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I was eating with a couple of guy friends a few hours ago. Then as we were headed towards the train on our way back home, two female promoters stopped us and told us about this new exciting app that would get us free drinks and whatnot. For some reason, I ended up telling one of my guys that I could teach him some salsa (and I have no clue why the conversation got to that point haha). But one of the girls got excited and asked me if I really knew how to dance salsa. I told her yeah, and I could even give her the name of school I went to.
At this point, this girl and I are isolated from her promoter friend and my friends (they are like 5 feet away) and I don't remember the whole conversation as I was probably too much OUT of my head and just enjoyed the moment. We talked about the app first, but that changed quickly when we found out it wouldn't work on an Android device. Oh well.. change of subject: I asked her what she did besides offering free apps to strangers. She opened up a little about her educations, but opened EVEN MORE up about her passion for acting and writing poems. It was like a train of scripts were being spat out on autopilot from her end, yet I was so fascinated by this girl. I could relate to her being passionate and how her ex had made her quit her passion for some time, which reminded me of how my ex had gotten enough of me and my passion for my sport. I also realized from her story that she must be 27-28 of age, I am just 23 :b You're in for a big surprise, darling
The interesting thing about this seemingly autopilot talk was when this part of the conversation happened
Correct analysis on her part. And I was about to auto reject here because I thought her answers were scripted. I'm not kidding, it's like she was seducing me very subtly because she apparantly knew all the right answers to give me. And framing this poetry fact like it's something she only shares with special ones surprised me and made me think if this was her trying to trick me into a connection and that feeling of "specielness". But I disregarded that thought and went out of my head again. Maybe I was passing up one of the coolest chicks I was ever going to meet?
I deep dived a little about her poetry thing. She told me about this weird artist name she had given herself, made up of all the letters in her full name. And yeah, it sounded ridiculous. Silly girl
I noticed our body languages were mirroring each other at this point.
The number close was the important lesson for me because I have met so many girls who I connected with so well, yet I didn't take their numbers afterwards. And I thought it would be a big deal. But I found the moment where I wanted to get her number and didn't see any reason to postpone it.*
Then our conversation ended, and we joined the others' conversation. We went our separate ways afterwards with me and her hugging goodbye.
I sent an icebreaker text afterwards saying it was nice meeting her, and she replied an hour later "you too". I'm going to set up a date for next week soon.
* As I typed this, I realize how I wrote it: "I found the moment where I wanted to get her number". And this is how I felt. Not something macho about it, but I had the thought and feeling that I genuinely wanted her number right there. So why wait until it's too late?
** Right now, I think it's weird I said that unprofessional thing, who really gives a damn about that. But the thing that scared me the most afterwards was that it seemed like no big deal at all. It felt like I had been doing this forever.
All in all, I think this was a great experience because it shows how far I have come by working on my mindset. Girls are really not that big of a deal to me these days but still a lil bit. I am trusting my gut feeling a lot more, and as I said earlier: I am probably too much out of my head. But I'm just following the flow of the conversation and leading it the way I want it when necessary.
Thanks for reading this one. Even though nothing is certain with the girl, this one proves to me that I was right in focusing on my mindset for some time
At this point, this girl and I are isolated from her promoter friend and my friends (they are like 5 feet away) and I don't remember the whole conversation as I was probably too much OUT of my head and just enjoyed the moment. We talked about the app first, but that changed quickly when we found out it wouldn't work on an Android device. Oh well.. change of subject: I asked her what she did besides offering free apps to strangers. She opened up a little about her educations, but opened EVEN MORE up about her passion for acting and writing poems. It was like a train of scripts were being spat out on autopilot from her end, yet I was so fascinated by this girl. I could relate to her being passionate and how her ex had made her quit her passion for some time, which reminded me of how my ex had gotten enough of me and my passion for my sport. I also realized from her story that she must be 27-28 of age, I am just 23 :b You're in for a big surprise, darling
The interesting thing about this seemingly autopilot talk was when this part of the conversation happened
Correct analysis on her part. And I was about to auto reject here because I thought her answers were scripted. I'm not kidding, it's like she was seducing me very subtly because she apparantly knew all the right answers to give me. And framing this poetry fact like it's something she only shares with special ones surprised me and made me think if this was her trying to trick me into a connection and that feeling of "specielness". But I disregarded that thought and went out of my head again. Maybe I was passing up one of the coolest chicks I was ever going to meet?
I deep dived a little about her poetry thing. She told me about this weird artist name she had given herself, made up of all the letters in her full name. And yeah, it sounded ridiculous. Silly girl
I noticed our body languages were mirroring each other at this point.The number close was the important lesson for me because I have met so many girls who I connected with so well, yet I didn't take their numbers afterwards. And I thought it would be a big deal. But I found the moment where I wanted to get her number and didn't see any reason to postpone it.*
Then our conversation ended, and we joined the others' conversation. We went our separate ways afterwards with me and her hugging goodbye.
I sent an icebreaker text afterwards saying it was nice meeting her, and she replied an hour later "you too". I'm going to set up a date for next week soon.
* As I typed this, I realize how I wrote it: "I found the moment where I wanted to get her number". And this is how I felt. Not something macho about it, but I had the thought and feeling that I genuinely wanted her number right there. So why wait until it's too late?
** Right now, I think it's weird I said that unprofessional thing, who really gives a damn about that. But the thing that scared me the most afterwards was that it seemed like no big deal at all. It felt like I had been doing this forever.
All in all, I think this was a great experience because it shows how far I have come by working on my mindset. Girls are really not that big of a deal to me these days but still a lil bit.
I am trusting my gut feeling a lot more, and as I said earlier: I am probably too much out of my head. But I'm just following the flow of the conversation and leading it the way I want it when necessary.Thanks for reading this one. Even though nothing is certain with the girl, this one proves to me that I was right in focusing on my mindset for some time
