Over-Providing Good Feelings ,and Changing Personality

[daniel.yesh777]

Hey everyone , this subject is something i have struggled with ever since i started getting serious about changing attitude towards dating and sex. If you would have asked me to define how i act next to girls most of the time, i'd tell you that id be the kind of character who is very playfull, talks to everyone , smiles alot and makes alot of funny one liners (kind of that self deprecating humor,that chase mentions alot), and interesting stories ,and im not saying im one of those guys who wonts stop talking , actually im really working on keeping it cool and have been getting compliments about my good energy , but I DO get enthusiastic alot .When i talk to a girl there is almost always a good friendly flirtatious kind of vibe going , and she laughs at my jokes and slaps my arm when im teasing her , but just like chase says in "over-providing good feelings" I made her feel good enough for providing her needs from me , so she isn't attracted to me sexually. So My point is ,that on the other hand I Really LOVE being enthusiastic and friendly , and working on becoming that manly kind of subtle character is making me behave unnatural and forced ,bottom line I think there is somekind of way to continue to be who i am and still get girls into bed , i just dont have experience enough to tell myself how to do that. so thank you for reading this post, and youre welcome to give your advice ,Daniel.

 

[Thedoctor]

daniel,

It can be almost impossible to change yourself from being a "high energy, enthusiastic, friendly guy" to a "low energy, mysterious, sexy seducer." Instead of trying to change everything about your personality. I would just focus on changing the "friendly" part. A guy can be high energy and enthusiastic and still give off a sexy vibe. Everyone has different styles. A friend of mine is very high energy and outgoing and still does quite well with girls.

My advice would be to try to incorporate a bit more "sexy," and less "friendly" into your overall image. Don't worry about changing the rest of it. That way, you'll get results quicker, it will come off more natural since it's less jump, and you'll probably enjoy yourself more.

Just remember to be sexy, move fast, and don't miss your escalation windows (a quick search on the main site will have articles explaining all of these, if needed).

-John

 

[BarryS1]

It can be almost impossible to change yourself from being a "high energy, enthusiastic, friendly guy" to a "low energy, mysterious, sexy seducer." Instead of trying to change everything about your personality. I would just focus on changing the "friendly" part. A guy can be high energy and enthusiastic and still give off a sexy vibe. Everyone has different styles. A friend of mine is very high energy and outgoing and still does quite well with girls.

I've come to terms with this realization as well because I started the same way. No matter how hard I try being serious with a girl, my high-energy personality will "pop up" eventually. This has happened during every FWB situation, I'll start bouncing off the walls with enthusiasm after the 3 or 4th date. I don't think the high-energy will ever go away, but in the meantime I am focusing on mastering all the Chase's tactics and techniques!