Owning Up To Your Nervousness?

[Native]

Hey everybody,

I was watching a 21 Convention video on Youtube. Essentially it's a gathering of PUAs who are speaking at seminars, and I watched one by this guy Dharam...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PjA-tj_d4bo

It's an hour long... but there's a point (at around 7 minutes) where he talks about owning up to how you feel.

If you're nervous tell her, if you draw a blank tell her... if you wanted to talk to her because you thought she could be your next girlfriend tell her...

How do you guys feel about this?

 

[Marty]

Yes, and it's even more powerful if your body language is saying the opposite, that you are confident and self-assured. But this can only happen if you've done enough approaches to develop that vibe.

Being a little self-effacing with your words whilst your nonverbals display dominance is a very powerful tool in the arsenal. In the article How to Be Smooth with Girls Every Time, Chase links to a video of Val Kilmer in the movie The Saint: a scene in a church crypt in Oxford where Kilmer says he's "not good with people" after giving the opposite impression in the way he speaks with the young girl, played by Elizabeth Shue.