New to the Forum - Need Some Advice

[Anonymous]

Ok, so there is a girl that was sending me signals for a while but I didn't really act on them (kind of new to this haha). It took me a while to "make a move" but when I finally did and we met up, things went really well. She still seemed interested and we seemed to have a lot of fun together. It was a study date (in hindsight that may have been a bad idea, but it was finals week so I didn't really have a choice haha). Since then, things haven't been as good as they were when we met in person. For example, she always replies to my texts but she never seems to initiate. I haven't bombarded her with desperate texts or anything and I've done a pretty good job of reading when a conversation isn't going anywhere and cutting my losses, but I still can't tell whether she's lost interest or if it was simply really bad timing on my part (its winter break and she's on vacation so we haven't had any time to meet in person). It's not that things have been bad since we met up, rather they just haven't been as good. I tend to get along really well with people in person but I'm not always as good over the phone or texting. So, I guess what I'm wondering is, considering I'd really prefer to give this girl a shot (I'm not desperate, but we really seemed compatible so I'd prefer to not throw in the towel if I don't have to) is there anything I should be doing differently over break, or should I just give her space and see how things go when we meet up once the semester starts again?
Thanks

 

[trashKENNUT]

tmcgee0404,

. So, I guess what I'm wondering is, considering I'd really prefer to give this girl a shot (I'm not desperate, but we really seemed compatible so I'd prefer to not throw in the towel if I don't have to) is there anything I should be doing differently over break, or should I just give her space and see how things go when we meet up once the semester starts again?
Thanks

Set a date with her. You already give her space with her vacation, but don't delay. Get her out when you have the chance.

Zac

 

[Doctor]

First of all, welcome to the forum, it's always good to have new faces around here

As for your post, I would say I agree with Zac here.

To expand on this a bit, remember, as per the famous How to Text a Girl article, you should only be texting her for two reasons:
- Build rapport and comfort, or
- Set up a meet.

Sounds like you already have rapport so you should only be texting her to set up a meet now. If the message you are about to send isn't working towards this, don't send it! You won't win her over by text, this can only be done in person.

The only question you should be asking yourself now is if you work to get the meet soon, or just chill until after winter break. Either way, be clear about your intentions when you contact her. You can see my recent thread where I am dealing with a similar situation (I am out of town until the start of term) which might give you more info on if you should give her space until after winter break.

Cheers
-Doctor