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I have always felt like a misfit in life and I want to fix this but I feel sometimes it might be too late.
It never really bothered me in high school since I had goals of getting out of the small shithole polluted city I was at, so my focus was on getting out. Not your stereotypical high school in the suburbs by any stretch of the imagination.
Didn't realize it at the time but I had possessive parents who worked behind the scenes to stop me and were quite slick in getting me to stay there after high school and it worked.
Eventually I rebelled from them and went off to college but when I arrived, I realized how behind I was socially compared to the naturals who have been socially engaged with what's cool, what's not, and all of that for years. I also realized how much of the college experience I missed out on in regards to friends by not getting to be a part of dorm life or rushing a frat, while I did make friends, college was lonely.
Now I am living in a city (medium sized) and working full time but I feel like a lot of this is kicking in and leading me to be unhappy.
I've always felt left out of it all and it especially impacted me in college when I was not a part of the world that hot girls were a part of (Greek Life at my school). I have never had a crew, social circle, or a group of mixed gender friends to be a part of and it is getting to me.
I even experience it now as I go out to bars to night game and see that people are there with their friends and social circles while I am that weird loner dude at the bar trying to pick up girls.
I've tried Meetup but it's pretty fucking lame, tons of older people on it and the ones I don't really fit in with, the kinds who are into more older people things like staying in to watch netflix on a Friday night.
I wonder if it is too late for a social life at my age (mid 20s and out of college) since it seems like everyone has their friends already but assuming it isn't, how do I fix it?
How does a guy like me find his crew?
What hobbies do I get into to find more of my crowd of younger people who actually want to go out and have fun instead of shut ins that want to watch Netflix?
It never really bothered me in high school since I had goals of getting out of the small shithole polluted city I was at, so my focus was on getting out. Not your stereotypical high school in the suburbs by any stretch of the imagination.
Didn't realize it at the time but I had possessive parents who worked behind the scenes to stop me and were quite slick in getting me to stay there after high school and it worked.
Eventually I rebelled from them and went off to college but when I arrived, I realized how behind I was socially compared to the naturals who have been socially engaged with what's cool, what's not, and all of that for years. I also realized how much of the college experience I missed out on in regards to friends by not getting to be a part of dorm life or rushing a frat, while I did make friends, college was lonely.
Now I am living in a city (medium sized) and working full time but I feel like a lot of this is kicking in and leading me to be unhappy.
I've always felt left out of it all and it especially impacted me in college when I was not a part of the world that hot girls were a part of (Greek Life at my school). I have never had a crew, social circle, or a group of mixed gender friends to be a part of and it is getting to me.
I even experience it now as I go out to bars to night game and see that people are there with their friends and social circles while I am that weird loner dude at the bar trying to pick up girls.
I've tried Meetup but it's pretty fucking lame, tons of older people on it and the ones I don't really fit in with, the kinds who are into more older people things like staying in to watch netflix on a Friday night.
I wonder if it is too late for a social life at my age (mid 20s and out of college) since it seems like everyone has their friends already but assuming it isn't, how do I fix it?
How does a guy like me find his crew?
What hobbies do I get into to find more of my crowd of younger people who actually want to go out and have fun instead of shut ins that want to watch Netflix?
