Not sure about how I should go about this

[TheChased]

Hi guys! In need of some input on how I should go about this.

I'm gonna start with some background information and then proceed to tell you about the situation right now. So let's go!

I met this girl at my former job, she's a really beautiful, but kind of a dumb chick. (Sorry, but have to be honest.)
She's a bit younger than me and I had more experience than she had at this job. So I had kind of an higher authority. (I could tell her to do stuff and she would listen, she would ask questions and I would answer.)
I did joke around with her when we worked, but never really flirted. (Did some chase-framing now and then, but very little, I had a girlfriend at that moment.)
The company was sold to a bigger company, but my workplace went really bad, so they decided to shut it down. Not really a big deal, was gonna quit anyways. So we had a party one last time, so we could say good luck on our journey and what not. (Yay! free food and drinks!) At this point I had been single for about 2-3 weeks, so i decided I had to get back in the game. So I proceeded to try and flirt with this girl, she would be an awesome fuck. Thing is, stuff happened and it wasn't until late that night, that I got to talk to her. I was a bit tipsy at this moment, so my game was a bit off. So nothing really happened, we talked, had a laugh and then people started to go home.

This happened in late May, and on Friday (2 months later) she sent me a message on Facebook asking me for help with some math questions. Since she knew I'm great at math. I helped her and didn't really think about it. Then on Sunday I thought "What the hell, why not give this girl a shot?". So this is how the conversation has gone up until now:

Sunday:
Me: Been on any crazy adventure this weekend?
Her: Hahha Absolutely not, had a calm weekend
Her: You?
Me: Was at a party with my fellow students yesterday, it was pretty fun
Monday:
Her: Sounds fun
Her: What are you studying?
Me: I'm studying civil engineer - Energy, climate & environment
Her: Ooh, congrats!
Me: Thank you! Have you started you studies?
Her: I'm starting next Monday, taking up some classes.
Today: (Thursday)
Me: Alright! What are you planing on studying next year then? Since you need to improve your grades.
Her: I have no idea
Her: Depends on what my grades will be

So I was thinking of deep-diving a bit about her plans, what she could see her working as and try to put in some chase-framing with a sexual vibe before I ask her out. I'm out of practice with this shit, when it comes to Facebook. When it comes to actual interaction I'm great, got my fundamentals down, have a sexy vibe and good at chase-framing. So if I get her on a date, it shouldn't be any big problems. What I'm worried about is two things:

1. Our past. Since I had a girlfriend and we worked together, my sexiness was not at top in these interactions. So she could see me as sexy because I was higher in authority, but she could also see me as an older friend kind of shit.

2. How I should proceed this conversation to get her to go out with me. The conversation goes really slow, because we're both pretty busy people. If it goes on to long, it will not do me any big favors. And it's still to early to ask her out.

Yeah, give me your thoughts!

 

[Dude909]

Just ask her out and escalate, and you'll have a definite answer to both your questions.

 

[TheChased]

I did some reading in the forums on texting, and I think I'm just going to ask her out right away, just have to deal with shit-test first. I'm really pleased by your response, it made me more sure on this. What I really liked radeng, was your example: "you know we never got to hang outside of work much, want to grab a drink(or coffee) with me soon?".
The way I have gotten to know this girl, is that she doesn't like clubs and getting drunk so much. So I think I'm going for the coffee with this girl. Was thinking of maybe adding that I'm all packed this week, and that we should grab that coffee next week. Just because I really am packed this week, and it could work in my favor. Knowing this is a popular girl, and I think she would value me being busy more than "normal" girls would. I will update you on how it went! No big deal if doesn't go well. It's not like I have been putting in a lot of work with this girl.

Thanks for the response
-TC

 

[TheChased]

Alright, what happened was that I thought I should say one more thing before I ask her out. Well... This happened:

Her: I have no idea
Her: Depends on what my grades will be
Me: It's never to late to find out what you're interested in!
And then she doesn't respond.. (Should've just asked for a date)

Two days later tho, she ask me another math question, so I told her that it's hard for me to help over text. I'm not helping her if I can't get anything out of it.
So I told her she just uses the math questions to talk to me. (chase-frame) If I get a bad respond on that one, then I'm just forgetting her. Good respond=ask for a coffee. Going on a role right now, so I'm not wasting time on girls that respond bad. Just wanted to update you. Learned a bit with this post. Another girl that suddenly texted, I just went for the date on text #2, worked like a charm. It's good for me to get good on the things that I'm weak on, and this helped a lot! Will up my lays much more just by researching this.

Cheers
-TC