No motivation after breakup

[Estate]

Hi guys,
A little ashamed to admit this but after a recent end to seeing a woman I've been very down on myself. Frankly I thought this sort of feeling was behind me. Even if I like a girl I've had this "there's always other fish..." mentality for the past year or two. My friends even find it weird sometimes, when they have their own girl troubles, rather than tell them how to win the girl, I tell them go meet more...

Anyway, yup, this girl got me. Ridiculous right? I can't tell the last time I was so hung up on one person.

Anyway, my motivation is gone. I'm not really even focussing well on work at the moment. I forced myself to try meet other women. I had a date set up for last night and I cancelled. I just couldn't bring myself to go through the motions. I'm not looking for some "learning experience" and I felt I saw seeing this girl as some sort of placeholder. The thought of going to try meet other women is just not appealing whatsoever.

Where do I go with this?

 

[Franco]

Estate,

I would give it a week (or two) so that some of the emotions can settle first and you can get your head in the clear (at least a bit). After that, you need to get right back out there and meet some women.

Taking time away from seduction does not help this process, and it only prolongs it because, while you're not seeing other women, all you're doing is thinking about her. And this doesn't really change until you're able to have other women in your life.

I don't really know the details of the situation and how things ended up the way they did, but there were probably some lessons to take away from the experience, so you do need to focus on those and figure out where things went wrong so you don't make any of the same mistakes with the next girl that you want to keep around for awhile.

Unfortunately, moping around (or trying to do other things besides meet new women) doesn't really solve the problem and only temporarily covers it up.

- Franco