Okay, it happened

[DonAngelo]

After a year and something playing the game, becoming the hottest version of myself, becoming a fit, witty, charming and attractive man and after picking up a lot of women and moving on to the next one i decided to date this one girl and keep her, let's call her Jess, she is a conservative young lady, with a very hard character, she is sweet and really really silly, however she is really tough when she needs to be,

My experience is that when i tryed to set the stone and make her my girlfriend after a month dating she said she needed more time (says she haven't have a boyfriend since highschool, now 3rd year on University, a friend of mine close to her told me it's true) and Valentine's was getting close, i felt not the need but like i wanted to spend some time with her, nothing of a big deal just some time, since the time she told me she needed time she became cold asf and really cutting, when i re-confirmed the plans she told me that she didn't want me to do nothing, so i made the mistake of getting upset, told her fine and i was going to next her, then she write me a piece of text that really made up my mind why this girl was so insecured and cold, she is so affraid a man hurts her and pushes off people out of atmosphere that remins her of something, don't know what happend with her in the past but i know her mother passed away some time ago, maybe that has something to do...

However, the girl told me the best she can offert is being friends and bla bla... yeah it happened i got friendzoned, it haven't happened to me in a while lol, so i wanted to ask what should i do? Just leave her alone like i am right now? or maybe coming up with something? to be honest i really like her and felt she didn't gave us a chance.

I do have abudance mentality, i'm at a point where i'm feeling great of myself, i'm busy with a lot of stuff in my life, i'm fit and healthy, i can pick up almost any girl i want but it became boring and felt empty for me, i haven't been in a relationship for a while (over 2 years) and feel really stupid because i'm asking all of this in the first place lol, a lot of women are even chasing me, mmm i want to have a quality relationship with someone worthy right know, and this girl seemed worthy but none is worth chasing you know

Thanks for reading the long post, D.Angelo

P.D: i'm almost convinced someone hot-headed her over me over a situation i had with an ex years ago when she presented charges against me when i dumped her, she was a cheater crazy one lol, everybody at the campus have kinda heard the story and as always it's full of a caviar of fake stuff, or just some other stupid crap

 

[Lotus]

Don,

I decided to date this one girl and keep her.

The natural relationship process should not be, that one day you decided you wanted to date her. You want to keep her around, casually, long enough that she decides to date you.

If you want to date her, just keep her around. Keep keeping her around until she has already decided she wants to date you. With this girl, you decided you wanted to date her before she wanted to date you.... If you had just been chill and kept fucking her.

For a quality girl 1) you probably won't know if you want to make it serious after 1 month 2) she shouldn't want to get serious after a month. It takes much longer than that to really get to know someone.

My example.... my current girlfriend and I were casually dating for 6 months before we made it real. Before that we were just two people that enjoyed hanging out. The more we hung out, the more I liked her and the more she liked me. We didn't need each other but we wanted each other. The relationship germinated over time.

You pushed it and it seemed needy so she was like woah! and pulled out.

she told me that she didn't want me to do nothing

She pulled away and instead of mirroring her you moved in. When she didn't want to do anything for Valentines day you should have responded " No big deal, it's cool. Valentines day isn't serious anyway" and then let her reach out to you when she wanted to hang out.

It doesn't matter that you said you would drop her, because your actions said that you wouldn't.

I want to have a quality relationship with someone worthy right now

The sentence oozes neediness, because you want it now. Relationships don't happen, they develop. Wait for it to happen naturally.

In time it will come.

Taylor

 

[DonAngelo]

Don,

I decided to date this one girl and keep her.

The natural relationship process should not be, that one day you decided you wanted to date her. You want to keep her around, casually, long enough that she decides to date you.

If you want to date her, just keep her around. Keep keeping her around until she has already decided she wants to date you. With this girl, you decided you wanted to date her before she wanted to date you.... If you had just been chill and kept fucking her.

For a quality girl 1) you probably won't know if you want to make it serious after 1 month 2) she shouldn't want to get serious after a month. It takes much longer than that to really get to know someone.

My example.... my current girlfriend and I were casually dating for 6 months before we made it real. Before that we were just two people that enjoyed hanging out. The more we hung out, the more I liked her and the more she liked me. We didn't need each other but we wanted each other. The relationship germinated over time.

You pushed it and it seemed needy so she was like woah! and pulled out.

she told me that she didn't want me to do nothing

She pulled away and instead of mirroring her you moved in. When she didn't want to do anything for Valentines day you should have responded " No big deal, it's cool. Valentines day isn't serious anyway" and then let her reach out to you when she wanted to hang out.

It doesn't matter that you said you would drop her, because your actions said that you wouldn't.

I want to have a quality relationship with someone worthy right now

The sentence oozes neediness, because you want it now. Relationships don't happen, they develop. Wait for it to happen naturally.

In time it will come.

Taylor

I needed some ice-bucket response, thanks you are 100% now, somehow i feel relieved just for your reply