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I know there are a lot of guys out there who seek validation from their male (and perhaps female) friends for having sex with lots of women/being good at attracting women. Let me tell you right now...no one gives a shit. In the short term, your friends might congragulate you, be excited for you, give you all the validation you want etc. But unless this was a particularly important hook up for one reason or another, that will be the end of it. In fact, in the long run, you might actually lose some friendships if you boast about your prowess with women too much.
If your friends are lower value, they might get jealous or feel like "you've changed" and they might resent you for that (which is fine...if you've changed for the better, than you may have evolved past those friends!). However...if you're hanging out with guys who also get laid on a regular basis, or they just don't value sex that much, they might just see what you're doing as showboating or trying to cover up your insecurities (which tbh, if you feel the need to tell everyone you had sex with a stranger...that's really what it is!).
You might tell me "well wait bboy, ever since I started getting laid, more people have been seeking my attention out". This is true. But it's all superficial. You've become the male equivalent of a hot girl. Other guys are both jealous of you and want your attention at the same time. But it's not because they actually give a shit about you. It's because they want something from you. What they want from you is sex. ...No, not to have sex with you. But they hope that you'll teach them how to fuck girls like you do. Or at the very least, they hope that by hanging out with you, they're automatically "cool" and girls will take note of this.
Finally, you might bring up preselection. You might say that people do care...girl do! But again...none of them actually like you as a person more because you're a player. They're just more attracted to you because they're wired to be attracted to men who other women like (not to mention...if you're in a social circle setting, half of them will go into auto-rejection anyways!).
...Still don't believe me? Take note of the fact that, no one has ever gotten famous just for getting laid. No one is recognized on a worldwide because he sticks his dick in lots of vaginas. There are some people who are famous and are also good seducers. But there is no one I know of who is famous simply because he's had sex with lots of girls.
So what's the point of this post? If you're still at a point where part of the reason you want to have sex with women is just to show your friends how much of a boss you are or to improve your "lay count" or any other form of dick waving via seduction skills, you need to take a look inside yourself and find out why this is. Then address the issue directly. Once you've done that, you'll notice that you're finally free of this mindset and you'll instead be able to focus on creating quality relationships (whether or short or long-term) which you actually enjoy.
If your friends are lower value, they might get jealous or feel like "you've changed" and they might resent you for that (which is fine...if you've changed for the better, than you may have evolved past those friends!). However...if you're hanging out with guys who also get laid on a regular basis, or they just don't value sex that much, they might just see what you're doing as showboating or trying to cover up your insecurities (which tbh, if you feel the need to tell everyone you had sex with a stranger...that's really what it is!).
You might tell me "well wait bboy, ever since I started getting laid, more people have been seeking my attention out". This is true. But it's all superficial. You've become the male equivalent of a hot girl. Other guys are both jealous of you and want your attention at the same time. But it's not because they actually give a shit about you. It's because they want something from you. What they want from you is sex. ...No, not to have sex with you. But they hope that you'll teach them how to fuck girls like you do. Or at the very least, they hope that by hanging out with you, they're automatically "cool" and girls will take note of this.
Finally, you might bring up preselection. You might say that people do care...girl do! But again...none of them actually like you as a person more because you're a player. They're just more attracted to you because they're wired to be attracted to men who other women like (not to mention...if you're in a social circle setting, half of them will go into auto-rejection anyways!).
...Still don't believe me? Take note of the fact that, no one has ever gotten famous just for getting laid. No one is recognized on a worldwide because he sticks his dick in lots of vaginas. There are some people who are famous and are also good seducers. But there is no one I know of who is famous simply because he's had sex with lots of girls.
So what's the point of this post? If you're still at a point where part of the reason you want to have sex with women is just to show your friends how much of a boss you are or to improve your "lay count" or any other form of dick waving via seduction skills, you need to take a look inside yourself and find out why this is. Then address the issue directly. Once you've done that, you'll notice that you're finally free of this mindset and you'll instead be able to focus on creating quality relationships (whether or short or long-term) which you actually enjoy.
Nice post
