No car, No place of my own.. Confusing situation

[Jano23]

Hey guys, I just finished this semester up and now I'm finally able to put some real work into my game. My issue is I'm a college student with no car and no place to call his own.

It's really making things hard for me to pursue first dates because I live in a city where cars are the normal thing (Socal, near LA). So, me not having one just feels odd sometimes because for one it limits the girls I can go out with to my hometown but the ones out near my school are tough to go out with too.

It also puts a lot of pressure on me (well its probably in my head) to move fast and it's putting me in a desperate kind of mindset. I've gotten to the point where I escalated and got some makeouts on campus (but this has been only with a few girls but nothing I've been able to do consistently) but sex is tough to come by unless she's a real fun one

So, my question to you all is what are some things I should work on in terms of my game? I'm not sure what I should be working on because I feel like I need to compensate for these shortcomings here. I'm hoping to have a car early next year like round Feb or March.

Since I'm so limited should I work more on my club and party game? I'll be honest these are not my favorite but I'm starting to believe in the beggars can't be choosers lol!

I've honestly had some moments where I've told myself that I'll put off real attempts of improving my game until I've got a car and a place of my own. But I feel like that's pretty defeatist also and I haven't really tried party and club game because I just don't enjoy them which again sounds weak.

I don't man just feeling lost and wanted to get some of you guys thoughts on my situation here.

 

[A Life Loquacious]

I think it's all about making the best of what you have and turning negatives into positives. Until you have the place and/or the car then that side of things is obviously not worth pursuing. But what you can do is keep practising everything else and you will probably find you develop a better awareness of when you might actually be able to steer an interaction in the direction of a woman inviting you to hers (covered elsewhere on the boards/blog). Sounds like you don't have to wait too long to get the car anyway! Just brush up on theory in the mean while if you can't get out to practise!

 

[Mr. Wes]

I think you're right on getting invited to their place. Also, Chase recently posted a comment in the latest insight. You can get taxis (not sure if there are many taxis in Socal) and head down to a hotel. Don't tell her you're going to a hotel, just move her and pay for one and head to a room. chase also mentioned hot tubs.

 

[A Life Loquacious]

Yeah that's not such a bad idea but it assumes you're (a) flush with cash and (b) somewhere with a lot of hotels to be able to get one with rooms available at short notice... Of course, if you go to a city specially to spend a weekend picking up it's obviously not a bad idea to rent a hotel anyway. It's something I've been meaning to explore doing myself, but I'm on a really low income at the moment - am starting a business and can't afford to be extravagant. I do dream of a day when I'll just be able to go out and DO SHIT without having to plan a month in advance or worry how much I'm spending, not have to panic every time it's my turn to get a round of drinks etc etc... *sigh*

 

[Jano23]

Haha that's exactly where I'm a loquacious I have plan everything out so far in advance. Thanks for the all replies guys the hotel thing sounds like a good idea when I can save up some extra cash. Until then its gon be slowing down and working on "smooth"