Overcoming bitter ness once and 4all

[Foreveranonymous]

Hi every once. For quite some time right now I have been bitter chocked with this feeling to almost anyone I meet. It's like immediately I see someone I associate a negative thing to them immediately.this has cost me to withdraw from,making friends at a very high degree.I have read chases article on bitterness but I fear my case is to complex and I feel I need a stronger remedy. Also it's like my body has gotten addicted to it and it's harder for me to overcome it.I think the cure might be talking to everyone but some people have told me that it's like I'm about to cry and I feel like crying even though I don't want to.I feel my body is trying to communicate to me but we don't know how to solve it. Any contributions will be h ighly appreciated.thanks

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hi every once. For quite some time right now I have been bitter chocked with this feeling to almost anyone I meet. It's like immediately I see someone I associate a negative thing to them immediately.this has cost me to withdraw from,making friends at a very high degree.I have read chases article on bitterness but I fear my case is to complex and I feel I need a stronger remedy. Also it's like my body has gotten addicted to it and it's harder for me to overcome it.I think the cure might be talking to everyone but some people have told me that it's like I'm about to cry and I feel like crying even though I don't want to.I feel my body is trying to communicate to me but we don't know how to solve it. Any contributions will be h ighly appreciated.thanks

I don't think you are bitter. Perhaps you have met a lot of people whom you weren't able to understand, and maybe there was a lot of personality clashes. Maybe you have also have the lack of support from friends and family and importantly, yourself. I feel that here you are trying to tell yourself what you need, but you actually reluctant yourself. What do you really need? Don't hold yourself back, take time and write down what you need, exactly, in your life. When you in peace with yourself, learn the skills from the blog here and apply it to find friends and people that can help you rebuild your life as much you help build theirs.

That will help.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Student-

You could be addicted to feeling like a victim / feeling like it's you vs. the world. Maybe you've simply learned to base your identity off of being an outsider.

If that's the case, I don't think you can ever really remove the part of you that identifies with being an outsider, but you can gradually fade out its impact on your overall personality. The biggest thing is just meeting more people. I wouldn't worry about being told you were about to cry - just keep meeting people and talking to them anyway. The more you meet, the greater your exposure becomes, and the less new people impact you emotionally in anyway.

Just think of it as a process of dulling your emotions via exposure. If people are having a negative impact on you now, just get around them often enough that that impact disappears. After a while, you may even find you enjoy being with people... or at the very least, the bad feelings have faded away into nothing.

It all comes down to experience and exposure. The people with the most extreme emotions are the ones with the least real experience and exposure. If you want to rid yourself of extreme emotions - just start upping those other two.

Chase

 

[trashKENNUT]

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People might need this.

Zac