Overproviding good feelings during conversation

[TheWiseFool]

Is it possible to overprovide good feelings during conversation? Both you and a woman are connecting on so many topics, you get that, "Where have you been all my life?" feeling and suddenly she doesn't want to lose you or these good feelings you are providing her and boom.... you lose the lay... I read Chase's thread on this, but I wanted a more in depth explanation. I guess my main question is how will you know if you are overproviding good feelings during a conversation?

- The Wise Fool

 

[Franco]

TWF,

Is it possible to overprovide good feelings during conversation?

It is definitely possible. As a matter of fact, I got this same feeling on the first date with my current girlfriend, so I can give you some advice here: as soon as you start to notice this feeling creeping up on you, recognize it and mentally tell yourself it is happening. It's very easy to get carried away in great conversation that isn't leading the interaction toward sex, so you want to recognize it as soon as possible because it's actually a good thing and it probably means you have great chemistry with the girl. HOWEVER, it can also throw you off your game.

So when you recognize it, focus on your fundamentals. No matter where the conversation goes, you want to make sure your eye contact is still sexy, your body language is still sexy, your voice is still sexy, and your entire vibe is still sexy. It's extremely easy for you to "pop" out of sexy mode when a girl starts making a connection with you because you start getting a little too happy, and that can wreck your vibe. You absolutely must stay sexy in your body language through the entire date. Once the date is over, you also want to proceed as normal; this means inviting the girl home as if she was just any other girl.

One thing I'd like to take a moment to mention here that should be emphasized more is just how much inviting a girl home on the first date does for you. When you invite a girl home on the first date after having a great date, this will actually be her thought process, "whoa, I really like this guy, but does he like me? He just tried inviting me home like I'm just some girl who's easy! Well, ha! That's not going to happen! He is going to need to invite me out again first!"

...and even if she declines going home with you on that first date, she's already solidified in her mind that she needs to convince you that she's worth a second date, unlike all the OTHER girls you invite home on the first date, right?

So, always invite a girl home on the first date, regardless of her caliber. It tells her MUCH more about your value than you even realized!

- Franco

 

[TheWiseFool]

Thanks so much for clearing this up for me. I was thinking ahead of myself prior to proposing a meet up with a girl and wanted to avoid overproviding good feelings, as I have many times in the past.

even if she declines going home with you on that first date, she's already solidified in her mind that she needs to convince you that she's worth a second date, unlike all the OTHER girls you invite home on the first date, right?

So, always invite a girl home on the first date, regardless of her caliber. It tells her MUCH more about your value than you even realized!

Well I can't argue with that logic! Awesome advice!

It's extremely easy for you to "pop" out of sexy mode when a girl starts making a connection with you because you start getting a little too happy

Very true... very very easy for me, especially cos people I become fond of are rare.

Thank you again!
-The Wise Fool