OPINIONS PLEASE Best day of the week for date?

[girlsfollow]

So met a girl very briefly on friday night - only got to talk to her in a group for about 10-15mins - got her number and texted same night - texting has gone very well till now she has said she is free to meet up on "wednesday or the weekend"

Which to choose?

Wednesday - sooner - therefore avoids her forgetting who I am - but she probably has classes the next morning
Friday - better because she wont have classes the next day and she can stay out longer - but maybe something else will come up and get in the way (thinking she might get invited to a party last minute and then possibly be pushed towards moving the date)...

The worry about the next day is more important than normal since I now live 40 mins by train out of the centre (where she lives since that's where she goes to uni) - so if I want to get her back to my place on the first date (ive done it with one girl before) then she will be thinking do I really want to be going this far away from "home" - especially if I have classes the next day. She is a very sweet and seemingly innocent girl, very pretty - BUT not a player by any means.

what would you choose?

 

[trashKENNUT]

A big mistake i believe beginners and even intermediate guys and some advanced guy do.

IF she makes the weekend free, make yourself free.



Zac

 

[girlsfollow]

A big mistake i believe beginners and even intermediate guys and some advanced guy do.

IF she makes the weekend free, make yourself free.



Zac

Thanks Zac! I agree of course!

The question here is whether I should organise the meet on WEDNESDAY or THE WEEKEND

Since wednesday is closer - I think chase would normally say I should choose wednesday since its sooner...

 

[trashKENNUT]

girlsfollow,

Since wednesday is closer - I think chase would normally say I should choose wednesday since its sooner...

It would be great if you meet her on wednesday and ask her what time she's going back. After that, even if you can't close, you can end the date sooner and go out again on saturday.

My idea.

Zac

 

[girlsfollow]

girlsfollow,

Since wednesday is closer - I think chase would normally say I should choose wednesday since its sooner...

It would be great if you meet her on wednesday and ask her what time she's going back. After that, even if you can't close, you can end the date sooner and go out again on saturday.

My idea.

Zac

Anyone disagree with that?

Only problem I could think of is that if she can only stay for a little bit it might remove some of the momentum? say if she can only stay 1.5 hours - unlikely enough time to get her comfortable enough to get on a train with me out of town and then we would have just had a fruitless meeting -could raise frustration - stall things

So you say just set up as soon as possible to not miss the window and then handle the problem of the short time frame on the go.....Yes I think you are right! Ok now that decision is mostly made thanks - am I going to meet her closer to my place or her place (slight worry she won't want to come out of town somewhat) - I'm going to suggest she meets me at a station thats close to midway but slightly closer to me so about 25 mins out of town and only 15 mins away from me. (btw have another date on sat so would have to be friday)

I'd say a good rule of thumb is go sooner..


SO just to open up the discussion a bit - what would you guys say is the ideal date day?

and what about time of day?

 

[Grand Pooba]

I think this is a highly subjective question that really depends on logistics and your schedule, as well as the girl's lifestyle, schedule, and personality. For example, the ideal date day for a professional girl who works a regular M-F 9-5 job would be very different from a barista or bartender girl who tends to work weekends 6pm-3am and takes off a weekday or two, which would also be very different from a more creative girl that does temporary projects, consulting and contracts, as her schedule would likely be extremely busy for one or two weeks where she'll have zero time for anything but work and MAYBE a little fun , followed by a week or two of nothing but free time.

In essence, the ideal date day really depends on the type of girl you're with and what you're looking for.
In essence, the ideal date day also depends on how smooth you are in managing the logistics of meeting to work in your favor of bringing her home and having fun with her after you do whatever you do.

If you have a choice between a coffee at 7pm on a Saturday but she HAS to go out with her friends at 10pm that same Saturday, yet happens to have all of Sunday afternoon free, I'd go with Sunday unless you already have it in the bag on Saturday and she is the type of girl that's okay with missing her friends to spend time with you. You'll know the latter based on how intent she is to spend time with you that Saturday, for instance.

 

[girlsfollow]

I think this is a highly subjective question that really depends on logistics and your schedule, as well as the girl's lifestyle, schedule, and personality. For example, the ideal date day for a professional girl who works a regular M-F 9-5 job would be very different from a barista or bartender girl who tends to work weekends 6pm-3am and takes off a weekday or two, which would also be very different from a more creative girl that does temporary projects, consulting and contracts, as her schedule would likely be extremely busy for one or two weeks where she'll have zero time for anything but work and MAYBE a little fun , followed by a week or two of nothing but free time.

In essence, the ideal date day really depends on the type of girl you're with and what you're looking for.
In essence, the ideal date day also depends on how smooth you are in managing the logistics of meeting to work in your favor of bringing her home and having fun with her after you do whatever you do.

If you have a choice between a coffee at 7pm on a Saturday but she HAS to go out with her friends at 10pm that same Saturday, yet happens to have all of Sunday afternoon free, I'd go with Sunday unless you already have it in the bag on Saturday and she is the type of girl that's okay with missing her friends to spend time with you. You'll know the latter based on how intent she is to spend time with you that Saturday, for instance.

Ozz thanks for your response but yes obviously it depends on all those factors. I was hoping people would make the not too wild assumption that she has average hours(9-5) and logistics I covered in my post

 

[Grand Pooba]

Ozz thanks for your response but yes obviously it depends on all those factors. I was hoping people would make the not too wild assumption that she has average hours(9-5) and logistics I covered in my post

Haha maybe it was a too obvious answer =P. I apologize for that, I thought this was a more general question.

Anyway, in your specific case this is how I would handle it:

- Build comfort and interest on Wednesday evening but don't go for the kill that night UNLESS you see she really wants you two to "hang out more" and then go to her place that night and stay over at hers. Or maybe frame it as wanting to see what her room looks like (harder to pull off because it's inherently less safe for her). An issue with this also might be if she has homework to do after she sees you on Wednesday evening.

- If you defer on Wednesday after meeting her and succeed in building her interest to see you again, utilize date compression and later on invite her to your side of the woods on the weekend (date #2) but make sure you understand what her time limitations are (i.e. she has a party that night) and build the date around that. Nothing to complex, maybe a small outing where you show her something cool in town followed by a movie at your place to "chill." Then make your move on home turf.

 

[girlsfollow]

Ozz thanks for your response but yes obviously it depends on all those factors. I was hoping people would make the not too wild assumption that she has average hours(9-5) and logistics I covered in my post

Haha maybe it was a too obvious answer =P. I apologize for that, I thought this was a more general question.

Anyway, in your specific case this is how I would handle it:

- Build comfort and interest on Wednesday evening but don't go for the kill that night UNLESS you see she really wants you two to "hang out more" and then go to her place that night and stay over at hers. Or maybe frame it as wanting to see what her room looks like (harder to pull off because it's inherently less safe for her). An issue with this also might be if she has homework to do after she sees you on Wednesday evening.

- If you defer on Wednesday after meeting her and succeed in building her interest to see you again, utilize date compression and later on invite her to your side of the woods on the weekend (date #2) but make sure you understand what her time limitations are (i.e. she has a party that night) and build the date around that. Nothing to complex, maybe a small outing where you show her something cool in town followed by a movie at your place to "chill." Then make your move on home turf.

Cool response ozzo

I actually got her back to my place on that first wednesday date! It was a long way and it did let things cool down so wasnt ideal but it was that or just let the date end early - I felt like pushing the boat. BUT she came back and she was resistant to sex, we made out got naked on top but then her trousers wouldn't - she said it was her period - but I fingered her from behind and I dont think I felt a pad...anyway she is still good over text. Now the same kind of question arises when to meet her next....