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Went out to one of the college bars last night, almost didn't even go out, but was invited last second to a pregame from a friend, had an absurd number of women compared to 5 dudes, most of them not my type tbh, and I hate approaching in social circle situations, and a story I will tell later in this FR will reinforce that for me. Anyways at this pregame I just introduced myself to girls and put out feelers, introduced myself to the same girl twice.
We went to the bar super early, but it got packed early as well.
Approach 1:
Went up to a stunner (9/10 imo) and her 2 friends, asked her how their night was going, and used the "you stole my outfit" line on the girl I wanted. Made some conversation from then, introduced myself to the friends as well, so they would not mess up my target girl and I, and they seemed chill. Kept talking to the target girl, eventually out of nowhere, she said she had a bf, still asked for her instagram, which she declined. Fair game, at least she was nice about it. She was fine to talk to me the whole time.
Approach 2:
Approached 2 girls, both were receptive to me, tbh I only wanted one, but started dancing with both of them(potential threesome opportunity???) but it was super hard to set up, keep equal attention on each girl, tbh my attention favored the one I initially wanted. Eventually, it broke down as they were more so trying to dance with each other, I went away, came back, then they made some excuse, which meant this approach was over. Still though, dancing and twirling two girls at the same time is not a bad feat, and gave me confidence, just really hard to pull in that scenario, even seeded an afterparty.
Approach 3:
Approached another group of two, both were receptive to me, teasing and bantering with them the entire time, they seemed really comfortable and happy to talk to me, kept teasing, qualifying and asking for small compliance. Seeded an afterparty, which they were both open to the idea of, as well as their other friends. Eventually took their instagrams, they said they had to go find their friends who just came, since it was her birthday, usually I write it off as a bs excuse, but I could hear the sincerity in their voice, so I understood.
Approach 4:
This is where shit hit the fan for me, and why I despise social circle approaches(sometimes). Or I just need to make better female friends. Approached a girl who was friends with my female friend, asked her what her name was, found out she was an ethnic fusion, to which I said "those are the best girls" to which she said thank you, then I said "yeah, and ur gonna return the compliment" she was hesitant at first but played along with my frame. I asked her if she ever complements guys she said no, I don't want guys to have too big of an ego. We got to talking, finding out more about each other, we found out we have class near each other, I said we should do something if we see each other after class ends, she said yea, so I gave her my phone number(I think @Skills suggested this) said from her phone "hey this is [her name] ur so hot" as a joke to me, showed it to her, she went on a rant, saying why would you say that, tbh I still thought she was bantering with me, because the whole time, she was flirting with me, playfully punching me, all that sort of stuff, took a breather from talking to her, apparently right after I left she told her mutual friend that "I was creepy" and "she was looking for a way out the whole time" which she didn't seem uncomfortable once, or even seed an excuse for a way out, and her body language was shifted directly towards me, if anything my body language was shifted less towards her. I explained the entire situation to my friends, who fully understood my side, saying I did nothing wrong or weird. The mutual friend isn't trying to see my side, tbh if she doesn't give me the chance to explain my side, I might just cut her off, no point in having friends like that, not asking for much.
Because of this, the fact that I was alone, and the fact that the bar was too packed, I just decided to leave, since I was not feeling it. Was a really good night of approaches until the 4th one, since the girl was faking it the entire time. Heard that she was fake, and just not a normal person. Oh well.
Was a bit mad when I first woke up today, though the day, talking to friends, and my date helped me move on from the situation emotionally, did not trauma dump on my date today, for anyone wondering classic mistake and vibe killer.
We went to the bar super early, but it got packed early as well.
Approach 1:
Went up to a stunner (9/10 imo) and her 2 friends, asked her how their night was going, and used the "you stole my outfit" line on the girl I wanted. Made some conversation from then, introduced myself to the friends as well, so they would not mess up my target girl and I, and they seemed chill. Kept talking to the target girl, eventually out of nowhere, she said she had a bf, still asked for her instagram, which she declined. Fair game, at least she was nice about it. She was fine to talk to me the whole time.
Approach 2:
Approached 2 girls, both were receptive to me, tbh I only wanted one, but started dancing with both of them(potential threesome opportunity???) but it was super hard to set up, keep equal attention on each girl, tbh my attention favored the one I initially wanted. Eventually, it broke down as they were more so trying to dance with each other, I went away, came back, then they made some excuse, which meant this approach was over. Still though, dancing and twirling two girls at the same time is not a bad feat, and gave me confidence, just really hard to pull in that scenario, even seeded an afterparty.
Approach 3:
Approached another group of two, both were receptive to me, teasing and bantering with them the entire time, they seemed really comfortable and happy to talk to me, kept teasing, qualifying and asking for small compliance. Seeded an afterparty, which they were both open to the idea of, as well as their other friends. Eventually took their instagrams, they said they had to go find their friends who just came, since it was her birthday, usually I write it off as a bs excuse, but I could hear the sincerity in their voice, so I understood.
Approach 4:
This is where shit hit the fan for me, and why I despise social circle approaches(sometimes). Or I just need to make better female friends. Approached a girl who was friends with my female friend, asked her what her name was, found out she was an ethnic fusion, to which I said "those are the best girls" to which she said thank you, then I said "yeah, and ur gonna return the compliment" she was hesitant at first but played along with my frame. I asked her if she ever complements guys she said no, I don't want guys to have too big of an ego. We got to talking, finding out more about each other, we found out we have class near each other, I said we should do something if we see each other after class ends, she said yea, so I gave her my phone number(I think @Skills suggested this) said from her phone "hey this is [her name] ur so hot" as a joke to me, showed it to her, she went on a rant, saying why would you say that, tbh I still thought she was bantering with me, because the whole time, she was flirting with me, playfully punching me, all that sort of stuff, took a breather from talking to her, apparently right after I left she told her mutual friend that "I was creepy" and "she was looking for a way out the whole time" which she didn't seem uncomfortable once, or even seed an excuse for a way out, and her body language was shifted directly towards me, if anything my body language was shifted less towards her. I explained the entire situation to my friends, who fully understood my side, saying I did nothing wrong or weird. The mutual friend isn't trying to see my side, tbh if she doesn't give me the chance to explain my side, I might just cut her off, no point in having friends like that, not asking for much.
Because of this, the fact that I was alone, and the fact that the bar was too packed, I just decided to leave, since I was not feeling it. Was a really good night of approaches until the 4th one, since the girl was faking it the entire time. Heard that she was fake, and just not a normal person. Oh well.
Was a bit mad when I first woke up today, though the day, talking to friends, and my date helped me move on from the situation emotionally, did not trauma dump on my date today, for anyone wondering classic mistake and vibe killer.
