So I joined OKC last week, just to see what was out there. I was amazed at the responses I received. Many older than I, and of dubious quality. But one stood out with blonde hair, professional headshots, and a couple of photos with one of her kids.
She messaged me first with her name on a Thursday afternoon. I complimented her picture with her daughter. After a couple back and forth messages she remarked that "if we got together we would have the Female version of the Brady Bunch". I replied that it would at least be enough for a basketball team.
Turned out she is good friends with my cousin and his wife. We talked about our athletic endeavors.
One message I found interesting from her was: "What is your idea of a great first date?" I thought maybe she was angling to see whether I'd take her to an expensive restaurant or do some grand gesture.
To which I replied:" a great first date goes by so fast you don't realize it because the conversation flows so well. There is a physical attraction right away and a palpable sexual tension. The activity isn't as important as the opportunity to really communicate. Could be coffee, a beer, a walk outside, or sitting by the fire."
It must have worked, because after about 30 messages back and forth over a 5 hour period (yes too many) I finally asked her for her phone number and called her. She really seemed to be selling herself to me over the phone. I ended the conversation by saying I was getting updates from my friend in the hospital and needed to pass them along (which I was).
I texted her proposing we meet and she responded with a Coffee or Lunch option on Friday. I proposed a coffee place and a walk if the weather was nice.
Friday:
I found here easily at the coffee place. She was as attractive as her photos. I greeted her with a firm hug. We sat for a few minutes and then walked downtown with her doing most of the talking. I just fed her some topics and filled in with a couple of my anecdotes. We walked and talked for about an hour, and returned to the coffee house, where she hinted at another date soon. I demurred, citing her having her children for the upcoming week, and she proposed the following Friday. I had to reject that Idea since I had committed to a family trip to a theater production. She then proposed "running into each other sometime" during the week which I found interesting. I mentioned I did have to get back to work. We parted after another hug and I gave her a quick peck on the cheek.
She texted me moments after that she "enjoyed our coffee date
" I responded that I'd enjoyed it too. Nothing more.
That night, she texted "I hope to see you again soon" Since it was a Friday night, and I was busy with another female, I responded back this morning shortly after 6:00 am that it is going to be a busy couple of weeks, and mentioned a couple of things I was doing this weekend.
So where from here?
I have a pretty hot date (with a long term LDR) lined up for 4 days at the end of the month/New Years. I'm a little worried that if I ratchet up my OKC girl connection that she is going to potentially interfere with that. At the same time I want to keep her warm as an option. I'm underpromising at this point, as Chase has advised, but I don't want her to cool off, thinking I'm not interested.
She messaged me first with her name on a Thursday afternoon. I complimented her picture with her daughter. After a couple back and forth messages she remarked that "if we got together we would have the Female version of the Brady Bunch". I replied that it would at least be enough for a basketball team.
Turned out she is good friends with my cousin and his wife. We talked about our athletic endeavors.
One message I found interesting from her was: "What is your idea of a great first date?" I thought maybe she was angling to see whether I'd take her to an expensive restaurant or do some grand gesture.
To which I replied:" a great first date goes by so fast you don't realize it because the conversation flows so well. There is a physical attraction right away and a palpable sexual tension. The activity isn't as important as the opportunity to really communicate. Could be coffee, a beer, a walk outside, or sitting by the fire."
It must have worked, because after about 30 messages back and forth over a 5 hour period (yes too many) I finally asked her for her phone number and called her. She really seemed to be selling herself to me over the phone. I ended the conversation by saying I was getting updates from my friend in the hospital and needed to pass them along (which I was).
I texted her proposing we meet and she responded with a Coffee or Lunch option on Friday. I proposed a coffee place and a walk if the weather was nice.
Friday:
I found here easily at the coffee place. She was as attractive as her photos. I greeted her with a firm hug. We sat for a few minutes and then walked downtown with her doing most of the talking. I just fed her some topics and filled in with a couple of my anecdotes. We walked and talked for about an hour, and returned to the coffee house, where she hinted at another date soon. I demurred, citing her having her children for the upcoming week, and she proposed the following Friday. I had to reject that Idea since I had committed to a family trip to a theater production. She then proposed "running into each other sometime" during the week which I found interesting. I mentioned I did have to get back to work. We parted after another hug and I gave her a quick peck on the cheek.
She texted me moments after that she "enjoyed our coffee date
" I responded that I'd enjoyed it too. Nothing more.That night, she texted "I hope to see you again soon" Since it was a Friday night, and I was busy with another female, I responded back this morning shortly after 6:00 am that it is going to be a busy couple of weeks, and mentioned a couple of things I was doing this weekend.
So where from here?
I have a pretty hot date (with a long term LDR) lined up for 4 days at the end of the month/New Years. I'm a little worried that if I ratchet up my OKC girl connection that she is going to potentially interfere with that. At the same time I want to keep her warm as an option. I'm underpromising at this point, as Chase has advised, but I don't want her to cool off, thinking I'm not interested.
