Hey guys, I am in an open relationship for the first time. It is wonderful. Only thing is it has changed my seduction game a bit. It is important i am respectful of the realtionship. That means letting new casual partners know I am in a relationship and it comes first before anything else. Trouble is everytime I have mentioned this it has killed the vibe. If I mention before a hook up the women either just hear the word "relationship" and spiral out into questions about what that means to be in an open one and they go off on thier relationships and the vibe dies down. Or they just back out right away "I can't do that" even if before hand they were totaly down for a casual no strings fling. For some reason if I am simply "not availiable for something more" they are cool, but if the reason why I am not availiable for something more is because of my Girl "No way!" Now if it is just a one night thing whatever no need to tell them, but if it is a girl I want to keep around for fun she needs to know simply out of respect for my relationship. If I don't tell the girl and we hook up and I tell beofre the next time we hook up she usualy feels misslead and does not stick around.
I also when I mention it to a woman before we have had a fling I get the vibe that we are now in a frame where I am chasing her. Like she is thinking "Oh clearly this guy just wants to get in my pants". Perhaps a way to remedy this is to first casual drop that I have a GF. Basicaly whenever it is relevent to the conversation mention something like "Oh yea camping is great, me and my girlfriend were just out at yosimite" She we most likely ask about my GF then a say "Oh yea, well we are in an open relationship. It's great, we both really care about eachother but we are not closed to other people. But it's not like we are just slutting it up. It has to really make sense. Not gonna just jump into bed with anyone. I mean, casual sex can be fun, but you have to have standards" (give her the deep sensual stare during the casual sex part) Basicaly it informs her of the situation but also makes it so I am not totaly obtainable. It has to be right. Now she is thinking, ok this could go to the bedroom but not unless it really feels good. I then build a sexual vibe at the end. This will start to put her in a chase frame becaus eshe is getting horny but knows that I have standardas and will not compromise my integrity my for someone who is not worth it. I can start to ask her if she is a sexualy open person as a perfect continuation of the conversation. The key is keep it about the sex part and not the relationship part. If it viers to far into relationship territory then I simply say something like "Let's not get into this too much of lot of this is between me and her" as in you don't need to know about my relationship other than that I am allowed to fuck your brains out if I decide that I want to.
Any thoughts?
I also when I mention it to a woman before we have had a fling I get the vibe that we are now in a frame where I am chasing her. Like she is thinking "Oh clearly this guy just wants to get in my pants". Perhaps a way to remedy this is to first casual drop that I have a GF. Basicaly whenever it is relevent to the conversation mention something like "Oh yea camping is great, me and my girlfriend were just out at yosimite" She we most likely ask about my GF then a say "Oh yea, well we are in an open relationship. It's great, we both really care about eachother but we are not closed to other people. But it's not like we are just slutting it up. It has to really make sense. Not gonna just jump into bed with anyone. I mean, casual sex can be fun, but you have to have standards" (give her the deep sensual stare during the casual sex part) Basicaly it informs her of the situation but also makes it so I am not totaly obtainable. It has to be right. Now she is thinking, ok this could go to the bedroom but not unless it really feels good. I then build a sexual vibe at the end. This will start to put her in a chase frame becaus eshe is getting horny but knows that I have standardas and will not compromise my integrity my for someone who is not worth it. I can start to ask her if she is a sexualy open person as a perfect continuation of the conversation. The key is keep it about the sex part and not the relationship part. If it viers to far into relationship territory then I simply say something like "Let's not get into this too much of lot of this is between me and her" as in you don't need to know about my relationship other than that I am allowed to fuck your brains out if I decide that I want to.
Any thoughts?
