No response to 'save my number' text-- day of radio silence?

[PatriotsRule]

Should i give a day of silence because i didnt get any 'got it!' Response or anything like that? Or is this a non issue and i should just ask them out the next day anyway? Thanks

 

[PinotNoir]

I definitely think you're over-thinking this.

All you sent was "save my number"?

I'd follow up with the GC typical text opener at this point, "hey there <Name>, <insert interesting thing and/or related thing to how you met>. <insert question>. -Patriots"

Then once she responds just follow with, "let's go on that date. when you free this week or next?"

It also depends on how you got her number, what you said during the interaction, was there a connection made, did she seem to enjoy you, etc.

If you've already sent the GCTTO (GC typical text opener; I'm trying to start a trend haha), then yes, just ask for the date. Ask when she's free.

 

[PatriotsRule]

nah i sent 'Hey there Christy- its Ben from earlier. (Hope i spelled your name right, haha)...Save my number!'

This was about two hours after i left the bar. She is a bartender there, and was getting started working for the night. So i wasnt surprised to not hear from her at first but yeah no response at all makes me overthink it a bit.

(I had a great FR written but my fucking laptop restarted itself to update before i could post it. I was too pissed to rewrite it)

Anyway, thanks for the response

 

[PatriotsRule]

So i mentioned the FR i typed up and i thought about one of the reflective/mindset points that i wanted to make. About abundance mentality

This girl is HOT. Like, before girls chase i would have put her in the 'out of my league' category. But pulling this number taught me a huge lesson-- if i can pull one number from a beautiful woman like this one, the numbers say that if i just keep asking and asking...eventually one of them will become my lover/gf. Right? So this led me to my follow up, after this thread and your post^^^

Part of abundance mentality is a 'why the fuck not?' attitude. right? And if it doesnt work out with this girl, it will eventually work out with another that this equally if not even more hot. Right?

Sooo...i just fuckin texted her. Because why not?

I just sent, 'Hey Christy, hope the rest of your night went well. Let's grab a drink tonight. Or sometime in the next week--what's your schedule like?' ...

...don't you love it when you see the little imessage bubble before you lock your phone back up? Hahah

I got this response three minutes later:
'Hey! How are you? I am actually working tonight through Sunday! Friday and Saturday doubles. Not sure what im working next week. I'll let ya know if I have some free time next week '

First of all, i assume i spelled her name right. Haha

Feels great to learn by experience that my instincts and what ive read on girlschase are bringing results. Every little result brings me great joy. This was a cool lesson on abundance mentality that i am seeing here. I just go for it because if this girl says no or nothing, i can still find building block results with the next girl. And i must be doing something right fundamentally, in order to achieve these small but tangible results

I should mention that part of the conversation was that she has a young daughter, and besides taking care of her she works at the bar (we have similar schedules because i also work fridays-sundays at a restaurant) and she said she gets bored when shes got free time other than working or taking care of her daughter. I took this as my escalation window to ask her number so i said that we can combat our boredom by going for a drink sometime so she should write down her number. And she did so without hesitation. So theres a little context to the situation. And so i took her text as a very positive response

Hope some of ya got something out of this thread. Ill keep you posted if youre interested or have any questions

Thanks for reading/responding yall

 

[Gentle_Phrases]

I got this response three minutes later

Damn, well done

 

[Estate]

Keep thinking abundance man...

If she's excited she'll reply to the "Save my number text...". If she's lukewarm it's cool to try a while later and go for the meetup, as you did.
Her response was a little non-commital but it's worth another shot at least.

But since she hasn't confirmed... don't get bogged down with her now... keep going and getting more numbers. You won't be thinking about her and waiting for that "I'm free!" text... and when you don't care... strangely, they start coming.

 

[Marty]

and when you don't care... strangely, they start coming.

I know, it's odd. It's true of a lot of other important things in life too (e.g. job offers).