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This is a report from a night out almost two weeks ago. Only today did I write it down because it was too painful to remember. This girl just literally wanted it bad and I made several dumb mistakes, in logistics mainly.
Here's how I began the night. No car, everything 25 minutes from home. I went to a small social dancing night at some dance studio. I had only been there once before. I arrived late. Not a lot of people. Right away I felt uncomfortable because I didn't know anyone, nonetheless I took a seat and watched the people already dancing. I feel awkward there since it wasn't my turf.Eventually I danced and gained some momentum. the event ended early, so a went to a bar/place to dance. When I got there I greeted some friends that were there by coincidence. I grabbed a drink and mingled in the dance floor to dance with some chicks. It was really crowded. Many Colombian chicks because it was Colombian night.
At some point I'm dancing with sexy Colombian, let's call her CuteCheeks (yes face and buttocks haha).
I think she has some friends guarding her but she non-verbally signals I'm okay dancing with him for a while. I asked her what brought her to the US. What does she does here. She is a nanny, but the job is from a program to learn English bla bla bla. She asked me "and usted what do you do here?" I'm like what the heck? I remember in some parts of Colombia is normal to use 'usted', but for a while I'm like should I address you as 'tu' or 'usted'?" Usted sounds very impersonal. We talk more. She didn't responded well when I increased proximity and touch. I dragged the interaction for two songs and I didn’t move her so I had to ejected.
First mistake: The only way of moving her, I thought, was to take some air outside but I feel like it was asking too much compliance. Only later do I realize I could have moved girls to the bar to grab a drink instead, then to a table outside, then pull.
Later I bumped into CuteCheeks again and I said "is that beer?" "Yeah" and I take a sip. She laughed but I don't think she was very pleased lol.
Later I danced with a girl from my own country and with a piercing in the upper lip. She resembled a girl I met before but couldn't quite remember. I asked her if her name started with J, she said no, with W. Made some talk, she seemed shy. At some point I told her her piercing looked "coqueto" meaning playful in a sexy manner. She blushed a little and looked down. The problem again was I couldn't figure where to move her.
I kept dancing with other girls, though, and I was warmed up. Going around the dance floor, I catch a glimpse of this really cute blond girl, and very dominantly I make her dance. I don't say anything for a while, then we start talking. Very soon I feel she's really into me. After 5 minutes or so I tell her let's go outside to get some air. We go outside. We are looking into each other eyes. I asked her where she's from. Apparently she's from out the city. I realize I have to pull now, but, oh boy! How?
Second mistake of the night. At that moment I thought, she doesn't live here, and I don't have car, how do I invite her to my place? I was missing the window but couldn't think of anything. She wanted it, but how could I give it to her? Then I just say "let's go inside dance some more"
I thought the interaction was lost now, so I kept dancing with some more girl, grabbed more drinks, etc.
Some time later I find her again in the dance floor not dancing and I tell her let grab a drink at the bar. We go. It takes a lot of time to get our drinks. I order a shot of tequila and I tell her "want to take sip?" She does. She seemed a bit drunk by then. She then says "it's that another exit? " pointing to a lateral exit. I say "let's find out" and we are going but then I say "wait, let me grab my coat". She replies:
-huh? Where are we going?"
-"I think maybe we can have a drink somewhere more quiet"
-I like you, but I still want to dance some more here"
-they are almost going to close"
- "when do they close?"
-"X hour" [there was still an hour before that]
She said she wanted to stay and I just said ok and asked another girl to dance.
Later when the place closed I saw her leaving with some well dressed dude.
This was my biggest mistake of the night. Thinking of it now I realize I was really dumb. She wanted to go outside. She was thinking of finding a good spot to fuck, but I screwed up. I want to blame the alcohol for all the inane mistakes, but to be honest I wasn't that drunk.
But such is life. I haven't got my first LR yet, but I feel I'm close, so long as I stop doing silly mistakes.
Lessons learned:
-Think better about the compliance process. It can be dance -> grab a drink -> have them at a table outside -> pull to my place or her place in a taxi/uber?
Or just dance -> move her outside -> take a walk and find a dark alley to close the deal.
Here's how I began the night. No car, everything 25 minutes from home. I went to a small social dancing night at some dance studio. I had only been there once before. I arrived late. Not a lot of people. Right away I felt uncomfortable because I didn't know anyone, nonetheless I took a seat and watched the people already dancing. I feel awkward there since it wasn't my turf.Eventually I danced and gained some momentum. the event ended early, so a went to a bar/place to dance. When I got there I greeted some friends that were there by coincidence. I grabbed a drink and mingled in the dance floor to dance with some chicks. It was really crowded. Many Colombian chicks because it was Colombian night.
At some point I'm dancing with sexy Colombian, let's call her CuteCheeks (yes face and buttocks haha).
I think she has some friends guarding her but she non-verbally signals I'm okay dancing with him for a while. I asked her what brought her to the US. What does she does here. She is a nanny, but the job is from a program to learn English bla bla bla. She asked me "and usted what do you do here?" I'm like what the heck? I remember in some parts of Colombia is normal to use 'usted', but for a while I'm like should I address you as 'tu' or 'usted'?" Usted sounds very impersonal. We talk more. She didn't responded well when I increased proximity and touch. I dragged the interaction for two songs and I didn’t move her so I had to ejected.
First mistake: The only way of moving her, I thought, was to take some air outside but I feel like it was asking too much compliance. Only later do I realize I could have moved girls to the bar to grab a drink instead, then to a table outside, then pull.
Later I bumped into CuteCheeks again and I said "is that beer?" "Yeah" and I take a sip. She laughed but I don't think she was very pleased lol.
Later I danced with a girl from my own country and with a piercing in the upper lip. She resembled a girl I met before but couldn't quite remember. I asked her if her name started with J, she said no, with W. Made some talk, she seemed shy. At some point I told her her piercing looked "coqueto" meaning playful in a sexy manner. She blushed a little and looked down. The problem again was I couldn't figure where to move her.
I kept dancing with other girls, though, and I was warmed up. Going around the dance floor, I catch a glimpse of this really cute blond girl, and very dominantly I make her dance. I don't say anything for a while, then we start talking. Very soon I feel she's really into me. After 5 minutes or so I tell her let's go outside to get some air. We go outside. We are looking into each other eyes. I asked her where she's from. Apparently she's from out the city. I realize I have to pull now, but, oh boy! How?
Second mistake of the night. At that moment I thought, she doesn't live here, and I don't have car, how do I invite her to my place? I was missing the window but couldn't think of anything. She wanted it, but how could I give it to her? Then I just say "let's go inside dance some more"
I thought the interaction was lost now, so I kept dancing with some more girl, grabbed more drinks, etc.
Some time later I find her again in the dance floor not dancing and I tell her let grab a drink at the bar. We go. It takes a lot of time to get our drinks. I order a shot of tequila and I tell her "want to take sip?" She does. She seemed a bit drunk by then. She then says "it's that another exit? " pointing to a lateral exit. I say "let's find out" and we are going but then I say "wait, let me grab my coat". She replies:
-huh? Where are we going?"
-"I think maybe we can have a drink somewhere more quiet"
-I like you, but I still want to dance some more here"
-they are almost going to close"
- "when do they close?"
-"X hour" [there was still an hour before that]
She said she wanted to stay and I just said ok and asked another girl to dance.
Later when the place closed I saw her leaving with some well dressed dude.
This was my biggest mistake of the night. Thinking of it now I realize I was really dumb. She wanted to go outside. She was thinking of finding a good spot to fuck, but I screwed up. I want to blame the alcohol for all the inane mistakes, but to be honest I wasn't that drunk.
But such is life. I haven't got my first LR yet, but I feel I'm close, so long as I stop doing silly mistakes.
Lessons learned:
-Think better about the compliance process. It can be dance -> grab a drink -> have them at a table outside -> pull to my place or her place in a taxi/uber?
Or just dance -> move her outside -> take a walk and find a dark alley to close the deal.
