Not Getting Hooked On Tinder?

[Rage]

Hey guys had a question about something

A number of guys have posted up reports with girls from tinder in the past weeks/months. And seem to have a positive thing or two to say about the app.

I had tried it and dicked around with it a bit (but not half as seriously as I did with approaching); one thing that I found that I didn’t like was that when I had the app I would get addicted to it … not in an extremely excessive way either but in the same way that a guy might keep checking his phone for email (I would keep checking tinder for new right swipes).

Against my better judgment (or perhaps not) I reactivated my tinder today and was wondering if you guys have any rules about not getting hooked on it?

Like patterns of when you'll check your right swipes and message and rules for when to go on and when to stay cold turkey off of it?

It shouldn’t be a difficult thing to do, but yeah like any hacks or tricks you guys have found work for you I’d be up for trying. Any thoughts or ideas would help

I’m sort of an addictive personality, particularly if I do nothing to attempt to curb my obsessive tendencies; I wanna be able to enjoy the perks of the app without giving my soul to it (if you get what I mean lol).

-Gem

 

[Franco]

Gem,

If you really want to minimize the time you spend on it while still maximizing your results, you can always do what my roommate does! He opens the app, spends about 5-10 minutes using both of his thumbs swiping right on EVERY suggested person until it runs out, and then closes his phone!

I'm not even joking.

It's smart, because you make absolutely sure that every girl that is given to you sees that you're interested, and if she feels like it, she'll respond by swiping right back. You'll obviously get tons of butterfaces and whales swiping right on you back, but you never actually have to message any of these girls, of course. You just simply go through all of your matches and message the ones that you found cute.

It's a very quick and efficient method.

- Franco

 

[Rage]

Hey thanks franco; I didn't know that tinder could run out of girls! I'll try that out (going through a lot at once) ...

-Gem

 

[RDawg]

- Gem

Personally, I do exactly what Franco mentioned above. I swipe right until, I can't swipe anymore. Once, I do this, I will then message all the girls that I am interested in. I'll have a small conversation with each girl (if they message back) and then I will suggest a date and exchange #'s with the girl. Once, I get a few date's/#'s set-up (usually about 3 girls), I will then stay off Tinder for probably about 2 weeks or so (I might check it every so often but just quickly). I find this to be an effective strategy for using tinder (not getting to hooked), as you could only set-up so many date's in a week with girls

- Rdawg

 

[Rage]

Invest yourself and your energy into something bigger. What are some goals you have for your life?

Hey Drexel,

You're kind of a legendary guy on the site, so thanks for taking the time to reply to my little old post

By not wanting to get hooked on tinder I meant spending 30 minutes a day on it but spread out through reactive bursts 5-10 times a day of checking your phone... I wanted to avoid that from happening.

Turned out though that I've gotten better at this than I had been a month or 2 ago, I set it up now so I'd just check once at morning once at night and not touch it the rest of the time and that seemed to work fine for me.

Goals of mine: (not sure whether you ask to make sure I'm not sitting on my ass all day thumbing through tinder, but I don't mind talking about them) I've been lifting religiously for a couple of years and want to compete as a powerlifter in another 1-2 years.

I write every day and have a lot of essays and poetry and other written work that I'm compiling onto a personal site/blog of mine; I wanna treat that like a startup business though and take my work seriously, build my website to be something of high quality that I can be proud of in the years to come.

I'm taking a stab at public speaking to see how I like it in relation to writing (my prediction will be that I enjoy it but that it comes second to writing). A really awesome speaker friend of mine has been getting me interested and involved in that and perhaps I'll be able to tie that in with my published writings and site in the near future.

Other than that there are a couple of smaller goals I have, and then other past skills that I would love to get back into and new ones that I would love to try in the coming years of my life.

I'm curious though: are you against tinder the app and advise against getting on it? Or just becoming an unmotivated undriven zombie that messes around with that but doesn't do much else with his life?

My reason for getting on was simply that it's automated and seems efficient so if I happen to get a number of girls just jumping into my fishing net (so to say) I'd be silly to not taking advantage of that (or only briefly try it at the very least).

- Gem

Personally, I do exactly what Franco mentioned above. I swipe right until, I can't swipe anymore. Once, I do this, I will then message all the girls that I am interested in. I'll have a small conversation with each girl (if they message back) and then I will suggest a date and exchange #'s with the girl. Once, I get a few date's/#'s set-up (usually about 3 girls), I will then stay off Tinder for probably about 2 weeks or so (I might check it every so often but just quickly). I find this to be an effective strategy for using tinder (not getting to hooked), as you could only set-up so many date's in a week with girls

- Rdawg

Hey Rdawg yeah thanks for the tip ... you know, I had a question or two more think I'll just pm you though

-Gem