I'd fear that PUA might head towards becoming a house-hold term, within a certain age group. If someone said PUA to me, my first thought would be to pretend that I don't know what it is. I like to think that GC is rare, and even somewhat exclusive... in comparison to that other pua site(that most of them gravitate towards). The advice given here is more realistic. But when I read posts that stereotype and give out about women, I often wonder, if there's a female equivalent of girlschase??? I'd like to hear if they've devised any opposite and equally intelligent strategies of how men behave, etc.
I like to think it's rare, because it makes you wonder, how good is it knowing certain strategies, if everyone else knows them too? But then again, if you were to take one of the simplest PUA strategies, of this whole idea of how showing a girl that you're investing too much of your time in her is not attractive to her. This strategy is a way of beginning the attraction. The interesting thing about this one, is that you don't even need to be good with girls to adapt it. There may be many other difficult things to learn when it comes to attracting girls, but this is one of the basic things that anyone should be able to get right. Yet a huge number of guys don't and give girls the power on this one.
I DO understand the need for PUA though, because it's hard for some guys. Yet I also understand to stigma associated with it. In spite of the fact that the survival of our species depends on it, there is no guide to it like there is everything else, like learning Physics, Golf or Horse riding! And any advice given on it is simplified and vague, for something that is so emotionally complex. Yet there is the stigma to studying it. For example, I know a guy who was raised predominantly by a single mom, and with two sisters. Add to this, he was short, less than average looking, and perhaps not the brightest. For a guy like this, there is no one to spell out certain obvious things about getting girls, that you'd take a decade to realise by yourself. And if you miss out on girl experience when growing up, it's NOT good. The other thing about guys in this situation, is that any moves they finally make often prove counter-productive to their improvement. I think that a lot of these big PUAs, with all the boot camps and so on that they hold, are just embarrassing our gender... especially given that the advice is counter-productive nerds-guide-to-get-laid stuff. We all know who's getting seduced there!
The thing is, that although I've talked about girl issues with other guys(as everyone does), thing about PUA with them would be different Obviously, a lot of people know about it, as I've seen online. But one's impression of how common something actually is, is often based on whether or not you've heard about it by word of mouth. And I've never actually talked, or heard other guys talk about this PUA thing that's come into play in the last decade. I assume though, that most of them have heard of it, and that some of them might frequent it online. Which raises the question of how many girls are aware of it.
I presume less girls are aware of it than guys, or at least that they've(having heard of it) naturally forgotten about it, and therefore aren't aware of how big it actually is. Of course they're going go on to the PUA sites, and have a read of the posts first time they hear about it. But then, I'd assume, that due to not following it on a regular basis, that they'd naturally sort of forget about it. And therefore, several months later, when the same girl is picked up at a bar, she might just assume that the guy in question ISN'T someone regularly reads PUA!
There's even a lady out there(who by coincidence is hot) who coaches guys to get with women. I forget what her name is now, but she's probably the only one. What sort of confused me about this, was what does she think when she's attracted to a man. What does she think when a man is acting alpha? When she's talking to a hot man, is she attracted or just bored of watching what she views as techniques. If I was trying to attract her, it would definitely make me paranoid as to whether I'm acting to good or not? Yet another main issue that I've become aware of recently. I tend to imagine what if it's the case that this girls knows about PUA.
Apologies for saying PUA too much! Hate saying it. But my main question is, how much of a social stigma is there to analysing/learning how to seduce women, as opposed to just being a natural.
I like to think it's rare, because it makes you wonder, how good is it knowing certain strategies, if everyone else knows them too? But then again, if you were to take one of the simplest PUA strategies, of this whole idea of how showing a girl that you're investing too much of your time in her is not attractive to her. This strategy is a way of beginning the attraction. The interesting thing about this one, is that you don't even need to be good with girls to adapt it. There may be many other difficult things to learn when it comes to attracting girls, but this is one of the basic things that anyone should be able to get right. Yet a huge number of guys don't and give girls the power on this one.
I DO understand the need for PUA though, because it's hard for some guys. Yet I also understand to stigma associated with it. In spite of the fact that the survival of our species depends on it, there is no guide to it like there is everything else, like learning Physics, Golf or Horse riding! And any advice given on it is simplified and vague, for something that is so emotionally complex. Yet there is the stigma to studying it. For example, I know a guy who was raised predominantly by a single mom, and with two sisters. Add to this, he was short, less than average looking, and perhaps not the brightest. For a guy like this, there is no one to spell out certain obvious things about getting girls, that you'd take a decade to realise by yourself. And if you miss out on girl experience when growing up, it's NOT good. The other thing about guys in this situation, is that any moves they finally make often prove counter-productive to their improvement. I think that a lot of these big PUAs, with all the boot camps and so on that they hold, are just embarrassing our gender... especially given that the advice is counter-productive nerds-guide-to-get-laid stuff. We all know who's getting seduced there!
The thing is, that although I've talked about girl issues with other guys(as everyone does), thing about PUA with them would be different Obviously, a lot of people know about it, as I've seen online. But one's impression of how common something actually is, is often based on whether or not you've heard about it by word of mouth. And I've never actually talked, or heard other guys talk about this PUA thing that's come into play in the last decade. I assume though, that most of them have heard of it, and that some of them might frequent it online. Which raises the question of how many girls are aware of it.
I presume less girls are aware of it than guys, or at least that they've(having heard of it) naturally forgotten about it, and therefore aren't aware of how big it actually is. Of course they're going go on to the PUA sites, and have a read of the posts first time they hear about it. But then, I'd assume, that due to not following it on a regular basis, that they'd naturally sort of forget about it. And therefore, several months later, when the same girl is picked up at a bar, she might just assume that the guy in question ISN'T someone regularly reads PUA!
There's even a lady out there(who by coincidence is hot) who coaches guys to get with women. I forget what her name is now, but she's probably the only one. What sort of confused me about this, was what does she think when she's attracted to a man. What does she think when a man is acting alpha? When she's talking to a hot man, is she attracted or just bored of watching what she views as techniques. If I was trying to attract her, it would definitely make me paranoid as to whether I'm acting to good or not? Yet another main issue that I've become aware of recently. I tend to imagine what if it's the case that this girls knows about PUA.
Apologies for saying PUA too much! Hate saying it. But my main question is, how much of a social stigma is there to analysing/learning how to seduce women, as opposed to just being a natural.
