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Zoro

Cro-Magnon Man
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Approached two girls in the water at the beach today

I don't remember the convo exact, but it felt pretty interviewy, which is not typical for me. I was not in the zone. And maybe I should trim up my hairy chest since I want to do a lot of beach game.

Hey are you being attacked by these little fish?
G: yeah there's a lot today
I'm trying to relax and they keep bothering me!
G: haha
So it's not normally like this?
G:...
Is this a nice beach to go to?
G: yeah it's nice
I'm trying to meet people so I want to go where all the younger people are, I hear SF is full of old people.
G:haha yeah it is, but this is a college town and on the weekends there's a lot of people. Today's shitty so you know. Did you say you're new here?
Yeah I came from Xxxxx.
G:xxxxx?
Do you know where that is? G:...nooo
It's right by Cananda.
G oh I see did you say you've been here 3 days? (I don't remember telling her that, must have mumbled and she heard that instead, turns out that's true anyway!)
Yeah. even on a shitty day it's nicer here.

Kind of trailed off here. And I let it, rather than pelt these girls with questions when I was boring them. I was going to reopen but I was feeling so off. And they pretty much walked back to the beach after that chat, I think to escape me.
I'm so uptight lately and too serious about life. Goddammit J W you wanted that sexi-cutie in the orange top bad, but you talked to the other cute one, and she had no boobs.

I also left my shirt by these two cuteys on the beach and told them not to steal it. They were intrigued and I could tell it in their voice when one purred "I'll try not to." They definitely saw me chatting up the other two girls and yet I didn't say one more word to these girls. And actually one of them I already asked a question earlier when I was dressed in my sexy day clothes about the price of parking.

I also tried to make friends with some dudes with a soccer ball. They seemed pretty closed off and I kind of butted into their little game of catch. Wasn't so bad but again I felt like a interviewer and that guy. I rarely feel like that.

So I want to work on being less uptight and getting back my natural charisma and love of life!
Also I want to be more bold and I'd like to push through lukewarm interactions like the two girls in the water since I'm still very green. Gotta remember to talk to the girl I'm into as well. And also remember that there will be some chicks who just aren't into me/unavailable whatever and that there are others who are available and looking for me. I think the two I left my shirt with on the beach were a missed opportunity.

Off day, but in the big picture, I'm approaching more than ever.
 

Smurf

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hell yeah JW, keep it up!

You might want to "kill" interactions on purpose instead of ejecting early. I have a problem with that as well, basically, you just go and keep talking until you get her number, get her on a date or she excuses herself. I know it's hard to deal with that awkward tension sometimes, but you gotta push through.

As for being too serious, I usually try to lighten it up around the third thing I say, whether it's a joke or putting hard social pressure on her. Don't forget to smile either :)

Jake.
 
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