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So I'll try to make this short. I'm 28, did 7 years in the Army, finishing up an engineering degree right now. For the last 6-7 years of my life, I have been in back to back long-term relationships, including a 3 year marriage. I just recently broke up with my gf of 2 years a few weeks ago.
I have never had a problem, once I work up the nuts to talk to various girls, to leave with phone numbers. I studied the Paul Janka method a couple years back, during a short period where I was single, and got really good at number closing; I honestly don't remember the last girl that told me no when I went for their number. Minimal time investment, get the number, and get the fuck out.
Thing is, as easy as this has become, it almost never goes anywhere. I don't know if I don't build up enough rapport, or what the deal is, but those who do respond to initial texts kinda fizzle off, and I feel like a tryhard for even maintaining communication past that point.
Out of the women I've slept with in life, almost all of them have taken little effort compared to some of the things I read on these sites. Some were average, some were gorgeous; the super hot ones I kept around and dated. But I think this spoiled it for me.
Instead of using the "Law of Least Effort," I think I got into the habit of "Path of Least Resistance," and I got pretty lazy with the flirting, seduction, rapport-building, etc. So coming out of the woods after 2 years in a LTR, I'm starting to see serious flaws in how I interact and close with women.
Once I have someone in my place, in person, I almost always have no problem. So what I am looking for here would be advice on closing that gap. Once you have the digits, how do you keep interest, how do you relate to the girl, how do you make her feel like you are adding value to her life, to get her to meet up for a drink or somethin when you just spoke for a few minutes?
Thanks fellas
I have never had a problem, once I work up the nuts to talk to various girls, to leave with phone numbers. I studied the Paul Janka method a couple years back, during a short period where I was single, and got really good at number closing; I honestly don't remember the last girl that told me no when I went for their number. Minimal time investment, get the number, and get the fuck out.
Thing is, as easy as this has become, it almost never goes anywhere. I don't know if I don't build up enough rapport, or what the deal is, but those who do respond to initial texts kinda fizzle off, and I feel like a tryhard for even maintaining communication past that point.
Out of the women I've slept with in life, almost all of them have taken little effort compared to some of the things I read on these sites. Some were average, some were gorgeous; the super hot ones I kept around and dated. But I think this spoiled it for me.
Instead of using the "Law of Least Effort," I think I got into the habit of "Path of Least Resistance," and I got pretty lazy with the flirting, seduction, rapport-building, etc. So coming out of the woods after 2 years in a LTR, I'm starting to see serious flaws in how I interact and close with women.
Once I have someone in my place, in person, I almost always have no problem. So what I am looking for here would be advice on closing that gap. Once you have the digits, how do you keep interest, how do you relate to the girl, how do you make her feel like you are adding value to her life, to get her to meet up for a drink or somethin when you just spoke for a few minutes?
Thanks fellas
