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Stark

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FYI:

Forgot to post the link last month, but @alleniverson's interview (transcript to keep his voice anonymous) went up here:

Interview with @James D is live now here (audio podcast interview):

Both great conversations!

Chase


Just listened to @James D's interview. Love the audio version. James's a boss giving the interview while his girl is in next room. He approaches seduction like an artist picking out nuances that most logical guys don't notice. I have taken massive inspiration from James while getting back on cold approaching after a super long hiatus.

@alleniverson's interview was instrumental to the mindset shift I talked about in my latest report. It's something that's not very out there, but there is a sense of openness in Allen's vibe to serendipitous encounters.

I'm more intune with my energy and self talk these days thanks to his reports and interview - It has elevated my results in a short span of time.
 

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Just listened to @James D's interview. Love the audio version. James's a boss giving the interview while his girl is in next room. He approaches seduction like an artist picking out nuances that most logical guys don't notice. I have taken massive inspiration from James while getting back on cold approaching after a super long hiatus.

@alleniverson's interview was instrumental to the mindset shift I talked about in my latest report. It's something that's not very out there, but there is a sense of openness in Allen's vibe to serendipitous encounters.

I'm more intune with my energy and self talk these days thanks to his reports and interview - It has elevated my results in a short span of time.
Awe yay 🥰 Love it.
 

James D

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Damn @James D I didn't realize how young you are. Happy belated birthday, by the way. You previously mentioned the language barrier to me, and I don't know if this is purposeful (since it's recommended as a vocal tweak) or a result of the second language thing, but I think your slow speaking pace is something to be emulated.

That's pretty cool you coached with Alek. Maybe things will come full circle one day as he mentioned.

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Two questions if I may ask...

1. Could you expand on how the one-sided monogamy discussion initiated and played out with Monica? I've done this before, but it was the girl who brought it up in our first month. She was one of the most sexually open minded girls I've met though, so it's not really an average, replicable case.

2. Would you ever return to night game? Is the only barrier that you're worried about being unable to stay sober? It's funny we only knew about your day game era, because I once wondered to myself what would happen if you winged with a guy like Hue, and your day game skills were put to the test in his club environments, and his night game skills were put to the test in your environment's daytime malls, etc.

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Oh and since you mentioned relationship skill-building now, you might find value in Sixty's Relationship Roulette book.




I don't think it's for sale, but it's the last section of his Complete Game Revision System - very easy to find online.
Cheers man!

The slow speaking style- it's a natural result of my lower energy levels. I try my best not to sound boring, which can happen when speaking slow. Even in french (native language), I speak the same way. The only difference is I have a much more extensive vocabulary in french.

Damn the day I coach Alek is the day I know I made it ;)

Your questions:

1. I told Monica I love women and part of who I am involves conquering new women. Makes me feel sharp and alive. She thought about it and eventually said that if I only fuck them once, with no on-going contact (so no fwb), then she could be fine with it. That condition suits me, as I have the nasty habit of getting sucked into FWB situations by pure laziness.

On her side, she's not at all into seeing other guys when dating, so there was no need to debate that. She knows I'm super responsible with condoms and all so she's not so worried.

Funny thing is she gets turned on by me fucking other women. Often, she asks me how it went, how I seduced the girl and asks me to recreate the scene with her. Then she gets really turned on and we have some really hot sex. My last hookup left a hickey on my chest and when Monica saw it, she went straight for it and started licking it hungrily. Wild sex followed again.

2. I learnt the essentials of seduction while going out at night. I wouldn't say I'm an expert but I had some decent success. Would I consider going back? Maybe but not anytime soon. Everything in my life has gotten so much better when I quit drinking and lost weight.

I don't know if this is documented but my guess is that it's much easier to transition from night game to day game. I expect that a guy who only day games would have a much harder time going into night game. With day game, you have to overcome the whole "it's weird to approach her during the day" mindset/fear. Once you're pass that, it's smooth sailing.

Thanks for the relationship book recommendation! Checking it out!

Cheers man and thank you for the birthday wishes!
 

James D

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Just listened to @James D's interview. Love the audio version
Happy to hear man!

James's a boss giving the interview while his girl is in next room.
Hahaha, told her I had a "business meeting". I was lucky cuz it was pretty late in my city so she went straight to bed.

He approaches seduction like an artist picking out nuances that most logical guys don't notice. I have taken massive inspiration from James while getting back on cold approaching after a super long hiatus.
Super glad to hear you've taken inspiration!
 

Stark

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Cheers man!


1. I told Monica I love women and part of who I am involves conquering new women. Makes me feel sharp and alive. She thought about it and eventually said that if I only fuck them once, with no on-going contact (so no fwb), then she could be fine with it.

Here's the biggest challenge I faced with this arrangement with my ex (last couple of years) -

Logistics - Girls I met were weary of me having a girlfriend even though it was an open relationship. My conversion rate(dates to sex) dropped like a rock. When I was single and new in my city I used to live in an Airbnb. Almost every girl I met happily came over or was willing to go to a love motel when I was single. However, when I suggested the same options while in a relationship(albeit in a more tactful tone) they were not okay. I did manage to lay over 10 girls during the time I was in relationship(over 2 years), but that was way below my average even in my dryest dry spell days

How do you manage to overcome this?

Funny thing is she gets turned on by me fucking other women. Often, she asks me how it went, how I seduced the girl and asks me to recreate the scene with her. Then she gets really turned on and we have some really hot sex. My last hookup left a hickey on my chest and when Monica saw it, she went straight for it and started licking it hungrily. Wild sex followed again.

That's Hot AF 🔥
 

James D

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How do you manage to overcome this?
So far I have not been mentioning having a girlfriend.

I'm a similarity/connection focussed guy and tend to attract/vibe best with girls who enjoy a nice connection. I don't think they respond well to hearing the guy they've been connecting with has a girlfriend. I may be wrong though.

I alternate between sleeping over at my gf's place and her sleeping over at mine. I plan my dates on the days she's not around and
 

Stark

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So far I have not been mentioning having a girlfriend.

I'm a similarity/connection focussed guy and tend to attract/vibe best with girls who enjoy a nice connection. I don't think they respond well to hearing the guy they've been connecting with has a girlfriend. I may be wrong though.

I alternate between sleeping over at my gf's place and her sleeping over at mine. I plan my dates on the days she's not around and

Awesome. You’re handling it perfectly at the moment. Moving in together will be a death blow to the outcome of getting new girls.
 

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Hi @James D, I listened to your interview with Chase on the Girls Chase podcase yesterday and enjoyed it enormously. Congratulations on your incredible advancement! I wanted to say that you are one of the people on this forum whose work inspires me the most.
 

Stark

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No factual, just your opinion... I lived with mains all aloong
How did you manage the logistics of pulling new girls, when you lived with your girlfriend/OLTR? Was it just as effortless and high converting as when you’re single and had your place to yourself?
 

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How did you manage the logistics of pulling new girls, when you lived with your girlfriend/OLTR? Was it just as effortless and high converting as when you’re single and had your place to yourself?
yes, the same multiple ways:


 

James D

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Hi @James D, I listened to your interview with Chase on the Girls Chase podcase yesterday and enjoyed it enormously. Congratulations on your incredible advancement! I wanted to say that you are one of the people on this forum whose work inspires me the most.
Cheers @Marty!

Happy to hear you enjoyed it! And even happier to hear you've found inspiration from my forum posts!
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake
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