FR Only cute girl in class

[SlyGuy]

(SLIGHTLY LONG--but ANY comments are much appreciated and anyone who reads all of this I will be very thankful. )

Okay.. So I haven't been putting in as much effort into picking up girls as I would like too... I make up excuses like I don't have time and I go to a mostly guy school (small technical school) and I live in a small town with not much to do and I am only 20 so I can't go out to public places where people drink alcohol..

Now onto the point..
So I've shared classes with this cute asian girl (she's not extremely cute but compared to the 2 or 3 other girls in my classes she's pretty cute) but we never really talked much. Well about a month ago we ran into each other out of class and I just finished talking to one of her friends, while at the gym, about her (friend nominated asian for ASL Ice bucket challenge) So I figured I'd bring that up. Well we talked for a couple of minutes than I had to head home so I just said I gotta guy and she said bye in a way that seemed as though she was being attractive (high pitched, sightly sad I had to go?).

She begins to show some interest everytime I run into her (says "hey you." kinda seductively I guess) and I wanted to ask her out as soon as possible but I never really got around to it. A friend of mine also said she seemed interested in class... He urged me to ask her out..

So a couple of days ago I ran into her again and it went something like this..

On campus walking, and I see her walking towards me and we are about to cross paths.
She sees me and smiles, I smile back and we come up and start talking.

Me: hey *her name*
Her: hey its you
Me: its me!
Her: *mumbles* see you
Her: are you done with classses?
Me: what was that?(directed towards the '*mumbles* see you')
Her: are you done with classes?
Me: yeah I am about to head to work though
Her: at...(looks in her papers)
Me: Alidyne.(saw her at a career fair at our school, showed her my companies kiosk)
(i have the side of my body directed at her, but looking at her directly. her body faces me)
Her: I got rid of all my resumes! (*we were at a career fair earlier at our school*)
Me: haha nice
Her: yeah this one guy didnt want mine because I was an international but I made him take it anyways
Me: yeah I didnt take your resume either (*she tried to give me one of hers*)
Her: is your job easier than the coursework?
Me: well its different because I dont really have set in stone deadlines, and they assign me what they know i can handle
Her: well dont you have tasks you have to finish?
Me: well yeah but its just less stressful because I only work there I dont have to do it at home and make sure I finish it
Her: and its close right?
Me: yeah like 5 minutes that way *points*
Her: by car though..right.
Me: yeah lol do you not have a car?
Her: no..i have to walk everywhere, ive been downtown though and to target
Her: takes about 2 hours to get to target and 30 minutes to get downtoad
Me: damn that sucks having a car is nice
Me: where do you live?
Her: on campus over there.
Her: have you finished the homework?
Me: no not yet
Her: me neither...
Her: *she notices my nametag in my hand from career fair*
Me: *motions for her to take it* want it?
Her: *she takes it, looks at it for a second, tries to hand it back*
Her: no because you didnt take mine (resume)
Me: well its all yours now i dont want it
Her: *she drops it*
Me: (theres a security gaurd right behind us) hey shes littering! *directed at security guard*
Her: yeah you have to write me up now for littering! hahah
*security guard just laughs*
*very short pause in conversation..*
Me: what are you doing this weekend?
Her: nothing..
Me: we should do something
Her: sure
Me: go downtown, smoke some hookah?
Her: sure
Me: have you ever smoked hookah?
Her: yeah ive been downtown before
Me: whats your number? *takes out phone*
Her: just facebook me(already friends on facebook) my phone usually doesnt work anyways
Me: do you have a local phonenumber? *puts phone away*
Her: yeah I have local everything, I keep getting mail asying I have to pay tax but Im international I dont have to pay tax)
Me: thats weird I live here and I never get mailed to pay my taxes
Her: that is very weird..
Me: alright well I gotta get going to work, ill talk to you later *lifts hand up to wave bye*
Her: *waves bye* goodluck at work!
Me: thanks haha
*walks away*


not exact as you could probably expect but close enough, got the major things in there and a bunch of useless information.
I am a little worried about this situation though because of how long we've known of eachother and the seeming of having plenty of time to decide.. and maybe awkwardness if things don't work out? Well that conversation was on Wednesday so today I messaged her on facebook and it went like this:

Me: Hey (name) hookah bar tomorrow evening?
Her: Hey what's up, who are we chillin with tmrw? (I didn't like this message..)
Me: I didn't invite anyone else; I was planning on just chilling with you.
Her: mmm alright. I can't stay too late though.
Her: Got too much homework too do. (Teacher name)'s project and Ronaldhino's lab
Me: Yeah same here
Her: Yeah Ronaldhinos lab is a pain
Me: His name is Ronaldo lol
Her: Yeah but Ronaldo means little Ronaldo, & he reminds me of Ronaldinho Gaucho as well, you know, the very famous soccer player a few years back?
Me:Yeah I can see that.. neither of them are little though.. lol. Does 7 tm sound good?
Her: yeah sounds good

So I read the "Cute girls in class? Stop Flirting and START DATING" article and it pretty much went against this whole situation, which was kind of disappointing.. But oh well.. I actually feel good because I've never actually asked a girl out, they've always kind of just hopped in my lap.. (Only 4 lays).. so no real experience. So even though the article doesn't bring much hope I'm just going to go with it and have some fun. She seems like a really cool, kinda goofy girl. So we'll see what happens.

Thank you if you read all of this.. Any advice or comments would be great!

 

[ray_zorse]

When you talk to her during the date be sure to discuss something sexual at least once. Like whatever she tells you she did, ask if there were any cute guys there, etc. Also check out Chase's article on the 8 questions you must ask, might give u some ideas, for instance def ask about her childhood, there was an FR/LR which is stickied (conversation examples maybe) where he (Zphix?) asks about growing up in X town and she says she had a normal girl childhood and he says that means hitting your teens and going crazy for guys right? (Not just a sexual frame but a chase frame too). Hope this gives you some ideas. Don't forget to break the touch barrier too, as soon as possible and then by touching on high points.

If you know what country she is from you might also want to research that country's cultural attitudes to dating and sex cos Asians (except Japanese) are often quite conservative. It wouldn't hurt to ask her a bit about her own expectations as well as cultural and family expectations so you know what you are working with, if she's DTF she will def find a way to let you know

cheers, Ray

 

[SlyGuy]

Thank you ray_zorse for taking the time to read this and giving me some advice!

When you talk to her during the date be sure to discuss something sexual at least once. Like whatever she tells you she did, ask if there were any cute guys there, etc. Also check out Chase's article on the 8 questions you must ask, might give u some ideas, for instance def ask about her childhood, there was an FR/LR which is stickied (conversation examples maybe) where he (Zphix?) asks about growing up in X town and she says she had a normal girl childhood and he says that means hitting your teens and going crazy for guys right? (Not just a sexual frame but a chase frame too). Hope this gives you some ideas. Don't forget to break the touch barrier too, as soon as possible and then by touching on high points.

I will definitely check out that article, I read it before but it will be a great refresher. I'll also be sure to look for that report. And I'll definitely be working on breaking the touch barrier, I have given her a high-five before and touched her back once but other than that nothing. I am normally pretty girl with knowing when it's appropriate to touch girls though at parties and such. Thank you!

If you know what country she is from you might also want to research that country's cultural attitudes to dating and sex cos Asians (except Japanese) are often quite conservative. It wouldn't hurt to ask her a bit about her own expectations as well as cultural and family expectations so you know what you are working with, if she's DTF she will def find a way to let you know

She actually is Asian, and I was thinking about it a little bit ago and I started thinking that it is possible that she could be a virgin. (She's probably like 18 but like you said Asian's can be conservative) My friend says she's probably half Chinese half Spanish. When you say ask her a bit about her own expectations as well as cultural and family expectations, what do you mean?

Questions like:
So are you looking for something serious right now or just focusing on you and trying to have fun?
What do your parents think of you dating? (That seems like a weird question, which is why I'm asking for examples!)

Also, do you think I probably could have spent my time more beneficially by cold approaching women that I haven't had classes with and won't continue to having classes rather than this girl? I am sure I will learn something from this interaction which will be a plus, but I do wonder if maybe I am kind of wasting my time with her because she will probably be conservative, more interested in a relationship, possibily a virgin (no thanks..), and even after all this I will have classes with her probably until I graduate... But in a perfect world if we do end up hooking-up; I would be discreet about it and I think it'd be pretty awesome to get with the hottest (lol shes like a 6 or 7 on a great day) girl in our class.

Once again, thanks for the reply!

 

[ray_zorse]

If she's half Spanish you're probably in good shape, those girls are fiery

You could say something like growing up in China did she have boyfriends in high school and what was the dating situation like, was she allowed to go out with boys to the cinema, shopping mall and so on... what did her parents think of this kind of thing... this is a bit of a double edged sword since you don't want to get her thinking negatively and conservatively in the current instance, but on the other hand it's a useful deep diving techniques because you're really asking about her innermost feelings and the things that were important to her growing up (boys.. boundaries.. family.. expectations.. hopes.. dreams.. etc) and there's a good chance she'll open up and start sharing her experiences. Also on a date you are supposed to want to know about the other person's background so these are legitimate questions which provide a perfect excuse to turn things sexual if you play it right (you can build up from dating to sexual matters easily).

PS. Editing to say in response to your question, don't just lead into this right off the bat, work it into the conversation. e.g. ask her why she decided to come to your country (USA?) and deep dive on that for a while (why not Canada, UK, Australia...why that course...how does it work in with her long term goals..etc) and when that starts to die then ask what she was doing before that (China? Spain? some other undergrad course there? etc)... this is all important stuff but not sexual. So once you've worked far enough back in her life you can use the above techniques to turn it sexual if you haven't already. Back to the original post...

Hope that helps. To some extent you have to make it up as you go along but having some ideas bouncing around is a start.

I tried social circle game when I was too shy to do approaches and fucked it up a fair bit, some awkward moments in the office for a while but that seems to have subsided and I still ask girls out from social circle occasionally, cos why not you just need a bit of a thick skin... actually [T] a cute Asian girl from the gym (subject of an early FR) is still steadfastly ignoring me even though we workout together in this tiny gym at exactly the same time 3 mornings a week, it is cute, hahaha. Now that I have much better game I am thinking of taking another tilt at office girl if I can do it in a casual/discreet way, wasted an opportunity at the tram stop the other day, just mumbled a greeting and looked away but I can improve. Just keep in mind you will have zero game at first and make many mistakes, but u will learn very fast so I say just go for it.