LR Non-Technical Analysis of Encounter with Little Red

[Howell]

Howdy folks, it's been too long since I wrote anything on this board. I hope you are all growing your characters well, and have been seeing reasonable progress in all the domains you're working on. Always remember, to quote some guy you've probably never heard of who goes by the name of Chase, "Success is the product of targeted discomfort." So if you're not feeling challenged, it's time to focus down on your target and penetrate it more deeply (or start a new growth curve), because comfort is a sign that you're ready to step it up. If you don't recognize this sign, enjoy being a big fish in a small pond; I hope you don't starve and that there isn't a drought.

For me, honestly, seducing women is starting to move down the lists of things I care about, as, after studying and practicing it doggedly for the past 4 years or so, I am really comfortable with this whole process. It's pretty straightforward -- it's not like some crazy difficult task, sleeping with women. Cute girl -> chat her up -> move her somewhere -> act more risque and build some intrigue -> invite her home -> remove clothes -> have sex. Unless I want to start teaching it, there's hardly any value for me to keep putting in effort here besides just the fun of it and keeping my rotation turn-over flowing.

The hardest part with seduction now is simply finding a place where cute girls congregate and starting an interaction with them. After that, I can pretty much autopilot my way to sex. Obviously sometimes things diverge off the path, but that's actually not as common as it probably should be, and it also couldn't bother me less when it happens. There are billions of women out there, and I can just go for a walk and meet at least 1 new girls who would want to bang me that same day.

Perhaps I'm a bit jaded.

Tonight, I picked up a conservative redhead (they always find me) in a bookstore and then met her later at a fancy hotel near my house I like to hang out at (free alcohol till 7:30 PM and I can mingle with well-established people at the various conventions hosted there). She's sassy yet a bit shy the whole time, and apparently really passionate about animals. I'm somewhat interested, but she's not blowing me away here. I invite her to go hang out in the pool, and we recline on some beach furniture as it lightly rains outside the windows.

She looks like she's starting to auto-reject because we're not fucking yet, so I escalate the touch and then lead her over to my house to oblige her. The pretext was a little bit of "she needs to charge her phone", and "maybe we''ll watch a movie".

She comes over, we go to the bedroom, and I immediately start escalating. She puts up typical resistance before I can take off her underwear: "We aren't going to have sex tonight, I just met you.", "What are you doing?" Etc. Etc. We''ve all heard it before. 10 minutes after telling me we aren't going to have sex she's asking me if I have any condoms. The turning point was when she said "I don't want to have sex tonight" and I responded "Yes you do" and then she said, "Okay, I guess I do." Before that she was pretending to get up to leave so I pinned her down with her hands behind her back. This apparently was her last barrier.

We bang and soon after she goes home.

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My conclusion here is a bit of an atypical one: I think I should up my game again, and keep challenging myself, but in a way that is more targeted towards being artful, and not primarily towards efficiency or lay count or anything like that. I feel like that's all stuff I could go for, but.... why?

I'll focus more on making wild, organic situations, and on building up the intensity of the experiences I collaborate with people on. Perhaps I'll get in a new relationship and learn more about that. What do ya'll think? Always good to get a second opinion on this sort of thing.

Best,
Howell

 

[ray_zorse]

It's funny that you say finding where the girls congregate and starting the interaction is the hard thing b/c I really have the opposite problem, approach countless girls, get numbers etc, basically on autopilot, but isolating / progressing to sex, well many things go wrong... I think it's partly just my vibe, not making them reliably horny, but I have seen massive improvement in this area so not too concerned, just takes practice. Anyway, good to hear you're not having that problem, but in regards to your question "what next" I suggest to read this article, has transformed my game since implementation 4mth ago.
Ray

 

[Howell]

Thanks for the kind words guys

Howell,

I always thought you sounded pretty advanced with your writing and insights here.

If you don't feel challenged enough with picking up girls in general, which is totally understandable after a while. II think a long term goal is to find a girlfriend who will pickup with you.

I basically haven't took on any fwbs this year so that I'd keep approaching and get my process down, but when I reach the comfort you are at, I think my next move will be a serious open relationship.

Just a thought. Good read too, don't stop posting!

Radeng

Funny you mention the FWB/serious open relationship style. I've had one or two of those so far, and both times it ended rather lacklusterly. They were okay with it, but mostly passive about me picking up other girls in front of them. They would kind of help, but mostly they just stayed out of the way. Definitely worth finding the right girls who have their own benefits from that sort of relationship, if you're gonna go for that.

It didn't really turn the ones I did it with on so much as distance them from me.

No matter what they say, a person's upbringing and past expectations don't just disappear overnight. I generally avoid even talk about other girls in front of other romantic interests now, as it can make things unnecessarily difficult.

I think I'm just in a trough motivation-wise. I've been grinding for over a year now on building a new business and writing/researching for a monster of a book, and that business is only barely paying the bills, so I think that stress is leaking into other domains like seduction/pick-up.

Howell