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So, let me set the scene. I have Saturday off for a change, so I have more energy than last time. I have my Airbnb booked which is about 1 mile away from the club.
I get there for just before 2230 which is what my ticket stipulates.
I walk over the bridge past the uni blocks and I see a 3 set coming out of the front door of one of them. I think "not now, the timing is a bit awkward and there will be plenty of approaching opportunities when I get to the club!". They are dressed up as sexy little devils.
It is quite busy and a lot of young hotties to begin with, but I don't want to seem weird approaching them too soon. I am standing in the line and a guy who is already in there offers to shake my hand and calls himself a friendly crack head
So that lightens my mood and helps me get into a more social mood.
Then behind me two sturdy black American chicks wearing boob tops (which attract me) show up and I ask them "where are you guys from," they say Texas, they are here as students. I am standing in the line so I don't want to make it awkward, so I just leave it at that.
We go through the line and the ID checks and searches then have to wait to have the tickets checked on the app.
A blonde comes in the reception lobby where we are all crowded and I say "Hi" to her, surprisingly, she doesn't reply weirdly and says "Hi" back. So far, so good, but it is the start of the night. The calibrated thing to do would be to talk to her more inside the venue but I really have no idea how I would screen for interest. From her conventionally attractive appearance, I don't think I would stand much hope with her anyway. But having a system in place would be good.
I get into the club and stand around the bar, splitting my time between a small round table with a few chairs around it and standing around the bar area.
The chap who described himself as a friendly crack head is back and being sociable with me and chatting. It seems, he is a cool guy which is good, but I must not get distracted with male interactions, so my next step is to start female interactions. However, I do chat with him until he says he is going. I see him later in the smoking area, I think he is leaving and offers me to come with, but I deny his offer as tonight is a night in the club for me.
I see a 2 set of girls standing together near the dancefloor but they do look very young so I don't go for it. Instead, I speak to a young Indian guy and ask him if he is there alone or with friends, he says they he knows some people there. He didn't want to say he was alone which was fair enough, I know some wisdom suggests not to admit that.
By this time, I know I need to start a female interaction which is the exact reason I am here.
I see a 3 set of girls on the dance floor and ask one of them if she is at uni. She says no, but seems mildly talkative and asks me back if I am at uni. I joke by saying my uni days are well over, unfortunately. It's quite flattering at soon to be 36 to still be passable as a uni student, though! This will happen multiple times throughout the night, being asked if I am at uni.
Actually, I think this is the 3 set I see on my way to the club and they are literally coming out of the accommodation blocks next door. It would be a strange lie to make, that's for sure. Maybe they are suspicious of me being a creep if they noticed me walking past on my way? Who knows, or maybe I am mistaken.
I can't remember anything else that was exchanged but it is early in the night and I am just trying to get going so I am not pushing the sets all the way. I am able to manage a slight smile rather than a grimace tonight, but I can say 1/2 through the night after many rejections it eventually faded. But because I had more energy due to not working that day and having the Airbnb, I was still able to remain upbeat during approaches.
I can't remember the exact order of events throughout the night so I will just write memorable interactions here, headed in bold.
American guy
I go into the smoking area and scan for targets. I decide I will speak to a couple of lads standing outside and there is this one lad who has a very middle class look to him. I say to him "You're definitely a uni students aren't you. You have a very middle class look to you, not like most of the chavs in this club". He laughs and says yes and we get into it, chopping it up.
As I am in this interaction, we become a 3 set and this loud American guy comes chiming in, now, I can see why the Americans have quite a confident and loud reputation.
Now he talks and we get onto subjects, I ask him "US nightlife Vs UK nightlife" and he says it's not too dissimilar and says my small approaching city would be comparable to a "college town" in the US. We both agree that it is the only town on the region with anything going on, until you get to the mighty London.
We chop it up some more until he leaves and the energy of the set dies down, the two guys who I originally started the conversation with say they have to go to the restroom. So now I go from being part of a 4 set to standing on my own in the smoking area.
I am drawing a blank immediately after that interaction, so I will just jot down other memorable approaches.
I see a lot of girls dancing and the times I have tried to approach whilst they are dancing always get an annoyed reaction. Nonetheless, I try a couple of dancing sets and as usual they move away or try to get me to move away.
Dracula kid and his girlfriend in the smoking area
I start an open on this young guy dressed as Dracula and say "You look like the Adam's family" but now I realised it was Dracula. Anyway we chat but I can't remember about what. His girlfriend has some input but I can't remember what it was either. Anyway, it is my 3rd or 4th male "set" which is really need to open conversations with more female sets. But it helps get the social skills flowing!
3 set coming out from the smoking area
I think after the American guy interaction and the Dracula kid interaction, there was this 3 set dressed like pirates, I use my "Can I give you a compliment" opener on the 1st one, she replies with "I have a boyfriend", the 2nd one just says "No" and the 3rd one blanks me. It is not pretty at all, these chicks don't want to know me.
A guy sees this and says "bro, you need to have fun". He is not challenging me for approaching, however, just suggesting that I cut myself a break after getting rejected 3x in a row. He says "you are just like me, you see, you go" and we do the "broshake" with vertical hands.
I actually don't see him later that night, but it would have been cool to chat to him as he sounded like he was on a similar mission.
Accidently approach club employee
I see this black British chick dressed very sexily wearing a very skimpy outfit. I approach her and ask if it would be okay to give her a compliment. She says yes so I say "you look good" and she says thank you.
Later on, I realise that she actually works there as I see her and another chick ferrying bottles on pitchers back and forth.
I often try to avoid staff approaches as it can cause trouble if they think you are a creep.
"Over the wall" dancefloor approach
The best approach from the night was this slim petite black girl on the dancefloor whom I had my eyes on but thought (might have been told young to respond positively) whom I leaned over the wall and said "Hey I think you look absolutely gorgeous" she was grateful and even gave me a token hug over the wall. I believe she was Nigerian, she had an accent when she spoke. That's what I like about eastern women, they are very feminine. There is no way an English woman would respond like that! I saw her later in the night as well but wasn't sure what to do after that as my ego wanted to keep the memorable of the only positive reaction from the whole night.
2 Set dancing approach
I also saw a 2 set of very pretty, petite middle class looking English chicks dancing the whole night with one another, at some point I approached one of them but she was not receptive, they just kept on and on and on dancing. In general, it seems that they are interested in alcohol, drugs (maybe what fuels their dancing) and dancing. Men don't really come into it.
I kept seeing this 2 set throughout the night and they were just dancing together over and over.
I was hoping to catch them in the smoking area and try a proper approach but they stayed in the dance floor seemingly indefinitely.
Chick might have "opened" conversation on the dancefloor
I can't remember what happened here, but a group of "new girls" come in and the majority of them hit the dancefloor. They have a "local" look, these local looking girls are the ones I do the least well with and normally ignore me completely.
But one of them, a little chavy blonde one, seems to hang back for whatever reason and say something to me, I can't even make out what it was.
So I respond with "aren't you dancing with your friends" and she says something which I can't hear.
I think she says something like "I don't know the words or "don't you know the words". But a couple of more attempted interactions occur and I think she eventually says something like "you're weird mate" and moves to another part of the dancefloor. I am pretty sure she tried speaking to me first, but I don't know. It was just an unusual interaction and unexpected.
3 set glow in the dark dress compliment
Back downstairs I was at the bar and I noticed this chick wearing a glow in the dark dress showing her nice petite boobs somewhat but she was facing away from me so I couldn't approach her.
Then she shows up on the dancefloor with her two friends, I'm pretty sure one of them is a transexual, because she is suspiciously tall and has a somewhat masculine face.
Anyway, I compliment her glow in the dark dress as she is dancing, she says thanks but nothing more. I think the group move away soon after.
I just can't get anything done on the dancefloor, it seems. At least it was a relevant compliment, I guess.
2 set approach petite brunette and taller blonde
This 2 set was too young for me to really be successful, they looked like typical local estate 18 year olds, at some point I asked the brunette if it would be alright to give her a compliment but she couldn't or didn't want to hear. I then see them again sat on chairs, so I attempt talking to the taller blonde this time, I am pretty sure she is deliberately ignoring me.
After a few seconds this other guy chimes in and starts talking to her, she responds to him but I hear "something something we've both got relationships", which seems unlikely. What are these chicks doing in the club if that is the case. But anyway, I don't stand a chance with these types of girls which is clearly evident. At least they spoke to the other guy!
Sturdy chick came out of nowhere and attempted "grind" on me
This is rare, but I was standing outside the dancefloor on the walkway area and this "fat but fuckable" local looking chick comes out of nowhere and says "Heeeey" and attempts a grind on me. I have read about this technique but I have no idea what to do and even if I did, it seems vulgar and inappropriate as there are other people there. Anyway, she goes back to a table with a couple of guys on it whom I can hear laughing so I think they might have put her up to it as they recognised a lone creep not getting any action!
2 chicks in the smoking area
Near the end of the night, I see these two girls a sturdy blonde and a sturdy brunette wearing boob tops (which I find attractive) with boobs nearly falling out. I don't do the approach at first, I circle around and then come back as they are still there.
I ask them how their night has gone and they say "not good" or something to that effect. I say something like "Oh, why is that".
The brunette didn't hear, she says she is deaf. For a moment, I think she is messing with me and doesn't want to talk to me because she thinks I'm a creep who has approached too many girls that night.
But then I realise from her speech that she is in fact deaf. She says that no one took her fancy in the club.
So it looks like this 2 set were out looking for D. And by the sounds of it, I didn't take their fancy either.
By this point near the end of the night, I am feeling socialable and in a giving mood as I have put the work in so I am content with myself.
So I reassure her (the deaf brunette) that it is just a case of putting herself out there. I leave the interaction on that. I don't think she was too attracted to me and it would seem a bit of a low hanging fruit. But maybe I need to allow myself to be a bit more willing to…capitalise, let's say?
I am missing a few approaches, they were probably ambiguous on my part because the girl either couldn't hear me or was deliberately ignoring me. But I definitely put volume in last night.
Attempting to mingle with chicks in the dancefloor and also sitting outside like a pimp watching the action
A big part of the night for me is getting in amongst the action on the dancefloor. This is where the hotties are, but how to open the interaction is often a mystery.
If I put my hand out and try to hold their arms, they often get annoyed and tell me off. I often get the wagging finger and quite cute little annoyed faces made from trying to interact with these chicks when they are dancing.
So often, I just linger around bobbing my head, which I know is not good, but at least it puts me in the proximity of them. There is always the fear, that due to not being able to hear one another and misunderstanding, that they will involve security and I will be asked to leave.
This has to be balanced with making a bold enough approach so that they actually notice you.
I also do a lot of people watching and seeing how the males and females interact. A lot of it is dance based which I can't do. They like to sing along and role play some of the songs, acts of that nature.
It's not straightforward enough for me to pull off. I like something more binary. Approach, get accepted or rejected. Move to the next set.
I don't "have fun" as such. My goal in the club is approaching, I treat it like a dojo. But when I can get into a flow of approaching, that is fine.
Another obstacle is chicks hearing me on the dancefloor. I try to remedy this by putting my hands either side of my mouth to emphasise my voice projection but then I am limited to shouting openers like "Hi" to a whole group and then breaking down the sentence like "Hi" then "Nice dress", which I think they find uncalibrated and annoying.
Other observations from the night
I think my total female approach count was between 10 and 15, although I did make the mistake of not keeping count in my head tonight.
I had quite a few male interactions, a few more which I didn't even document here. I have a lot of male interactions which seem pretty easy, but female interactions remain a mystery.
The longest interactions I had were with other males, female interactions were a couple of sentences and 30 seconds at most.
I notice a lot of these chicks do not seem approachable at all. They move between areas, often "towing" one another by the hands with a steely look of determination on a resting bitch face like they are on a life or death assignment. I can't say I notice them looking around or interested at all.
I also can't believe some people do this every week at the same venue. It's like, they are going to start noticing that you come alone, go in there to approach the females and then leave alone and start singling you out as a potential troublemaker, I am sure of it.
Not just that, but the sleep deprivation and disruption to routine patterns can't be healthy. And that is assuming you do not drink alcohol!
Reapproaching after being rejected
Something else I am unsure of is reapproaching after being rejected. A common scenario is that I am so afraid of accidentally reapproaching and the girl getting scared and complaining to security then being kicked out.
Or even when the result of the approach was ambiguous, like the girl couldn't hear what I was saying or pretending she couldn't hear what I was saying. Like is that okay then to reapproach?
How to approach
One thing I was doing, was doing a "physical" approach, of putting my hand on the girl's shoulder or on their arm, which was going well, because at least it got they're attention and showed my interest, but that resulted in a couple of incidents which has made me shy away from doing it. As technically it could be classed as an assault if the girl gets annoyed enough to complain.
I know I mentioned this last time but I could really do with some better openers, particularly for when they are dancing.
Approaching age range
I've gotta say, the majority of girls I approached last night, I simply wouldn't approach during the day. The more sturdy ones, yes, but the petite ones I simply wouldn't be able to run the mental calculations in a matter of seconds to figure out if they were early to mid teens or late teens to mid 20s, the exception to that being the campus where I know they were at least 18. So one of the good things about night game is that it does put you in proximity of age verified younger women, removing a big obstacle and allow to go approach a broader age range as you need as much of a broad spectrum as possible to maximise the numbers game.
More blowouts towards the end of the night
There are various factors which might affect this, but I definitely notice towards the end of the night the blowouts increase and the ignoring seems to increase as well. Even by the middle of the night, I am getting blanked a lot.
I do wonder if the girls have noticed me hanging around and approaching as my main activity, rather than "having fun", but approaching is my fun.
It starts feeling really pointless towards the end of the night so I usually just end up people watching unless girls are standing somewhere that they can hear me.
Also by this time a lot of girls are engaged and chatting within their groups, which is pretty unapproachable. Not just in a group, but chatting with their backs turned towards me. No way in without being uncalibrated.
Interesting anecdote on my walk back
When I am walking back to the Airbnb, I walk past Mcdonald's, which is open 24 hours, and there were legions of young people sitting outside on the benches stuffing this garbage down and leaving mountains of rubbish everywhere. I really hate how people do this and it gives me a disgusted feeling at the consumerism and waste produced, not to mention how horrible the food is.
Anyway, as I walk past these legions of young people, I hear a girl exclaim "Oh, it's that man". Maybe I ruffled a few feathers that night, but that tells me that at least I did something to be memorable.
I put the work in and I am proud of myself for last night. I was actually feeling a bit down this morning after it but writing this field report has shown me that I was really proactive.
That is going to be my last night in the club for awhile, actually. I am a long way off getting any results from it and I do find it quite unpleasant. I also can't sleep in the gym anymore either so that means I need to splash out on an Airbnb each time as the last bus leaves at 2315.
I have a coaching consultation call booked for tonight with a nightgame specific coach so that will allow me to go over my sticking points when they are fresh in my mind.
Needless to say, getting laid with these types of girls in this chaos is a long way off.
I get there for just before 2230 which is what my ticket stipulates.
I walk over the bridge past the uni blocks and I see a 3 set coming out of the front door of one of them. I think "not now, the timing is a bit awkward and there will be plenty of approaching opportunities when I get to the club!". They are dressed up as sexy little devils.
It is quite busy and a lot of young hotties to begin with, but I don't want to seem weird approaching them too soon. I am standing in the line and a guy who is already in there offers to shake my hand and calls himself a friendly crack head
So that lightens my mood and helps me get into a more social mood.Then behind me two sturdy black American chicks wearing boob tops (which attract me) show up and I ask them "where are you guys from," they say Texas, they are here as students. I am standing in the line so I don't want to make it awkward, so I just leave it at that.
We go through the line and the ID checks and searches then have to wait to have the tickets checked on the app.
A blonde comes in the reception lobby where we are all crowded and I say "Hi" to her, surprisingly, she doesn't reply weirdly and says "Hi" back. So far, so good, but it is the start of the night. The calibrated thing to do would be to talk to her more inside the venue but I really have no idea how I would screen for interest. From her conventionally attractive appearance, I don't think I would stand much hope with her anyway. But having a system in place would be good.
I get into the club and stand around the bar, splitting my time between a small round table with a few chairs around it and standing around the bar area.
The chap who described himself as a friendly crack head is back and being sociable with me and chatting. It seems, he is a cool guy which is good, but I must not get distracted with male interactions, so my next step is to start female interactions. However, I do chat with him until he says he is going. I see him later in the smoking area, I think he is leaving and offers me to come with, but I deny his offer as tonight is a night in the club for me.
I see a 2 set of girls standing together near the dancefloor but they do look very young so I don't go for it. Instead, I speak to a young Indian guy and ask him if he is there alone or with friends, he says they he knows some people there. He didn't want to say he was alone which was fair enough, I know some wisdom suggests not to admit that.
By this time, I know I need to start a female interaction which is the exact reason I am here.
I see a 3 set of girls on the dance floor and ask one of them if she is at uni. She says no, but seems mildly talkative and asks me back if I am at uni. I joke by saying my uni days are well over, unfortunately. It's quite flattering at soon to be 36 to still be passable as a uni student, though! This will happen multiple times throughout the night, being asked if I am at uni.
Actually, I think this is the 3 set I see on my way to the club and they are literally coming out of the accommodation blocks next door. It would be a strange lie to make, that's for sure. Maybe they are suspicious of me being a creep if they noticed me walking past on my way? Who knows, or maybe I am mistaken.
I can't remember anything else that was exchanged but it is early in the night and I am just trying to get going so I am not pushing the sets all the way. I am able to manage a slight smile rather than a grimace tonight, but I can say 1/2 through the night after many rejections it eventually faded. But because I had more energy due to not working that day and having the Airbnb, I was still able to remain upbeat during approaches.
I can't remember the exact order of events throughout the night so I will just write memorable interactions here, headed in bold.
American guy
I go into the smoking area and scan for targets. I decide I will speak to a couple of lads standing outside and there is this one lad who has a very middle class look to him. I say to him "You're definitely a uni students aren't you. You have a very middle class look to you, not like most of the chavs in this club". He laughs and says yes and we get into it, chopping it up.
As I am in this interaction, we become a 3 set and this loud American guy comes chiming in, now, I can see why the Americans have quite a confident and loud reputation.
Now he talks and we get onto subjects, I ask him "US nightlife Vs UK nightlife" and he says it's not too dissimilar and says my small approaching city would be comparable to a "college town" in the US. We both agree that it is the only town on the region with anything going on, until you get to the mighty London.
We chop it up some more until he leaves and the energy of the set dies down, the two guys who I originally started the conversation with say they have to go to the restroom. So now I go from being part of a 4 set to standing on my own in the smoking area.
I am drawing a blank immediately after that interaction, so I will just jot down other memorable approaches.
I see a lot of girls dancing and the times I have tried to approach whilst they are dancing always get an annoyed reaction. Nonetheless, I try a couple of dancing sets and as usual they move away or try to get me to move away.
Dracula kid and his girlfriend in the smoking area
I start an open on this young guy dressed as Dracula and say "You look like the Adam's family" but now I realised it was Dracula. Anyway we chat but I can't remember about what. His girlfriend has some input but I can't remember what it was either. Anyway, it is my 3rd or 4th male "set" which is really need to open conversations with more female sets. But it helps get the social skills flowing!
3 set coming out from the smoking area
I think after the American guy interaction and the Dracula kid interaction, there was this 3 set dressed like pirates, I use my "Can I give you a compliment" opener on the 1st one, she replies with "I have a boyfriend", the 2nd one just says "No" and the 3rd one blanks me. It is not pretty at all, these chicks don't want to know me.
A guy sees this and says "bro, you need to have fun". He is not challenging me for approaching, however, just suggesting that I cut myself a break after getting rejected 3x in a row. He says "you are just like me, you see, you go" and we do the "broshake" with vertical hands.
I actually don't see him later that night, but it would have been cool to chat to him as he sounded like he was on a similar mission.
Accidently approach club employee
I see this black British chick dressed very sexily wearing a very skimpy outfit. I approach her and ask if it would be okay to give her a compliment. She says yes so I say "you look good" and she says thank you.
Later on, I realise that she actually works there as I see her and another chick ferrying bottles on pitchers back and forth.
I often try to avoid staff approaches as it can cause trouble if they think you are a creep.
"Over the wall" dancefloor approach
The best approach from the night was this slim petite black girl on the dancefloor whom I had my eyes on but thought (might have been told young to respond positively) whom I leaned over the wall and said "Hey I think you look absolutely gorgeous" she was grateful and even gave me a token hug over the wall. I believe she was Nigerian, she had an accent when she spoke. That's what I like about eastern women, they are very feminine. There is no way an English woman would respond like that! I saw her later in the night as well but wasn't sure what to do after that as my ego wanted to keep the memorable of the only positive reaction from the whole night.
2 Set dancing approach
I also saw a 2 set of very pretty, petite middle class looking English chicks dancing the whole night with one another, at some point I approached one of them but she was not receptive, they just kept on and on and on dancing. In general, it seems that they are interested in alcohol, drugs (maybe what fuels their dancing) and dancing. Men don't really come into it.
I kept seeing this 2 set throughout the night and they were just dancing together over and over.
I was hoping to catch them in the smoking area and try a proper approach but they stayed in the dance floor seemingly indefinitely.
Chick might have "opened" conversation on the dancefloor
I can't remember what happened here, but a group of "new girls" come in and the majority of them hit the dancefloor. They have a "local" look, these local looking girls are the ones I do the least well with and normally ignore me completely.
But one of them, a little chavy blonde one, seems to hang back for whatever reason and say something to me, I can't even make out what it was.
So I respond with "aren't you dancing with your friends" and she says something which I can't hear.
I think she says something like "I don't know the words or "don't you know the words". But a couple of more attempted interactions occur and I think she eventually says something like "you're weird mate" and moves to another part of the dancefloor. I am pretty sure she tried speaking to me first, but I don't know. It was just an unusual interaction and unexpected.
3 set glow in the dark dress compliment
Back downstairs I was at the bar and I noticed this chick wearing a glow in the dark dress showing her nice petite boobs somewhat but she was facing away from me so I couldn't approach her.
Then she shows up on the dancefloor with her two friends, I'm pretty sure one of them is a transexual, because she is suspiciously tall and has a somewhat masculine face.
Anyway, I compliment her glow in the dark dress as she is dancing, she says thanks but nothing more. I think the group move away soon after.
I just can't get anything done on the dancefloor, it seems. At least it was a relevant compliment, I guess.
2 set approach petite brunette and taller blonde
This 2 set was too young for me to really be successful, they looked like typical local estate 18 year olds, at some point I asked the brunette if it would be alright to give her a compliment but she couldn't or didn't want to hear. I then see them again sat on chairs, so I attempt talking to the taller blonde this time, I am pretty sure she is deliberately ignoring me.
After a few seconds this other guy chimes in and starts talking to her, she responds to him but I hear "something something we've both got relationships", which seems unlikely. What are these chicks doing in the club if that is the case. But anyway, I don't stand a chance with these types of girls which is clearly evident. At least they spoke to the other guy!
Sturdy chick came out of nowhere and attempted "grind" on me
This is rare, but I was standing outside the dancefloor on the walkway area and this "fat but fuckable" local looking chick comes out of nowhere and says "Heeeey" and attempts a grind on me. I have read about this technique but I have no idea what to do and even if I did, it seems vulgar and inappropriate as there are other people there. Anyway, she goes back to a table with a couple of guys on it whom I can hear laughing so I think they might have put her up to it as they recognised a lone creep not getting any action!
2 chicks in the smoking area
Near the end of the night, I see these two girls a sturdy blonde and a sturdy brunette wearing boob tops (which I find attractive) with boobs nearly falling out. I don't do the approach at first, I circle around and then come back as they are still there.
I ask them how their night has gone and they say "not good" or something to that effect. I say something like "Oh, why is that".
The brunette didn't hear, she says she is deaf. For a moment, I think she is messing with me and doesn't want to talk to me because she thinks I'm a creep who has approached too many girls that night.
But then I realise from her speech that she is in fact deaf. She says that no one took her fancy in the club.
So it looks like this 2 set were out looking for D. And by the sounds of it, I didn't take their fancy either.
By this point near the end of the night, I am feeling socialable and in a giving mood as I have put the work in so I am content with myself.
So I reassure her (the deaf brunette) that it is just a case of putting herself out there. I leave the interaction on that. I don't think she was too attracted to me and it would seem a bit of a low hanging fruit. But maybe I need to allow myself to be a bit more willing to…capitalise, let's say?
I am missing a few approaches, they were probably ambiguous on my part because the girl either couldn't hear me or was deliberately ignoring me. But I definitely put volume in last night.
Attempting to mingle with chicks in the dancefloor and also sitting outside like a pimp watching the action
A big part of the night for me is getting in amongst the action on the dancefloor. This is where the hotties are, but how to open the interaction is often a mystery.
If I put my hand out and try to hold their arms, they often get annoyed and tell me off. I often get the wagging finger and quite cute little annoyed faces made from trying to interact with these chicks when they are dancing.
So often, I just linger around bobbing my head, which I know is not good, but at least it puts me in the proximity of them. There is always the fear, that due to not being able to hear one another and misunderstanding, that they will involve security and I will be asked to leave.
This has to be balanced with making a bold enough approach so that they actually notice you.
I also do a lot of people watching and seeing how the males and females interact. A lot of it is dance based which I can't do. They like to sing along and role play some of the songs, acts of that nature.
It's not straightforward enough for me to pull off. I like something more binary. Approach, get accepted or rejected. Move to the next set.
I don't "have fun" as such. My goal in the club is approaching, I treat it like a dojo. But when I can get into a flow of approaching, that is fine.
Another obstacle is chicks hearing me on the dancefloor. I try to remedy this by putting my hands either side of my mouth to emphasise my voice projection but then I am limited to shouting openers like "Hi" to a whole group and then breaking down the sentence like "Hi" then "Nice dress", which I think they find uncalibrated and annoying.
Other observations from the night
I think my total female approach count was between 10 and 15, although I did make the mistake of not keeping count in my head tonight.
I had quite a few male interactions, a few more which I didn't even document here. I have a lot of male interactions which seem pretty easy, but female interactions remain a mystery.
The longest interactions I had were with other males, female interactions were a couple of sentences and 30 seconds at most.
I notice a lot of these chicks do not seem approachable at all. They move between areas, often "towing" one another by the hands with a steely look of determination on a resting bitch face like they are on a life or death assignment. I can't say I notice them looking around or interested at all.
I also can't believe some people do this every week at the same venue. It's like, they are going to start noticing that you come alone, go in there to approach the females and then leave alone and start singling you out as a potential troublemaker, I am sure of it.
Not just that, but the sleep deprivation and disruption to routine patterns can't be healthy. And that is assuming you do not drink alcohol!
Reapproaching after being rejected
Something else I am unsure of is reapproaching after being rejected. A common scenario is that I am so afraid of accidentally reapproaching and the girl getting scared and complaining to security then being kicked out.
Or even when the result of the approach was ambiguous, like the girl couldn't hear what I was saying or pretending she couldn't hear what I was saying. Like is that okay then to reapproach?
How to approach
One thing I was doing, was doing a "physical" approach, of putting my hand on the girl's shoulder or on their arm, which was going well, because at least it got they're attention and showed my interest, but that resulted in a couple of incidents which has made me shy away from doing it. As technically it could be classed as an assault if the girl gets annoyed enough to complain.
I know I mentioned this last time but I could really do with some better openers, particularly for when they are dancing.
Approaching age range
I've gotta say, the majority of girls I approached last night, I simply wouldn't approach during the day. The more sturdy ones, yes, but the petite ones I simply wouldn't be able to run the mental calculations in a matter of seconds to figure out if they were early to mid teens or late teens to mid 20s, the exception to that being the campus where I know they were at least 18. So one of the good things about night game is that it does put you in proximity of age verified younger women, removing a big obstacle and allow to go approach a broader age range as you need as much of a broad spectrum as possible to maximise the numbers game.
More blowouts towards the end of the night
There are various factors which might affect this, but I definitely notice towards the end of the night the blowouts increase and the ignoring seems to increase as well. Even by the middle of the night, I am getting blanked a lot.
I do wonder if the girls have noticed me hanging around and approaching as my main activity, rather than "having fun", but approaching is my fun.
It starts feeling really pointless towards the end of the night so I usually just end up people watching unless girls are standing somewhere that they can hear me.
Also by this time a lot of girls are engaged and chatting within their groups, which is pretty unapproachable. Not just in a group, but chatting with their backs turned towards me. No way in without being uncalibrated.
Interesting anecdote on my walk back
When I am walking back to the Airbnb, I walk past Mcdonald's, which is open 24 hours, and there were legions of young people sitting outside on the benches stuffing this garbage down and leaving mountains of rubbish everywhere. I really hate how people do this and it gives me a disgusted feeling at the consumerism and waste produced, not to mention how horrible the food is.
Anyway, as I walk past these legions of young people, I hear a girl exclaim "Oh, it's that man". Maybe I ruffled a few feathers that night, but that tells me that at least I did something to be memorable.
I put the work in and I am proud of myself for last night. I was actually feeling a bit down this morning after it but writing this field report has shown me that I was really proactive.
That is going to be my last night in the club for awhile, actually. I am a long way off getting any results from it and I do find it quite unpleasant. I also can't sleep in the gym anymore either so that means I need to splash out on an Airbnb each time as the last bus leaves at 2315.
I have a coaching consultation call booked for tonight with a nightgame specific coach so that will allow me to go over my sticking points when they are fresh in my mind.
Needless to say, getting laid with these types of girls in this chaos is a long way off.
