New situation for me (tinder - been talking for months......)

[FiremanSam]

Hi,

So I have been using Tinder here and there and met up with a few girls, but always within 2 weeks or so of our first message. However there was one girl that was too far for me to travel too, but as I was planning to move anyway, and she was fun to talk to we kept in contact.

We just chatted randomly on whatsapp when we were bored, a few times a week. Sometimes a week or so with nothing. Although she would always reply instantly when I messaged her always saying how she loved talking to me ect. Anyway this started 4 MONTHS ago and I'm finally in a position where I could meet her... but obviously things have started to fade out lately as it's been so long, If this was last month I'm 100% sure I could have just called her and told her to meet me somewhere but now I'm stuck.

The last few weeks she's been the one to end conversations rather than me and she never initiates. It's got to that point where I can see she's losing (lost?) any interest of meeting. About 3 weeks ago I told her I would be in her town in a few weeks and she seemed excited we set tentative plans..

This weekend is the weekend ill be in her town, so I figured I would ask her to meet. But the way the conversations have been I'm not so sure how to... a couple of days after we spoke about meeting she just didn't respond to one of my messages (mid conversation) which was strange for her, so I left it a few days then we spoke again, once again she was the one to stop responding ( although my message didn't really make it easy to) I then waited a week which took us to this sunday and had a conversation lasting till tuesday when she stopped responding again.

This is where I am now, How do I text her to meet up this weekend after an ignored text? usually I would just leave it. But I'm going to be stuck in a small town all weekend on my own so I would rather give it a go, nothing to lose right? I was thinking maybe calling, but we've never spoke on the phone so it might be weird?

(after writing all of this I realise I'm probably getting invested where as she just saw it as fun conversation to kill the time, like I did at first) which is crazy as I've never even met the girl...maybe I should leave it after all...

 

[FiremanSam]

After I asked to meet she ended up saying she's started dating someone, and it's serious enough that she wouldn't feel right going on a date with someone else. Fine I thought, that makes sense. I Told her I was little disappointed but I didn't exactly make a move. She said how we've been talking for 4 months and she wasn't just going to wait around for the possibility of meeting me.(as I thought, just waay too long) But she still loves talking to me and wants to continue? I tried to push for a meet anyway and she wouldn't go for it, basically implying they're exclusive and friendzoned me. I sent a kind of closure but leaving things on good terms text. and she continued with the wanting to talk to me and stay friendsfor the moment line....I went along with it, but I'm not sure if she genuinely wants someone to talk to now and then or if shes keeping me around as a backup?

I mean I'm happy to have someone to chat chit to when I'm bored, which is what we've basically been doing the past 4 months, but then I'm going to be different in my texts, the same way I am with other female friends. Or should I continue to be flirty/act the way I have been on the off chance they don't work out?