she moved here and so on... but despite having grabbed loads of numbers nothing more than friendliness has eventuated so far, this might be because I am coming on too strong initially and stirring up emotions that then crash later (I plan to correct this by acting more like a regular guy until I get her out on a date), anyway my point is that although you should try, and although having a reputation as a sexual man will only help you (within reason -- be a LITTLE calibrated)... your best prospects lie with cold approach. In truth if you want to be socially successful in the workplace, hitting on girls might not be the optimal strategy, as it's pretty polarizing... it's certainly fun to do though.
Ray

 

[journeyman]

Hey Ray, thanks for adding your opinion, truth is I am not interested in workplace game so much, I know that cold approach beats everything. Your last sentence answers perfectly to what I am looking for, I will do it just for fun but with caution.