"Ok, but I have to tell my friends"

[Bboy100]

Ok, so I've noticed a trend when pulling girls from nightclubs. When it comes time to pull a girl, she'll agree to come home with me with enough persistence. But only if she can tell/call/communicate to her friends that she's leaving with me. Needless to say, whether or not the girl is actually sober or drunk, her friends will always assume she's incapable of making the decision to go home with me and just pull the girl away.

For example, just now as I come back from night game, I had this convo with a girl:

Me: We should go back to mine for a drink to end the night
Her: But I don't even know you
Me: That's ok, I'm only asking you to come get a drink with me. Nothing else.
Her: Ok, but I have to call my brother cause he's supposed to come pick me up
Me: Don't worry about it, I'll drive you home
Her: No, but he's already on his way. I have to tell him
Me: Oh don't worry about it, he'll be fine
...this goes on for a while.

Eventually, I give up.

I have this type of conversation with women almost every time I try to pull from a night life venue. Any tips for dealing with this?

 

[Reave Krieger]

The example with the girl who wanted to call her brother... Didn't she want to call him to tell him she will go with you and he won't need to pick her up anymore? If that was not the case then it was only an excuse I would say. And you're done.

For when a girl says she has to tell her friends who are in the club as well: If she is out with only one female friend (happens a lot, at least as far as I can tell) you can suggest that both come with you. Then escalate with your girl and make sure the other one likes you at least a little so she won't be in your way... Or escalate with both haha. I don't know there are several options I guess. I had two girls in my bed after club recently and waited until one of them fell asleep so I could escalate with the other.

Another way is to escalate IN the club (provided there are good escalation logistics such as toilets without staff or a dark corner). This one I didn't manage so far...

 

[Bete Noire]

Hey BBoy,

It depends on the situation to how I would deal with it in that situation,

For example if her brothers going to pick her up and is already on the way, then it is a legitimate concern for her to call the brother and tell him to not pick her up, so I'll tell her with a mischievous smile to not be long and meet me outside. This way you increase her compliance, deal with the concern and she 'buys in' to the pull.

However if it's somethin' silly like, 'let me tell my friends', unless it's a very small group just tell her to give them a call when you reach your place, the chances she'll meet someone else and/or her mates cock-block you is so much higher. If she insists a lil' I just throw in, 'You're a grown up girl now aren't you? ' whilst taking her hand/waist and leading her out. Make sure you are decisive, going out with you right at that moment is more fun than not ^^

Just somethin' I noticed from the ol' conversation you posted is that she knows that you are heading back to your place. Try not to do that as she has no plausible deniability which she needs to not reactivate the ol' pesky anti-slut defense. Chase has some pretty good examples of what you can do/say in the E-Book in his field-reports.

Hopefully this helps - regurgitated a bit of information at the end which isn't my own advice but Chases

- Rob