Nightgame: My inner game method for dealing with rude rejections. What is yours?

[RisingCane]

I know @Chase wrote a recent article about how to deal with girls that reject you and @Skills has told me that I should not be getting rude rejections. Guys like @S.S Can have met me IRL and seen me operate, however on that night I don't really recall getting a bad rejection. Ever since moving to Miami and doing nightgame here, I have had some rough interactions. Like there is the whole "I have a boyfriend" or "I am not interested" line and then there are women going out of their way to be unpleasant and rude to you.

In some ways, I know why toxic Youtubers like Fresh and Fit are so popular here. While Miami does have a lot of pleasant women, there are also a lot of unpleasant ones in terms of personality. At times, I have approached girls, been hit with a nasty rejection, and it would actually ruin my night. Once again, I cannot explain what it is about Miami for me but in nightgame, women here go the extra mile in trying to hurt guys.

It starts like this.

Sometimes, there are uglier girls who will reject you only for a prettier woman to want you.

Even those of you trying to find a job, think about it. There are poorly run Startups that will laugh at your face only for a successful Fortune 500 company to take you.

And mentally, for me, this has worked because I have experience it in nightlife.

I have:

• Approached an uglier chick and been rejected
• Approached a hotter girl and pulled
• In a couple of cases, seen uglier chick who rejected me seen me walk out with said girl
• Seen uglier chick look in shock and in one situation with her jaw almost dropped

In one case, a wing of mine said he saw a girl who rejected me look around a bit lost when she saw me walk out with a hotter girl.

Somehow, when I play that image in my mind over and over, it is like my mind is starting to go "I am going to approach a girl hotter than you have a great time".

I do acknowledge that it could very well be that the woman who rejected me does not care at all but I guess it has worked well for me.

Open to other suggestions.

 

[average_daygamer]

I don't have any suggestions. Maybe swear back at them. It can be very empowering to shout "bitch" if they reject you.

There is a similar problem with female English chavs. Now don't get me wrong, English chavs are very sexy looking, but very stuck up, despite being from a lower class background.

Unfortunately, outside of major cities, it is mainly chavs.

 

[ziggydust]

Unfortunately, outside of major cities, it is mainly chavs.

I live in a somewhat 'chavvy' area, and you're right that they can be brutal in terms of rude rejections if you are not her type/she's not attracted to you. I've learnt to have thick skin! You can't force her to be nice or to be attracted to you. Brush it off and embrace the numbers game! You approach enough and you'll find a hot girl who is receptive

 

[MrVariety]

I don't have any suggestions. Maybe swear back at them. It can be very empowering to shout "bitch" if they reject you.

Please stop giving advice.

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OP, I don't have anything particular for harsh rejections. I think it's a symptom of approaching women for the sole sake of approaching and or sex. I've been humiliated and rejected a lot in the past, as a consequence of trying to push beyond my comfort zone into becoming someone else.

The rate of which I've been harshly rejected has dropped dramatically as I've become more selective on who I approach, and I've developed an intuition for girls with good, positive energy. It's pretty easy to spot, at least for me, what girls have the capacity for cruelty and those who don't.

Anyway I prefer to not approach girls who has negative energy. It's just not very attractive to me.

The revenge motivation is sort of like energy from candy or energy drinks - it's powerful but not sustainable in the long term. While negative emotions may have their use in certain situations where you desperately need quick motivation - better to overcome negativity through positivity, not fight fire with fire.

Mr Variety

 

[Skills]

I know @Chase wrote a recent article about how to deal with girls that reject you and @Skills has told me that I should not be getting rude rejections. Guys like @S.S Can have met me IRL and seen me operate, however on that night I don't really recall getting a bad rejection. Ever since moving to Miami and doing nightgame here, I have had some rough interactions. Like there is the whole "I have a boyfriend" or "I am not interested" line and then there are women going out of their way to be unpleasant and rude to you.

Well i am projecting since i don't really get rude rejections, "blow outs" often right of the open... There are ways to minimize this such as forcing approach invites (though when i personally force i am looking for absent of fuck off body language), the thing is with gen z, since they are socially weird is not as effective as once was, in other words i have interacted with women that gave me nothing and it was on (so this is not as reliable now a days, again my opinion and i most cases, still works but in general)....

You can also make a comment to buy time and or raise your value pre opening (guys call it hoovering)... for example have her notice you interacting in a high value way pre opening, being social, talking to other women, hearing a joke etc... pre opening.... or buying time (i made a post on this is) when you just open to gauge where she is at in the interaction vs proceeding....

also i used to do this that chase mention in another post, though i don't do it anymore tbh: if i get a bad rejection, "Don't flatter yourself" "i am gay i was just being friendly i think you got me messed up" "you know who i am, you are done in this town (rsd)" though a days i just shrug and i don't care....

In some ways, I know why toxic Youtubers like Fresh and Fit are so popular here. While Miami does have a lot of pleasant women, there are also a lot of unpleasant ones in terms of personality. At times, I have approached girls, been hit with a nasty rejection, and it would actually ruin my night. Once again, I cannot explain what it is about Miami for me but in nightgame, women here go the extra mile in trying to hurt guys.

Sometimes even if is a cool girl, as i said in my last video they have to give harsh over the top rejection.... Reason is most men DON'T GET HINTS.... and are annoying, i have guys in the club that want to hang out with me, and if i am ambiguous they don't get it.... I seen hot women or women with guys that when they are nice, or ambiguous don't get the hint...

It starts like this.

Sometimes, there are uglier girls who will reject you only for a prettier woman to want you.

Sometimes uglier girls reject, because they know they are left over and you are not really into them, or ugly girls also don't like every type of dude cause they are ugly, a lot of ugly girls get approach more cause guys are over confident, they think they can get them cause they are ugly, and they do half ass approaches.... I approach ugly girls as friendly vibe, not to hook up, works most of the time...

Even those of you trying to find a job, think about it. There are poorly run Startups that will laugh at your face only for a successful Fortune 500 company to take you.

And mentally, for me, this has worked because I have experience it in nightlife.

I have:

• Approached an uglier chick and been rejected
• Approached a hotter girl and pulled
• In a couple of cases, seen uglier chick who rejected me seen me walk out with said girl
• Seen uglier chick look in shock and in one situation with her jaw almost dropped

In one case, a wing of mine said he saw a girl who rejected me look around a bit lost when she saw me walk out with a hotter girl.

Somehow, when I play that image in my mind over and over, it is like my mind is starting to go "I am going to approach a girl hotter than you have a great time".

I do acknowledge that it could very well be that the woman who rejected me does not care at all but I guess it has worked well for me.

Open to other suggestions.

^ meh! rejections suck for everybody noone likes to be rejected, there are also rejections at all different parts of seductions, if you open succesful on thing i like to do, teevester call it hit and run, is that i open, and i kind of leave them alone for a bit and come back, so i can communicate they won't be stuck with me.... MM people do the false time constraint, i a lot of my own version of hit and run (micro version, were i just leave very brief) but i am around close to area.. and i come back faster...

another thing that help is you having a fuck i forgot the name, but anyways is a place were there are a group of your friends (don't have to be wings) is like people you met at the club like a group that is in a static place of the club, then you go game, and when stuff goes bad you come back to that base group place (i forgot how i used to call this), so much shit to remember... that works somehow...

the best mentality is she is not rejecting you, but her perception of you since she does not know you... and always try to max out fundamentals, and keep track of outfits and stuff you do in the field that is working, and stop doing things or approaches and openers that used to work or not working consistent or stop working....

if she said i have a bf/hubby too fast she was not interested in you most of the times and she is disqualifying herself..(again if is from the open)

opening indirect in night game works good as well, "how is your night going" "does are bad ass shoes" "what are you guys celebrating" "who is getting married"

^ don't grab or touch them from opening... ( a mistake i see a lot), and try not to approach from behind..

 

[MrVariety]

another thing that help is you having a fuck i forgot the name, but anyways is a place were there are a group of your friends (don't have to be wings) is like people you met at the club like a group that is in a static place of the club, then you go game, and when stuff goes bad you come back to that base group place (i forgot how i used to call this), so much shit to remember... that works somehow...

lol! I believe you're referring to creating a "Hub."

MV

 

[Skills]

lol! I believe you're referring to creating a "Hub."

MV

Yes so much shit to remember

 

[James D]

Rejections will always happen but rude rejections are rare.

If you're getting rude rejections often, something is off, with either you or the chicks you're targeting

If it happens as an outlier event, it's 100% their problem IMO.

Some people are just not nice people.

If anything, if a girl rudely rejects me (but again, almost never happens), I genuinely feel some sympathy for her, as in "Geez that poor girl must be having a terrible night."

It barely affects me, except for perhaps throwing me off momentum a bit.

Uninterested girls will almost always simply ignore you. They won't be rude unless you're annoyingly pushy (then the problem is you)